If yes then How.... if No then how do i move on????
2006-09-26 16:13:41 · 18 answers · asked by just-me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO, NO and NO you can not trust him again! You said he cheated twice, well that's two times too many for me. As for moving on, you just do it. You've been with him for ten years and you're afraid to move on because you're afraid you won't find anyone else, afraid of being alone, so you're staying in a bad situation. You have to face up to your fears and insecurities - that's what's holding you back.
I noticed you didn't mention that you loved this man - that tells me a lot. You really are afraid to be alone; more afraid of being alone or not finding someone else than of staying in an unhappy relationship. And by the way, if there isn't any trust, then you don't have a relationship. You deserve so much better and never believe or accept otherwise. Don't cheat yourself!
2006-09-26 17:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Scottie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can ever say that when you give him back your trust, he will never cheat on you again. But if you really love him, you may give him another chance and hope that he will no longer be an infidel to you.
I know some men who really were womanizers before but just because their wives/girlfriends always stood by their sides and understood them for being men, they are now very loving and faithful men. We'll never know if your man belongs to that brood of men.
Perhaps, another chance will work to your advantage because he may see those loving and understanding virtues in you if you give him a chance.
Give him back your trust and love him more. Show him that you really care for him despite his cheating on you before. Let's just hope that he will change for the better because if he does not, that's the time that you should search your heart and soul if you really can live up with him with his womanizing escapades.
So, I would say, give him another chance and just cross the bridge when you get there. What I mean is, when you give him a chance and he cheats on you again, do what your heart will dictate by that time.
At the end, if he proves not worthy of your trust anymore, you may let go. Then, move on with grace and faith in your heart that Destiny will do his share in bringing to your path the man whom you truly deserve and who deserves your tears. But wait! I didn't say that it's impossible to be him because if you and your man of ten years are really meant for each other, Destiny will move towards your being in his arms once more where both of you will live happily ever after, just like in fairy tales.
2006-09-26 16:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't trust him again. When he cheated the first time, he probably said something like "I promise I will never do it again." But what happend? He cheated again.
I think your better than that, you deserve a man that respects you and is there for you 24/7. Not a man that cheated on you TWO times. Theres a man out there for you, but not the cheater.
2006-09-26 16:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by exxohh<3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you can trust him again. You need to move on and I'm sure you know that to. You'll be able to move on once you start realizing how much you deserve to be treated better. It'll also help when you start to hate him for what he did to you. Think about all the times he lied to your face, the betrayal. You forgave him once, but he still screwed you over. You deserve a man that is loyal, not this @$$.
2006-09-26 16:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's showing a pattern so no. And that's probably only 2 that you found out about. More than likely there are more. You just have to force yourself to stay away from him. Confide in a good friend and start a new hobby that keeps you busy. when your ready start dating again but stay away form him. He has already proved to be untrustworthy. You don't want to end up with some disease because of his fooling around. If you decide to stay with him demand that he wear a condom when he is with you.
2006-09-26 16:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even have only found out my husband cheated on me earlier we've been given married. It hurts greater suitable than if it grow to be modern-day. U sense stupid and fool for not understanding for consequently long. it extremely is only not an identical. its been 10 years, yet nonetheless, he did it. And if u dont have confidence him, dont marry him. I stay in a hell because of the fact of that, i will by no skill have confidence my guy lower back, and u could by no skill have confidence yours. U be attentive to what to do.
2016-10-01 10:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered a similar question a few minutes ago...sorry if this is another version of your own post.
I always say "cheater once, cheater always".
Move on...all you have to do to move on is remember the circumstances that made you move on.
Not only is it emotionally traumatizing, he's exposing you to diseases with each partner he cheats with.
2006-09-26 16:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt, i would move on. it isnt worth being with someone that broke your heart, if it was easy for him to do it once , what makes me think he wont do it again. i say leave him and focus on yourself. thats how you move on, keep in mind that he cheated on you and he was with another girl behind your back. you let him get away with it once and now he has a second chance he knows you will give him more chance and next time he knows what to say now.good luck.
2006-09-26 16:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn trust him again as he echeated twice which means that he might cheat again and again.
2006-09-26 17:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by Smart_Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. change the locks, get a restraining order, a court date for divorce proceedings, a good lawyer, and THEN tell him. sorry. more 'goal oriented' than emotional. and gregsta and I (the 2 guys) are in agreement. no he will cheat again. he may be sneakier next time and you may not catch him, but he'll cheat.
2006-09-26 16:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋