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We have been dating for 8 months, he was a virgin and i wasnt. We talk out our problems all the time, we are amazing together, but this time we keep going in this vicious cirlce of sadness.... he hasn't recently been able to get it up....and he tells me its some thing that has to do with masterbation, he cant feel it... and that he should stop...i dotn think that is a factor..all guys do it...and they have sex.... He says that he hasnt had a really big eurge to have sex or any kind of sexual contact...I'm a very physical girl..and have a very high sex drive... I dont want to break up with him, but do i just wait for him to be "ready" or ....break it off over some thing so stupid as sex?

2006-09-26 13:47:42 · 17 answers · asked by Jvana 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Are you sure this guy is attracted to you? If he is' He might feel inadequate to you because you have more experience than he does. Also' some guys that do it for themselves to much can lose sensitivity in their penis the only fix for this is to stop. If he really cares about you he will at least slow down and his penile sensitivity will come back up. And 1 other thing. He is a virgin. He could have it in his head that he might not please you as well as the other men in your life. Set him down and talk to him. Find out what is in his head.

2006-09-26 14:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0 0

Maybe it's nerves. You seem to making a big deal about the physical aspects of your relationship. And there's no sex organ more important than the brain- he needs to relax, he needs to lose his anxieties. Don't decide when to have sex- it'll be a huge load on both of your minds until the time comes. Rather, enjoy your time iwth each other, be intimate (by which I mean more than sex), and let everything come naturally.

2006-09-26 13:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jim 5 · 0 0

The male libido is surprisingly fragile. If there is any pressure on him to perform, that's going to have a tremendous effect - your description of the situation makes it look like there's TONS of pressure on him. I'm sure he does very much want to have sex with you, there's nothing wrong with you. Probably nothing wrong with him either. He just needs to be completely comfortable and confident. Wait, stop trying - just let him initiate. It will happen eventually.

2006-09-26 13:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by UNITool 6 · 0 0

Sex is a very major part of the relationship, it's how couples express the way they feel, and if he can't get up that's his problem. I don't think it has anything to do with you, let him and his penis be in a relationship, and you and him be friends, and you go and find someone to satisfy you in every area, because it's not a problem now, but later it will be!!!!!!!

2006-09-26 13:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mycan Moneek 2 · 0 0

well there is def. not something wrong with u n u should keep the relationship cuz sex is just a factor onisty n talking is what holds the relationship together from what u wrote u definately have those two key items has he been taking n-e steriods of any sort maby he should take v-power or viagra if worst comes to worst

2006-09-26 13:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

gurl i'm gonna keep it real with you you might wanta show him some things or take it real slow i understand ya'll been 2 gether 4 8 months i kno dat's a long time but take it slower maybe he ain't ready men say they r but in the long run they don't take care of there kids!!!!!!!!!

2006-09-26 13:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by shavell h 1 · 1 0

wow..okay back up...first things first...hes was a virgin? and you were not, so that says you have more expertise than him alllll the way round......take your time, he may feel intimidated by the fact that you know more than him.....what a great piece of clay to work with hun! hes a virgin, show him the ropes and teach him how you want to make love...give it time , it'll all work out for the better....

2006-09-26 13:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by russ_vl 3 · 0 0

ROLE REVERSAL TIME-FOREPLAY this one woman loved to just rub my body every which way you can .She would nibble lick , carress me for a good hour .Light finger carress, she kept me guessing where her hands were going to be next .When i finaly F8cked her oh my god .It went way way to fast but i was hard again within seconds .Foreplay aint just for woman any more.

2006-09-26 13:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0 0

wait until he's ready

2006-09-26 13:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0 0

He sounds frighten and lacks confidence in his ability.
be patient and things can workout

2006-09-26 13:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by teddybear 3 · 0 0

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