I have recently taken custody of my neice. We normally used to only see her maybe 6-8 times a year since she lived so far. Anyways I have a 9 year old girl and 6 year old boy. They seem to be jelouse of her, even though I show her the same affections and my own children. They do horrible things to each other and yell and scream every day. Got any suggestions........
2006-09-26 16:06:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
tell your son and daughter you love them so much. explain that you still have a lot of love left to love your niece and that loving her will not diminish your love for them. and tell them the fights makes you really sad. and if they love you too, they will try their best to behave to make you happy. try to insert that God wants us to love one another, if they can grasp the context of God. tell them God see everything that they do. that works for my children. good luck!
2006-09-26 16:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold a mini meeting with all three and explain why you have custody of your niece. Secondly tell them that you love them all equally and would love to see them get along. You won't tollerate jelously, nor screaming matches/aurguing. Give them time to settle down, like everything new this is one of the hardest to do and settle. I'd suggest for you to read a book by: Nancy Martin Rouse, title is Kids of Custody publisher: Rainbow Ridge Kids
Also do a search on amazon.com for some great books for you and your children learning how to cope with a new child in your family. Good luck, J
2006-09-27 00:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly understandable why your 9 & 6 yr old are acting the way they are. Did you ever consider your kids' feelings before you decided to take custody of another child. Granted, I feel bad that your neice's parents, for whatever reason, do not want her or can not have her, but is it really fair to your kids to have to share their mother with their cousin?
Sorry, don't have any suggestions....
2006-09-27 00:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by pidpit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just like with a newborn baby in the house, it can take a month or more to completely adjust. If you are going to treat her like your daughter, maybe help them understand that she is going to be their cousin and their sister now and you love them all equally. I hope your children come to understand that she can be their friend and not a reason to be jealous.
2006-09-26 23:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time. Let them work out their probs. do not step in unless someone is getting hurt. They will work it out!!!
2006-09-26 23:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋