he loves me? He loves me? he know's he does not want to be with her and it would not have worked ever yet ...his heart still hurts and he is there for her every call when she is sad and down. I try to understand as we all have a past and we are human but, is it okay to help him past his past if he truly does love me and appriciates my understanding. When I say he should maybe go back to her...he simply denies wanting to and says it is me that he loves truly...he is just still hurting and knows that she is too. Am I being a fool??
2006-09-26 15:13:32 · 7 answers · asked by givemeprivacy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously if he is still speaking to her, there are still feelings. You don't want to be the rebound ... they never work out. Things you need to think about are: reason for their break up; who broke up with whom; length of time they have been apart; how often are the calls; how the calls affect him and how you are affected by the calls
You are the only one that can answer to your situation. I would be leary if there is still a valid connection and if she broke up with him. If this is the case, and she decided that they should give it another go, do you think he would try again? If so, he is not ready to be in a relationship with you. If the phone calls are often, there may be an issue. If they are infrequent, they could truly have a valid friendship and he is supportive of that. Most females have close girl friends to call when they are down. Why is she still calling him? You say he appreciates your understanding - would he appreciate your feelings being hurt by their continued correspondence? He could just tell her that it isn't appropriate for her to call him any longer since he is currently in a relationship. Personally, I would stay clear but you obviously have more details that would help you make a better assessment of the situation.
2006-09-26 15:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by L M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell, but possibly not, if you are spending most of your time with him and are sure of the boundries to which they talk, well sometimes exes decide they are better off as friends and maybe that is why he is there for her, not to get back together but only to help her in the transaction. My ex and I have gone round and round and seems like we always end up not knowing what to do. but it has for 3 years only been as friends. we try not to be in each others life and yet we are not as lovers only as friends but that is hard to convince a new love. Dont give up on him and no you are not being a fool.
2006-09-26 22:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by trip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being a fool. This is fine if you don't mind being the "transitional relationship". He's not ready yet to be involved with anyone. You should call it quits until he's over his ex or you'll just end up hurt when he goes back to her.
2006-09-26 22:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you're willling to wait it out and risk your happiness.... dump him and move on.
Unless she's already solidified in another relationship, he's gonna keep on pining for her. If you really think that the 2 of you have a chance, you have to be patient...
Then again do you really want to be the rebound? it can work but it takes a whole lotta time... and do you want to be his mother and sounding board in the mean time??
Fools are always in love... and lovers are always fools...
2006-09-26 22:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by DIDI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sweetie. If he really loved you, he wouldn't even think about her and definitely wouldn't be running off to see her every time she called. Don't let him get away with treating you like that.
2006-09-26 22:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by Writer of Truth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup
2006-09-26 22:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it simple. You can offer to talk, to be an listening ear- but since there's another woman involved......I would go and meet others.
2006-09-26 22:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋