Because I do not agree with till death do us part I mean what if I want to upgrade..my question is will we still be legally married
2006-09-26 15:43:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I hope you mean vows...
Either way, yes you would still be legally married. You can always write your own vows..
2006-09-26 15:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by chokingmeup 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will depend entirely on the officiant you've chosen and their policies or their church's policies on wedding vows.
Some officiants are happy to let you write your own vows and they won't force you to make any promises you're not interested in actually keeping. Others have a standard set of vows that you MUST make if you're going to be married in their tradition, period.
Legally, all you have to do is sign the application for a marriage license and find someone authorized to witness the license itself. A legally binding marriage contract has no " 'till death do us part" clause, if it did there would be no divorce.
Ask the officiant if s/he'll change the wording. Many modern couples are now going with "... as long as we both shall love".
Good Luck!
2006-09-27 12:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kya Rose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can write your own vows using all the vowels you want. If you don't agree with til death you could write something like, til I find someone better or I get bored. What ever you write make it special, how about I will stay with you unless you get fat and ugly and I can't even get an erection when I look at you. I'm sure the person you marry will think that is romantic and love you even more for being honest. Try it and let us know how that works for you.
PS. God did not make marriage.
2006-09-26 22:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by al p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually you are asked the Question of Intent which includes the "til death us do part" even if you repeat other vows. You need to find an officiant that will go along with what you are requesting. Maybe a Pagan or Humanist might suit you.
How does your intended feel about you wanting him until something better comes along?
Personally, I think you should skip the ceremony. Live together; what you're wanting is not a marriage.
2006-09-27 00:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, your VOWS that are said during the ceremony do not make you legally married. Being LEGALLY married is just paperwork.
But if you dispute the vows during the ceremony, the officiant won't finish the ceremony, so the paperwork will never be signed and submitted, and you won't be married at all. Which might be the best thing for both of you.
2006-09-27 10:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can write any vows you wish or have no vows at all.... You can have the officiant just say "Do you
The marriage is official as long as you and your intended and your witnesses and the officiant all sign the certificate.
More importantly though, if you love your intended enough to marry them why would you refer to "upgrading" as if they are only a piece of hardware? Perhaps you should think your motives over more than your vows.
2006-09-27 02:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I didn't agree to all the vowels, either - I objected to "O", and everything turned out okay.
Actually, you need to talk to your minister about that one. Would you rather include the vow - like, till we get sick of each other? Or till I wanna divorce him?
2006-09-27 05:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe you should leave that part out if you feel that way, in the eyes of the church your vows are sacred. But if you go into a marriage assuming that you will want to upgrade maybe you should rethink things.
2006-09-26 22:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Til death due you part is VERY important. You are saying this is the man for you: today, tomorrow, sixty years from now. How about as long as you both shall live?? you are legally married no matter what you say. but i think it should be included in all VOWS.
2006-09-26 23:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could ask the pastor to leave that vow out if you would like. But technically it is true because if your spouse passes away you can get married again without any paperwork! Just so you are aware (I know that sounds bad, but it is true) You are not legally married if he passes away you are a widow. So, you can either ask him to leave that vow out so you don't say it or you could say it because it is true.
2006-09-27 10:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋