My Dad and I sometimes fist fight.We always talk about it before we fight,and during the fight if 1 of us start to bleed we quit.If 1 of us just gets tired he says alright lets take a break and we quit.After the fight we ain't never mad at each other and go back to doing whatever we was doing before we started fighting.Is that something that draws us closer or will it push us apart?
2006-09-26 15:01:12 · 24 answers · asked by Desperado 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am 26 so it's not abuse.We both enjoy a good fight and fighting each other lets us have that fight.Sometimes one of us get hurt more than intended but that's a part of fighting.I feal bad when I hurt him and he feals bad when he hurts me.Both we both like fighting and fighting each other in the backyard keeps us out of jail and lets out frustration.
2006-09-26 15:12:43 · update #1
That's awesome if he's letting you hit back and you're hurting him as much as he's hurting you. Don't listen to these liberal douchebags. Fighting is as old as humanity and it does get a lot of frustration out and also teach you to defend yourself. Keep on young warrior!
2006-09-26 15:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by King of Babylon 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
All families work in different ways. Just beware that in the future, your children (or spouse) may not see this kind of activity as you do. If you feel that you are ever out of control or the brink of losing control in the middle of the fight, stop and rethink what you are doing and why. If it's for fun ... that is weird in my neck of the woods. If it's for anger release and tension it problably is the result of a deeper mental issue. Take stock of what you are doing and why. If you need help, please contact a local organization who deals with "domestic" violence adn let them help you find someone you can talk to about the situation. Apparently it is causing you to question the actions so maybe it might be a good idea to go ahead and sit down with someone who can help you sort through your discomfort with the situation.
2006-09-26 22:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by fozbend11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of your answer lies in whether this is the ONLY way the two of you can spend time together. If this type of competition is balanced by other activities, then it could be just part of one way to get closer.
Is there a way you can decide to fight with boxing gloves?? It sounds like you have a lot of mutual respect, and ending up really hurting the other one - by mistake - just leads to guilty feelings. AND it could mean eliminating this activity altogether.
2006-09-26 22:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by katnkaboodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER ok for a parent to fist fight with their child. I'm a mother and no matter how angry my dauthers can make me I'll never hit them like that . Dear that is called abuse and it is VERY a unhealthy relationship. Get help now.
2006-09-26 22:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it goes against everything that I believe about parenting and the kind of relationship parents should have but it seems to work for you guys. So go for it.
Don't pass this on to your child though, you apparently aren't as comfortable with it as you claim or you wouldn't be asking.
2006-09-26 22:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both do it as a game, as i can see in your story, then it will create that unique bond between the two of you. though it sounds weird since i never heard of father and son doing that, it's a good way of recreation for the two of you. it's great. just be sure that that's not your way of expressing your anger or whatever towards each other. just do it for fun or recreation.
2006-09-26 22:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting way of working out your argument. At least you are talking. Not sure I understand why it has to come to fists. As far as a good relationship, I've known of worse.
2006-09-26 22:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by roamin70 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,,, i have two good friends of mine that grew up much the same way,,, they never picked on anyone in school,, and took up for some of us younger boys when the older ones were messing with us...
It may seem unconventional.. but you Dad is helping you.. believe it or not,,,, I wish mine had been a little more rougher on me...
good luck
2006-09-26 22:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure. Just depends if you are really fighting or playing around.
If you are really fighting then it can't be good. If you are just playing around then I don't see what could be wrong with it. Talk to your dad and tell him how you feel if you are bothered by it. If you can't talk to your dad then talk to your mom or another adult you trust.
2006-09-26 22:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by poohbaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gets some boxing gloves, a kidney belt and head gear . Its not something i would want for me and my son to do .
2006-09-26 22:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋