My brother grew up with my real and and his real mom. He is about 28 and he wants to get married. He is chubby but has a great job and great personality, of which, you wouldnt tell, since he is shy. So, the girls he chooses to date, are always SINGLE MOMS. I dont think thats a good idea becuz he wont be able to be a NEWLYWED in the sense that he has kids, so that would take the joy away.... and the kids are not even his. I grew up with a step dad and it was really hard on me and my little sister. How can I make him understand that he cant keep going for these EASY girls that will right away say yes to him? He has a problem with his self esteem and he was going to get married 8 months ago with a SINGLE MOM but called off the wedding but it seems like he is going backwards instead of forward..... any one else have similiar stories? I need advise
2006-09-26 15:18:22 · 11 answers · asked by Justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok, u all need to calm down. My brother deserves a lot more than a single mom, ok? He needs to pick his women like he picks his cars,.... new. We never buy used
2006-09-26 15:36:23 · update #1
So far, NO GOOD ANSWERS! People get a grip.
2006-09-26 15:58:59 · update #2
Maybe he feels that if he dates a single mom or asks her out,... there is NO WAY she will say no to him. But if thats the case, he is dating them for the wrong reasons. You would assume u learned his lesson with his last relationship. But keep reminding him that he is at a different level and he deserves the Cream of the Crop. Those girls are just troble. If they are single, its for a reason. Remind him to be classy and to find a woman who is more on his level.
2006-09-26 16:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does dating a single mother have to do with the term "newlywed"? That term is for ANYONE who has just gotten married, whether they've had kids, or haven't had kids whether they've been married once, twice or 50 times, they are STILL newlywed when they marry again. Example: A new born baby is a newborn baby whether the mother who gave birth to it has had a dozen children before that baby or none at all. Get the picture.
As for your brother, he is 28 years old, an adult and is capable of making his own decisions regarding HIS life. BUTT out.
2006-09-26 22:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing...maybe he feels more comfortable with a single Mom. Possibly he is more relaxed and the expectations in the relationship are different.
You seem to be projecting your sadness and anger on to your brothers relationship. Maybe he would be a different type of step Dad, he sounds like he's "normal" and a caring person. If this is his choice so be it. I don't think you want to loose your brother over his personal choice. Unfortunately, you didn't get to choose your step Dad. So think what a good Dad your brother would make, ready made kid or not.
2006-09-26 22:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you have a warped since of what life is like. You have no right to tell your brother who he should be dating. At 28, he's going to be dating a child, or a woman with children. You don't have to be easy to be a single mom. Get off your soap box and be happy for him if he's happy.
2006-09-26 22:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jan S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say, for your relationship's sake...stay out of it, and be there to support him if it fails.
Just because you do not feel that life would be good starting out with a baby or child, and not your own, doesn't mean that he would not welcome it with a heartbeat.
Not all single women with children are easy...as a matter of fact, I would wager most are not, unless they're prostitutes trying to get out from under their pimp, you know?
Just be there for him...whether you like it or not, he's 28, he'll do what he d*mn well pleases. Don't let this small thing come between you and him.
2006-09-26 22:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And this is your business because...? He is an adult and can make his own choices and I strongly suggest you mind your own business. You could cause him to lose the love of his life with your meddling. Maybe he loves kids and would enjoy having a ready made family. I hope he has the sense to ignore you because you are getting into matters that don't concern you. Don't you have any problems of your own to keep busy with?
2006-09-26 22:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your brother is this great guy that you claim he is, then the kids who have him for a step dad will be the luckiest kids in the world. And you know how important having a good step dad is.
2006-09-26 22:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by RM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to figure it out for himself. The best thing to do is just be there for him. He's not a little kid. He'll figure it out as he learns from his own decisions.
2006-09-26 22:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no answers but i really do with you the best of luck and you are a very smart woman. but in this day and age what 28year old woman, who is single, doesnt have a kid? and i totally understand what you mean by easy.
2006-09-26 22:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by katiewilliams5 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no one has any similar stories because everyone else isn't trying to boss around there 28 year old sibilings. leave it alone.
2006-09-26 22:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋