I think I have developed an unhealthy relationship with a friend of mine. He likes to try to set me up -- but also likes to become the gateway. That is to say, he wants to set me up but does *not* provide the phone numbers of the women involved. It becomes a dependency. He said he hates to be in the middle but does very little to get out of the middle.
There was a girl who wanted to meet and be with me in July. He gave her my phone numbers, but I never got hers. He keeps saying she should give them to me. This has been dragging on for almost three months without any resolution. I am going out of whats left of my mind. He doesn't seem to make any effort to get us together. I hate being in limbo. She made me break up with someone to be with her and I haven't seen her either.
2006-09-26 13:21:39 · 8 answers · asked by TheSkeptic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only he has her phone numbers (work, home, cell). He will not give them to me. I have asked.
He is married. I am not 100% sure what he is trying to do. All I know is I am getting no closer to seeing her.
I am not sure how, but I have to get him out of the middle. I have to get him out of the power position. This is driving me nuts.
2006-09-26 13:43:50 · update #1
you need to get rid of the "middleman" and get your own dates. It sounds as if your friend is playing with you, are you sure he is your friend or just a user? good luck
2006-09-26 13:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume when this guy sets you up you actually get to meet the girl. Why don't you just ask her for her number when you're with her? It's not sleazy, there's nothing wrong with it, and if you like her it'll show interest. Calling a girl who hasn't given you her number herself, on the other hand, would be bordering on pushy.
Your middleman should set up the date but after that all your contact should be direct.
There's nothing wrong with relying on alternative methods to meeting girls anyway. Not everybody has the confidence and nobody should be punished just because they lack it.
2006-09-26 20:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Gordon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your relationships are your business. I think he's out to help himself find someone and he's using you as a crutch. Tell him to stay out of your business, and mind his own business. If he continues and you no longer want a friendship with him, be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Only you know what you are looking for in a relationship, and I think you should go for it, without him alway's getting in your way. Good Luck!
2006-09-26 20:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Chihuahua Lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It alright if he really wanted to help.. but not this way.. It's shows that he is trying to conquer your life.. just ignore him. If you never met or talk to a girl just leave her and try to set up your life with other in your way.. on your own.. this is we call gentleman. As for me.. as long as no middle man in my relationship.. it is more easier for me either to keep on or to break off if not suitable.
2006-09-26 20:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by norbadrishah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to lay off. Don't be afraid to tell him that- and also make him give you her number.
2006-09-26 20:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by yo yo grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people set up others bc they themselves like the person. weird but its true...it allows them to get closer to that other person
2006-09-26 20:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what's stopping you from approaching her directly rather than your middle agent friend?
2006-09-26 20:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by antagonist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But what if he were to be blind?
2006-09-26 23:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋