2006-09-26 14:09:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
he live with is mom i have him ever other weekend
2006-09-26 15:19:48 · update #1
I have a few questions for you in order to answer appropriately: what are the living arrangements? Does he live with both you and his mom? If he lives with you it would obviously be "easier" for you to handle his acting up. IF he lives with his "mother" then that could be more difficult...does she enforce rules, respect, and discipline? Feel free to contact me via this site and I will be glad to give you hands on advice based on the answers to the questions I have regarding the situation.
2006-09-26 14:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to fight a lot in school and on the bus. Got my act together by 9th grade, but the first 2 years of junior high I spent kicked off the bus, and sometimes out of school quite a bit. What finally cleaned me up is two things. When I was reprimanded at school for fighting, my Father would make sure I spent all day doing push ups, pull ups, sit ups, and mowing the grass(even if it didn't need it). The other swaying factor was that I lived @ 3 miles from school, and was forced to walk back and forth every day I was not allowed on the school bus. If I decided to "find something else" to do, I had more push ups waiting for me. Also, beating your kids A$$ is not the answer. My older brother got his beat on a regular basis, and had the exact opposite of the response most people without kids think you'll get. He actually got worse. Every kid is different, and so, every punishment should be as well. Find what your kid loves, and remove it when the bad behavior ensues. Good luck. There is really no guidebook. You're on your own, and will remember forever if things do not go well, so choose carefully (that is advice my Father gave to me).
2006-09-26 21:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by detecting_it 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, me being a bus driver.... find out the facts. Talk to the driver, then the school, then the garage. Make a plan with the driver, start by having him sit up front where the driver can see him. Have the driver keep him away from the kids that he is acting up with. Tell the driver to write him up, if the behavior continues. If your son gets written up one to many times he will be suspended off the bus for anywhere from 1-5 days depending on the schools policy. Maybe your son is acting up because he is getting picked on, maybe not sitting with who he wants to, showing off for a girl or his friends. In any case, talk to the driver first, listen to what the driver has to say, and question your son about it. It could be a mistake, the driver maybe mistaken your son for another child. That is common the first weeks of school. But, my advice as a bus driver is to start with the driver, then go from there... hope it helps
2006-09-26 21:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by babiepooh13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids usually act out for a reason. Find out what that reason may be. Ask the bus driver to sit your child up front if necessary or possible, so he/she is supervised more closely. Let your child know what the consequences are for misbehaving on the bus, then follow through with those consequences (such as a loss of video game or TV time).
2006-09-26 21:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by TJMiler 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out why he is acting out on the bus. Contact the school and the bus driver and think of a plan you will all be aware of and give some sort of rewards for bad behavior. If he is younger k-2nd I would concentrate on thereward system first and then go to consequences. This worked for my son when he was younger (now 18). GOod luck
2006-09-26 21:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by pink9364 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have an 8 year old who had this problem last year. I told him if the acting out did not stop I would ride the bus with him to and from school and make him sit with me the whole time. He's only 8 so it worked wonders, and we haven't had a problem again, and he remembers what I threatened him with.
2006-09-26 23:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by talula 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he is acting out? I mean, are there witnesses or has he admitted it. I ask, cause my kids bus driver is a real grumpy old man, and many parents, including me and my husband have had issues with him.
If he is really acting out, then I can only suggest grounding him or taking away toys and such. Of course, this didn't work for my stepson. He acted up so much he got kicked off the bus.
2006-09-26 21:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say either ride the bus with them... I know, that would make you a "lame and uncool parent". Or... you wait until your kid gets their butt beat by someone on the bus.... my mom always loves telling me the story of how she punched this big bully boy in the face on the bus when she was in middle school because he wouldn't stop picking on her younger sister. LOL. She said the bus driver laughed and told him he deserved it.
2006-09-26 21:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would ride the bus with your child. Since most kids like to act so independent and show off to their buddies, and also, most kids don't want to be seen with their parents because it is "uncool" according to them. So ride the school bus with your child and let him or her know that you will ride the bus as many times as needed.
2006-09-26 21:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Offer to ride along with him if he doesn't behave. This should embarrass him. If Bad behavior continues--- Follow his every move. Talk to the Principal, install a video camera on the bus.
2006-09-27 06:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋