I want to throw my sister a bridal shower, and I want it to be unique. She is eloping but I still want her to have a special shower. Tradition goes that you are suppose to have it 2 months before the wedding, but because there will be no wedding is it ok to throw it for her before they elope? Has anyone ever done this? Any ideas would be most helpful!
2006-09-26 14:10:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Nowadays there is no such things as a "traditional" bridal shower. As a professional Event Enhancer, I can tell you that anything go's. You probably know your sister better than anyone else and whatever you choose to do, I'm sure will be appreciated. However, since they are not having an actual wedding, it might be nice to take that into consideration when planning the shower.
Maybe do a his & her's shower- which is more informal than an all girls event. Try inviting some of his friends as well as male relatives... amost like an engagement party... only they will get better gifts ;-)
Or you could ask that everyone invited contribute to their honeymoon fund...
Again, whatever you choose... they'll be appreciative and thankful that you took the time to plan something for them.
Good Luck!
2006-09-26 14:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It would be very rude for her to have a shower, accept gifts at it, and then not invite the shower guests to the wedding itself!
Also, it's not really proper for family members to be hosting a shower for her. It has to be non-family.
But she doesn't get a shower anyhow since she's getting married without guests at the ceremony (not really eloping since she has already told about it-- eloping is done in secret).
Do something else nice for your sister. Not a shower.
2006-09-26 23:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a few showers and the best one I had was a spa shower. It was so relaxing. We had tubs of hot water with bath salt in them it was so relaxing. I loved it. Then they had neck messagers for all of us. We did pedicures and everything!! It was fantastic. I was so relaxed we did this 2 weeks before the wedding and I had a really hectic week it was the perfect week to do it. I think you are right in line to do it before she elopes! Do whatever you feel is best for your sister. You could do a lingerie party if you wanted too!! Good luck!! If you have any questions about my party email me!
2006-09-27 10:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, when people elope, it isn't supposed to be planned. Therefore, no one is supposed to know beforehand. It's like a "surprise, we got married thing!" Sorry, but your sister isn't eloping.
If you throw them a shower, then people will know they are planning on getting married. Also, it is very rude to invite people to a shower and not invite them to the wedding.
If it means a lot to you to throw a shower, please restrict it to only the people who already know she is running off to get married and won't mind not being invited to the wedding.
2006-09-27 15:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have it about a month or two before the wedding. I don't think nowadays bridal showers are traditional anymore. I would still have one. They don't even have to be registered anywhere. If it is a second marriage then it might be different but for a first marriage I would still have one for her. It is up to you.
2006-09-26 21:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by poohbaby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could have it when it is convient for her. I gave my friend a surprise shower (due to circumstances beyond anyone's control it was the only shower she received). I told her it was a tupperware party and she fell for it. She received some nice gifts and had a good time. You could give her a surprise shower within a few weeks of the elopement.
2006-09-26 21:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a day when tradition gets pitched out the back window. Think about your sister--what is her interest--her most fun thing to do--what would make her a day that whe won't forget. You know her and you need to think about this. Is she an outdoor person? Throw a party at a lakeside and have a theme of mermaids and all bring in gifts related to water---Go to a park and use the theme of Maid Marian of Robin Hood- So many ways to go with this---Have fun and she will love it.
2006-09-26 21:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Janis G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Theme showers are always fun. My sister-in-law threw me a "Travel" theme shower, because we were going to Italy for our honeymoon. She had Italian food with Italian music playing. Each table had cheese, grapes, and wine for appetizers and cannolis and tiramisu for dessert. Each place had a postcard of Italy and everybody put their advice to a successful marriage on the back for me to keep. The gifts were even themed for our honeymoon so we got all the things we needed for our trip. It was a lot of fun. Use something that she loves or look up themes on line- theknot.com has a lot of great ideas.
2006-09-26 21:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jen K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋