My bf and I been together for about 9 month, we met at work I love him so much and he told me he loves me form the first day he seen me and he want to be with me for the rest of his life, however we are very different he is very getto family, he lives with his brother and I live at home my family are very classy. Anyway I am in school he is not and we both work in a department store which we don’t get paid a lot, so he talking about he want us to live together, and I said no not yet because i don’t have a lot of money and we are not going to be able to pay for a lot of stuff he is talking about 800 mortgage with out electric and I make 300 a week and he makes about 2.50 a week but he is not understanding he thinks that I didn’t want to move in with him and I try to explain to him but he doesn’t get it at all. He doesn’t want to wait for me to get out of school and he want to marry me and give me a ring but he is not sure if I am going to stay with him I MEAN I don’t know if he should even say this to me because if u love someone u will stay with them no matter what!!! He talks about u never know what is going to happen tomorrow he just wants it to happen right away. I need to to make him understand I need help?? WHAT IS GOING ON
2006-09-26 15:45:44 · 10 answers · asked by sweet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he just loves you way TOO much that he wants to live w/ you already. but you should tell him that you two can`t support having your own house/appartment. you could show him how much you would love to live w/ him but just let him know that your still too young and that you`re not ready yet. no matter what happens. happens ! so good luck =]
2006-09-26 15:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby I am 56 and here it is I have experienced life and am going to tell u like it is. Here is your future (if you go onward to college) He will never go beyong mimiom wage now if you get a high paying job then u will be the PROVIDER and he will be flipping burgers. That is if he stays there. Marriage is a love relationship and a union of goals. I have 2 daughters and if they had that situation I would say the same. I have worked in a steel mill for 35 years and those women that married non goals men did not LAST. I would cool it with the guy get an education for if you don't get an education then 10 years from now u will have some kids and u both will be barely getting by. Wait never rush into anything and get the education for life makes no promises and if you r happy at just existing then do what he wants. Remember u get one chance in life and if u blow it the GAME OF LIFE IS OVER.Get married etc. around 25 for don't blow your future. What is nice now isn't latter. Get an education first for most familes are 2 paycheck families. Good luck remember never rush into anything think it over.
2006-09-26 23:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by spook12spook12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answers, I can tell by what you've said. You just need to listen to your good sense talking to you. Run, don't look back and expect only the best for yourself in the future and don't ever settle for less! One other thing I've learned, make life decisions with your head, not your heart. This is a hard one for women to practice because we've been socialized to be caretakers, nuturers, loving and sacrificial. These are all admirable traits, but FIRST and foremost, apply these traits to yourself! Take care of yourself, nuture yourself, love yourself. Any sacrifices you make can be ones that will benefit YOU in the long term. One day, the right person will be attracted to you because you will be happy and confident! It's better to be on your own than in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.
2006-09-26 22:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by Em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i undestand perfectly what is going on, i have been through the same thing. the reason why your boyfriend is acting like this is because he does not want to lose u, he feels that since u are going to school you will be attracted to another guy, basically to him stiff competition, reassure him everyday that u both are going to get married but not at this time, to make him stop asking set a very long date Ex. january 2009 that should quiet him down for a bit for u to think of both ur future.
2006-09-26 22:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by jada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, tell him it's not going to work that way. For one, you'll have to point out that maybe, as much as you love each other, economic stress takes a lot out of a loving relationship.
Tell him ot get a better job if possible. Talk to him. If he loves you, surely he doesn't want you to suffer.
2006-09-26 23:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love has no time limits, he is trying to pressure you into moving forward way to fast and your not ready to yet. just tell him how its going to be, that your not ready for all that yet, if he sticks around till you are ready then you will know how he truely feels for you, if he moves on let him go. dont ever do anything your not ready for or want to do. take your time. if he moves on you will know he isnt in the relationship for the same reasons you are. good luck.
2006-09-26 22:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him this "i want to live with you, but its not the right time, i want the best for us and our future family...it wont work if we're not financially ready.... dont you want that too?" you are right, you guys arent ready to live with each other. he might just want to get out of his bad neighborhood and thats why hes so impatiant. just tell him to wait it out and be patiant. if he cant be patiant about this then its not going to work out. you guys arent ready to move in with each other, it will only make you argue even more because now you'll have money to argue over.
2006-09-26 22:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to pressure you into doing something you are not ready for-recognize that-and be strong-stick to what you know is best for you-if he loved you truly he would want what is best for you both-if he won't look at the money side now-imagine when your broke?
2006-09-26 22:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and hash out figures with him. If you love him enough to hang in there, tell him that you do. Just tell him you are trying to be grown up about it.
2006-09-26 22:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly loves you he will wait for you for his entire life if not he will find another women. if he doesn't wait he really doesn't love you.
2006-09-26 22:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by true-mysteryfrom chinese wish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋