I am curious and need a feedback on this one ..please give me your honest opinion.
2006-09-26 15:54:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My first thought was, "Only if it's me!" But you want a serious answer. I think you are asking for trouble if you do that. It isn't a question of whether it's OK or not. It's a question of whether anything good for you will come of it.
I don't know how old you are, but, if you're 20 y/o that means that he is 54y/o. You are at completely different life stages. If you are younger than 20 y/o the problem is even worse. At each life stage we have different tasks to accomplish. At 20 y/o, your life task is to create a financial base of support and to establish a meaningful relationship with someone of the opposite sex that may lead to marriage.
At 30 y/o for a woman the task is to be married and start having a family. Feminists may disagree, but if you aren't 30 y/o yet you will experience it when you get there. A man 34 years older than you is only interested in you for sex and to recapture a feeling of being young again. I'm 63 y/o and know about this from studying this in books and from personal experience.
If he is interested in you for a meaningful relationship, that means he is extremely immature and afraid of women. He feels less afraid with a woman much younger than him.
Maybe you are only interested in him for sex and companionship. What if you fall in love with him? That's always possible when you're having a satisfying sexual relationship with someone. What a mess that would be. If you married him and you're 20 y/o, in 20 years you'll be 40 y/o and he'll be 74 y/o!
I don't know why you are attracted to him, but you will only have problems if you date this man.
2006-09-26 16:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Sammy_k said, How old are you? That is were the difference might matter. If you are extremely younger than 34 there is a problem if not then as someone else has said here age is just a number.
2006-09-26 23:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by netta_11213 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I dated a guy 34 years older than me, he'd be 85. So no, it would not be ok for me... not even at my age!
2006-09-26 22:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you an adult? I'll take that as a yes.
Does he make you happy? Oh good, another yes.
Now what was that silly question again? Oh yeah, something about making an adult decision to be happy. Hey look at this, three time yes equals, go date and be happy...
2006-09-26 23:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it depends on what point in your life you two are at. if its the same or nearly the same then i say go for it. but if he is looking to settle down, no kids, just kind of relax and you want kids want to live life a little more then i'd say it probably wouldn't work out.
just don't base it all on age. you know how they say age is just a number.
2006-09-26 22:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
34 years older is a really big difference! But if you like him.
2006-09-26 23:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
age should not be a barrier for love.....but it depends on your ages if you are 16 and his 50 then thats just not right if you are 35 and he is 69 then thats ok as both are adults and consenting maturely............................34 years the difference is a huge generation gap...i think it would be hard to have alot in common
2006-09-26 22:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you really like someone, age is unimportant. My boyfriend is 39 years older than me.
2006-09-26 22:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
34 years older!!!!!!!! NOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That's just wrong on so many levels it's scary.
He's gonna die before you hit menopause. He'll die before your children (if he's up to the task) are in high school!
No!
2006-09-26 23:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by mariomccloud 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are mature enough.He probably will not enjoy your friends if they are very young.And again you may not enjoy his mature friends.There are a lot of variables,but it could work.Best of luck.
2006-09-26 23:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by pretzgolf 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋