when my mom was in the military, i used to be so outgoing... now i have moved out and it has been about 2.5 years, and still i am afraid to go somewhere alone..... have i lost my selfesteam? i need help
2006-09-26 14:02:02 · 12 answers · asked by melisahill 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
get help
2006-09-26 14:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much. You are in a life "transition" period. Your mind is calculating all kinds of things and sorting out how to deal with different situations while you are on your own. It's normal. There were many things that took place while you were with your mom that isn't happening while you are by yourself. You must also pay heed to your instincts. They might be saving you from trouble. All in all, you are doing fine. Some people misinterpret the "why" to what is happening to them. This is not about your self esteem. Take your time. Be safe. You'll be fine.
2006-09-26 21:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by navigate100 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well,I am not a professional at sycology but I do have this problem myself. You should carry something that makes you feel safe but isnt to dangerous that its scary.(knives guns and saws are all to scary) You should carry around pepperspray in a purse or if you dont have a purse you could put it in your pocket or something.And if you are to afraid to step outside even then,you should slowly work on learning how to make yourself better at being alone.Like sit in your room alone for a while then gradualtely take bigger steps on going outside alone.This should atleast help if not cure your fears.
2006-09-26 21:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two and a half years on your own, you should have adjusted. This sounds like a problem to take to a professional. Ask your family doctor who he/she would recommend and then make the appointment right away. You've been miserable too long. Good luck.
2006-09-26 21:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by KathieJo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just a bit afraid. I have a teenage daughter and she is afraid to go anywhere alone. I'll give you the same advice i gave her. Just pretend in your mind that you are walking with your best friend.
2006-09-26 21:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u should find a friend that u can be with on go places u normally don't go by yourself. Then gradually start wondering off (need 2 tell friend that ur going somewhere) when u are with her and then just grow off that.
2006-09-26 21:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Becca C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.....no worries
you just need to adjust
why are you afraid?
Look to yourself for answers
cause no one makes you feel scared or inferior but you
go out a bit at a time
smile
make friends
have fun
good luck
2006-09-26 21:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problems, it has been like this for years, ever since I can remember, I start with a new counseler tommorow, maybe you can look into that as well. I hope it gets better for you.
2006-09-26 22:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be an anxiety disorder or agoraphobia. Either can be treated. Make an appointment with a psychologist and get some help. You'll be glad you did.
2006-09-26 21:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's just like anything else you are afraid of. Do it over and over, and you will desensitize yourself to it. Loss of self esteem?
Nah. Just probably separation anxiety. You probably feel like you lost your companion, which can be hard. I promise, you go out on your own, you will do just fine :)
2006-09-26 21:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by Chris L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be a psychological phobia... I'd doubt it was your self-esteem... Perhaps you need see a psychiatrist...?
2006-09-26 21:04:50 · answer #11 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋