My co-workers have told me that there's this divorced woman (early 40's, but looks YOUNGER), at the office, who seems to find me attractive. This statement has also been claimed by the woman's closest female friend.
The problem is: She's OLDER than I am, but looks good.
However, when I see her, she acts like she there's nothing going on and greets me as if she HAD to. Her closest female friend, though, ALWAYS teases her while I am nearby.
I am very curious whether this all is true or not or whether this could be part of just a joke. How can I find out?
What do you think???
2006-09-26 15:27:31 · 21 answers · asked by R. H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, being an 'older' woman in a city that frequently dates outside of 'normal' guidelines (South Beach in Miami), I would have to guess that she has thought about you, and voiced some of what she has thought to her friends. You have her attention, no doubt, but....she may seem distant for a few reasons: 1) she is uncomfortable with the fact that she is attracted to you, 2) she works with you and has her career and image at stake or 3) she doesn't know how to let you know how she feels.
How can you find out? You have to be subtle and slow. Approach her outside of work, and only when you are alone. At first, go to drinks with her and with other coworkers, and be sure not to pay too much preferential treatment to her in front of others. If she stays a little longer, you should too. Let her work her way in slowly, but let her know, subtly, that you are interested. You never know! It may work!
2006-09-26 15:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by JJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I'm a 20 something old guy and I married a 40 year old woman, I think it could happen the other way too...
2016-03-27 12:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think (and I say this from experience) this might be a matter of her friends trying to hook her up with someone. They could be playing match maker. They may have pointed you out, and she probably said that yes...she finds you attractive, but she may not want to date someone so much younger than she is...who is at a different point in their life. All you know right now, is that her friends do the 'point and giggle' thing when you're around. It sounds to me like THEY are the one's interested in making you two an item. She may have been single for a while, and they think they're helping by 'finding her a date'. I wouldn't put stock into what the friends do. Make general conversation with her, and if you don't get any flirty cues from her...leave it.
2006-09-26 15:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite some co workers that u trust out to shoot pool and dinner, invite her female friend and tell them all to invite who ever they want. If the woman comes than things are looking true reader if you can.
I had the same thing, nothing ended happened but it could of. If you like the way she acts and think she is cute if anything it could be a good dating exp. Don't let age be a bar. Ya its weird to some but hey times are a changin live life and enjoy life, you only have one life
2006-09-26 15:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Cobalt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should not be a barrier in dating, but you guys work together and that may be trouble. If you are looking for a fling, then steer away from a colleague. If you think that there may a serious long term potential, you really have some hard questions to ask yourself. Such as the age that you both will be when your child graduates high school?!! If you can't go there in your imagination, then let her have her fantasy. She isn't hurting anyone.
2006-09-26 15:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any way to find out short of just asking the woman if it is true.
The question is, what do you want? If you don't want to be a part of this then it doesn't matter if it is true or not.
When it comes to affairs in the office however, you run the risk of sexual harrassment so be very very careful of how you interact with these women.
2006-09-26 15:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's a joke, the the woman and her friend need to grow up. You can ask her out to coffee, or a drink and see what happens. However, I have a credo: don't s**t where you eat. Work relationships can become complicated and messy. Is she worth your job?
2006-09-26 15:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by Vee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could ask. But I don't advise it. Office romance/sex is usually a bad idea. It is just too uncomfortable to see each other at the office every day when things go wrong.
2006-09-26 15:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by lollipop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out on a date if she says yes then while on the date ask her if she has feelings for you. I say go for it. Age doesn't matter. My husband is 13 years older than me and we get along great.
2006-09-27 05:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a man and ask her out. going through 3rd parties is immature and spineless. if you two like one another and get along, who gives who is older and by how much? these days, it is hard enough finding someone you are attracted to in all aspects. find out by going to her. good luck.
2006-09-26 15:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋