PLEASE HELP!! i also have a 11 year old son to worry about ,that is why my daughter ,my husbands step daughter,can't stay here, shes on drugs and mean ,angry ,nasty language and depressed but refuses help.i have been through depression and am finally better,i agree she is not ever gonna come here to live,the11 yr old he adopted we have married6 yrs HELP
2006-09-26 15:29:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What is the problem? It sounds like everything is taken care of. The pregnant brat daughter is out of the house (she made her bed let her lay in it) Forget her and get on with your little family. I have no problem kicking bad people out of my life. They will only drag you down.
2006-09-26 15:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well considering you can't help someone like that unless they want help all you can do is protect your son. If your husband can't understand that then this will be his problem. Your first priority is to your son. After all your son is still a child and they are both adults.
If it were me I would explain to your husband that you understand his need to stand by his daughter and hope that he will understand your need to protect your son.
This doesn't mean your marriage has to end but you may need to live in separate homes for a while.
I read a few of the responses and I must say there are a lot of fools on here. It is not a parental DUTY to help an adult child. AND if she doesn't want help there isn't anything anyone can do about it anyway. Your priority is to your son, not to some angry, nasty, drug addict that refuses help. Even if she was your own flesh and blood. If she refuses help all allowing her to stay in the home is doing is enabling her addictions and behavior.
AND... if you become her enabler what example are you leading for your son.
AND... there is a BIG difference in overcoming depression and overcoming an addiction. Either way though if a person doesn't want help there is nothing ANYONE can do.
AND... even if you wanted to help you don't have to risk the well being of other children in the process.
Sorry but that had to be said.
2006-09-26 22:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay..im confident you didn t overcome depression all alone on your own..and if you have been there you know you act a lil crayzy from time to time..not everyone but some people absolutly cannot help those tantrums..mayb genetics..mayb not but if you have been depressed and overcame then where is you faith in your own daughter..your own blood.You created you daughter I was the same way when i was a small child until 20years old.clinically i am overcomeing severe depression im bi polar mix and survived an attepmtd suicide.if you abandon your daugther you may do damage.dont close your mind to your family.
2006-09-26 22:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threaten to report your daughter's drug abuse to the police if she doesn't seek help. If your husband is leaving you, there are other problems than the daughter. Consider moving to another state, start a new life, bring the 11 yr old with you if you can raise him better than you raised your daughter. Your son is your responsibility.
Get out of the life you are living today. You have to fight your way out. Nobody helps you.
2006-09-26 22:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ivan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be a little more compassionate. You have been through depression, you should reach out to her and tell her what you went through. You need to also be concerned about the child that she is carrying. Best of luck.
2006-09-26 22:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a recovering drug addict. You have to get rid of her. Encourage her to go for help. Possibly direct her where she can go.
Regardless, she is an adult. On drugs and destroying your household. You are not responsible for her happiness. Make her go and fend for herself. She will thank you one day.
2006-09-26 22:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Shannifanni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is his daughter no matter what. i dont know what else to tell you. if she has problems it is his parental duty to help her. i am not saying her behavior is acceptable, but, sometimes people have problems. have you tried be caring or comforting to her needs? maybe she feels like you have taken her place. i have never been in this situation but my husbands parents have had to make this choice. it hurts his stepmom but she tries to be as patient as possible becase she knows it is wrong for a parent to deny their child their care, no matter how old they are.
2006-09-26 22:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Hurray for the ANGELS! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just walk out
2006-09-26 22:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋