I'm in training to be a cage fighter, but she says I'm too old (35) and too fat (5'10" 205 lbs). I come home with bruises and sprains from my MMA classes -- my co-workers think that I'm a wife beater or bar brawler.
My girlfriend smokes cigarettes and cooks fatty foods -- which make me fat, and the cigarette smoke grosses me out the more I'm around it.
This is really hurting my MMA aspirations. What should I do?
2006-09-26 14:51:31 · 15 answers · asked by psychosolodiver 6 in Sports ➔ Martial Arts
I am twenty nine and just entered my first fight. Keep going. It is better to live a dream than wish you had.
She may not see it as a reality. To help her see it as a reality, do the following things.
1. Keep Training. Don't let her discourage you. eventually she will get the point.
2. Lose 30-40 lbs. When she sees the live style change she will get the point. Losing this weight will be difficult but you can do it. Here is how I did it.
Burn more calories than you eat.
Cut your fat intake.
Eat three cups of fat free low cal yogurt a day (make sure it has live cultures in it) and pineapples. This helps you break down your food.
Do 45-60 min. of aerobic exercise a day (preferably before you eat in the morning). This will attack the fat.
Do 30 min of weight training three times a week. This will build lean muscle which will in turn burn fat.
I lost 40 lbs in two months and have kept it off for two more months doing this. I also took my body fat % from 30% to 14%
Before you enter the ring I would spar with people from other schools and then do an armature fight first. I wish I had. If you have other questions, feel free to email me.
Be Blessed
2006-09-26 16:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by dogpreacher@sbcglobal.net 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well if she can't at least support you in giving this dream a shot, then she's not a girlfriend.
I'd dump her and follow the dream, I mean you're only three yrs older than Matt Hughes or Chuck Liddel, and look where they're at.
I'm 5'7" and 3lbs heavier than you so you're prob'ly in decent shape, and you're gonna get hurt in any training you do, it just comes with the territory.
and all that fatty food and cigarette smoke is just killin you dude, you'd prob'ly do well to cut her loose and do your own thing, by gettin into a better diet and weight training regimen, and a little cardio to boost you up, and with her and her cigarettes gone, that'll definitely be better for your lungs and stamina
So what if your coworkers think that, you don't have to prove anything to them.
do what you wanna do, take a shot, and don't worry 'bout all the bulls**t. you never know unless you try. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-27 01:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1) Talk to her. Explain why you are doing this (why are you doing this).
2) Explain how you feel about it.
3) Cook your own food if you don't like hers
4) Eat Healthy... it is better all around
5) You will probably need to drop weight which should help everything a little.
6) Engage her converstaions...
7) What is her dream? What is yours?
What do you want to be known for, what about her?
Will you support her and vice versa...
Peace.
2006-09-27 12:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by calmman7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about your aspiration than none of this should deter you. If you she does not understand/agree/support your attempts perhaps as a mate she is unhealthy for you. You are already aware that she is physically unhealthy for you.
In general if martial arts are a permanent part of your life and your life partner does not support your involvement in it you really need to reconsider either your training or your life partner.
This is the same with many things in life.
Think things through, communicate your feelings with her. If she does not understand or scoffs at them then perhaps you should reconsider your relationship. If you were trying to accomplish something more mainstream would she react the same?
the training is part of who you are, if someone does not accept that, then perhaps they do not accept you.
I know this advice does not give you warm fuzzy feelings but do you want to live your whole life with someone who does not respect a part of you?
2006-09-27 08:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by spidertiger440 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buddy you are doing what most men talk about for years and never get the balls to do it. Go for a dream. Not everyone may agree with it but who cares what they think. Tell your girlfriend if she doesn't like it get the hell out. She's your girl friend not your wife do you have kids if not get rid of her. In a few months of training you'll be in great shape and you'll have woman better than her wanting to be around you. Besides do you really want to spend th erest of your life with someone who laughs at you and doesn't care about you trying to do somthing for you.
2006-09-26 22:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Judoka 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Get a new girlfriend and maybe grow up as well. Hell I didn't grow up until I hit about 35.
How much money can you make doing a cage fight? Is it worth you getting seriously hurt?
I don't think so. Do something else instead, and send your girl to a healthy cooking class or get a new girl.
2006-09-26 21:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by TG Special 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Very funny. I don't believe a word you're saying.
If things are truly as you describe them then she's laughing at you because you're a moron.
As a moron, you wouldn't really understand an intelligent answer to your question, so I won't give one.
But I don't really think you're a moron. I just don't think this is a serious question. It did make me laugh, though.
So, thanks.
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2006-09-27 01:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by kristi 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Good advice Dogpreacher...
2006-09-27 04:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's probably trying to discourage you because she loves you and doesn't want you to pursue something so dangerous.
2006-09-26 22:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by valpojim621 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
make sure she knows how u feel about her laughing- if it doesn't stop move on- u always want somebody in ur life supporting ur goals and whom values your values
2006-09-26 21:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by nexus2k 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋