Me and my cousin are best friends. She is always talking to me about this guy who she likes very much. She has shown me the guy and he is hot. She was planning to talk to the guy,but before she did that I told the guy that Iiked him and now we are going out. I don't even like the guy! I don't know why I did that. She caught us making out once at a party and she left the party. We don't talk to each other anymore and I want to be my cousin's best friend again. I know what I did was wrong. What should I do?
2006-09-26 13:52:17 · 30 answers · asked by Manapazza 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break it off with the guy, if you already haven't. Apologize to your cousin, let her know that you don't expect her to come back running until she's ready (and you shouldn't), but that your friendship is always open to her if she's ready for it again.
2006-09-26 13:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Deleted 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should pay for this! Was your pride and ego more important than your relationship with your cousin? You owe her big! It doesn't end there, you know. You have to fix the part of you that has this ego (or lack of) issue. If you knew where you stood with men and were confident of it, there would be no need to do what you did. Hopefully, this cost you the possibility of a "real" boyfriend that might have approached you at this party. You really don't know. Maybe not. Maybe you're not worth it; and the way you present yourself in front of people make this obvious. That might be the only thing that is standing in the way of a really crazy and wonderful affair...is that worth being a narcissistic jerk? Kick yourself! Again! One more time! Ok...now fix your problem and treat your cousin better.
2006-09-26 14:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by navigate100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are both of you? Maybe you should look into why you feel so competitive with your cousin? That is what your actions seem to say to me, you saw a chance to accomplish something before she could, so you did. Not because you were really interested in the guy, but because you'd get his attention first. Depending on your age, this stage might pass if you focus on learning not to do such things. Otherwise you should probably seek counseling to learn how to deal with your feelings and how to not do such things. Maybe in time, if your cousin sees that you aren't competing against her in such ways you can mend your friendship. It won't be the same as it was, but it can be healthy and strong again in time. Good luck in any case.
2006-09-26 13:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by xasshaiza_starhand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girly, one things for sure that you should already know & that is that blood is thicker then water. Men are gonna come & go in your life but your cousin is always gonna be your cousin. So you suck it up & go say you're sorry really sorry & tell her you don't know what came over you & you'll do what ever it takes to be friends again. I mean what else are you gonna do? If she won't be friends with you anymore well, can you blame her?
2006-09-26 13:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Liza M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it was a competition on your part and a very cruel thing to do to your cousin. Contact your cousin by card, email, phone, or in person and apologize to her. Ask her to forgive you and let you be her friend again. Do this only if you have decided that you won't be competitive with her again. Good luck.
2006-09-26 13:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a "best friend" like you, she doesn't need enemies. What were you thinking? Either you just wanted to "best" her for some weird reason, or you aren't the good friend you claim to be. Good luck getting her to trust you again.
2006-09-26 13:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by smallweed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur cousin why u did dat and if it is a good reason she will forgive u if not she will not forgive u and thats how it's ment to be. be careful of ur actions talk to her or u could dump the guy and maybe she will forgive u and then u can set them up and she will defenitley for give u
2006-09-26 14:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by prncess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did was very wrong. You say you do not know why you did it. Ask yourself again. If you sincrely regret and did not actually mean to hurt your cousinn's feelings talk to her and expalin that you did not mean tohurt her feeling and that you care --make sure you asre saying it sincerely.. If you don't mean it then your cousin may talk to you again if she is forgiving and cares for you.
2006-09-26 14:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by gskohli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you thinking your happiness is much more important to you, you should continue the relationship. ask you cousin out for tea so you both can talk and solve this out then you will find out weather you both can still b best friend.
2006-09-26 13:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate these type of questions though. Too overly complicated, and no summary. Well if u had a summary it would sound bad .... "Oh i stole this guy from my cousin which she noticed first," you stupid ***. What type of friend are you?
If you are asking me what to do, bang your head against a wall. Make sure you bleed. Say "you deserved to be punished for your misbehavior." video tape that and send it to your friend. and MAYBE she'll forgive you.
2006-09-26 13:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋