We met via chat, and have developed a very close friendship through years of phone and IM conversations. Our friendship has always seemed to be leaning towards something more, and we say "I love you" to one another every time we speak, if not many times each conversation. The dilemma is that we have tried to arrange meetings previously, and they have always fell through on both ends because of circumstances outside of our control. We aren't especially far apart, maybe an hour and a hald drive, it is just that every opportunity was complicated by some outside force. At this point, I am single and she has a boyfriend that she says she loves, and that she loves him nearly as much as she loves me. It is completely confusing, because I thought I was the one she wanted and he came along and now I want her to be happy, but I also want her for myself. It hurts knowing she is with someone else, but I am also happy that she has found someone that she is happy with. Any helpful advice?
2006-09-26 16:08:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess I wasn't clear on some points- I have had other girl friends during these 6 years, and she has had other boyfriends but we have always loved each other despite the other people in our life. The circumstances that have prevented our meeting are various, ranging from broken down cars to over bearing parents that would fly into a rage if they knew their daughter was meeting up with a guy she met on the internet. She can't exactly tell her parents to go eff themselves either because she has no place else to go.
2006-09-26 16:46:56 · update #1
Six years? A little over an hour is not far at all. I live in the suburbs and most people I interact with make that commute if not more every day to work "five" days a week.
I wonder why your nor her ever truly made the effort to make it work. (See each other etc...)
Did you ever ask your self if perhaps you enjoyed having the distance between you both with no commitment?
It's great that you're happy for her, "as she should be". Reality is, it would have never worked out.
It was a matter of time before she or your self found someone else to share a common interest with, even more so when you can't be "physical"with one another.
Either you take that drive and see her "SOON", or just say good-bye for good.
2006-09-26 16:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are only 90 minutes apart. That is nothing. Outside forces or whatever should not keep two people from one another time and time again..especially after "six" years. You need to let this one go. Quit fantasizing and get out there in the real world. You'll meet someone.
2006-09-26 23:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is so complicated .. first of all , you have to ask urself is she the one ? would u like to wake up beside her 10 years later ? if she is , then u shouldn't give up ... but don't make ur move now , she has a boyfriend and they're inlove ... so do ur job as a close friend of her , talk to her and let her know how much u care about her own life and how much you want her to be happy , she 'll get it coz girls get these kinds of signs ... but i insist you shouldn't tell her anything about ur feelings towards her currently coz she'll be so confused and she may end up by not talking to you ... so be patient , be her friend for a while and who knows what will happen next ?? i wish u all the luck ...
2006-09-26 23:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by chocolate 90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to be stronger than all the circumstances around you and find the way to meet with her.After that you have to both sit down and talk about it.This is not a phone or chat conversation.Then it will be alot easier to decide what you guys need to do.If she decides to stay with her boyfriend,than don't be on the way, and don't waist your time.
Good Luck to you man!!!
2006-09-26 23:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by nataliya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years and you're only an hour and a half away? That's nuts! Well if you really love the girl and think you two could have a chance if you tried...go find her,surprise her....but you gotta remember she DOES have a bf. I dno, I'd take the risk...if it's worth it to you,do it!
2006-09-26 23:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell her how you feel and find out exactly what her feelings are...however, try not to get involved with her since she is already apart of relationship as things could get more complicated than they already are. But do tell her how you feel and let fate decide...from there!
2006-09-26 23:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an hour and a half isn't far at all. you need to go and meet her. see if your feelings are the same when you are face to face
2006-09-26 23:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you, i realy do. i had the same problem, (but not for 6 years) i suggest talking to her, face to face. but if she is still more attached to her bf then let her go, there are more fish in the sea, go get'em
2006-09-26 23:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by lp073 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this was a relationship that was never meant to be.
2006-09-26 23:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has a boyfriend dont ask her out cause it could mess up your friendship
2006-09-26 23:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by jesso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋