2006-09-26 13:21:03 · 18 answers · asked by Ro¥al Tree® 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming you've been dating for a little while and are wondering why you haven't been introduced yet. Well, when I was younger and dating, I dated a lot of guys, most never got past a second or third date because they just weren't right for me. My parents at the time required me to have them meet my dates. After a while, they got sick and tired of meeting guy after guy they'd never see ever again and said not to invite them in until it was a little more serious. So, I would think that there is no real time limit. It's a matter of how comfortable she is with your relationship before she introduces you to her child. A mother has an impression to make upon her child, and if she introduces her dates to the child, then it's overwhelming and doesn't look good. Plus, if something happens where you two stop dating and the kid was attatched, it's gonna be hard on the kid, to have another father figure leave (assuming your girl was once married and now divorced). So i'm sure she'd guarding her kid's feelings and emotions as well as her own, being that it is hard to date as a single mother since most men don't like the excess baggage. Just be patient, it'll be better on your part, because your girl won't feel rushed or pressured by you, wich might just end the relationship. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-26 13:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by afafae25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you have the decency to ask. I am glad to see the respect.
But, you should probably look for a woman with no children. It would be better for the kids not to have different men in their lives. Though you may think it will be forever, it may not last, then who will be the next person to destabilize their lives and attachment to their mother?
That is why people who are one parent should wait to date until the kids are out of the house and that better be 18.
Anyway, that is my answer and opinion and again, I am glad you were man enough to have the respect to ask such a question.
2006-09-26 13:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Martin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a single mom and I wouldn't allow a man to meet my child unless I thought it was a serious thing. My son doesn't need to loose another man in his life I think you need to date the mom not the child. Then if it get serious bring the children into it!
2006-09-26 13:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by kourtney j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved in the children's lives until you are pretty sure the adult relationship is going to be long term. No use upsetting the child again because someone else came and didn't stay.
2006-09-26 13:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Second date! My new beau was with me while I was pregnat and even there when I gave birth, so lol!
But mention that you have a child on the first, let him briefly meet them on the second and from there on out, somewhat include your child in the things you and your boyfriend do!
2006-09-26 13:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you and the lady feel comfortable enough with each other that you become part of your lives. The kids are going to be a big part of your relationship and should be given as much chance as possible to get to know you.
2006-09-26 13:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dating her not her kids. Until you are certain you have a future, you should not involve your kids. They don't need to meet every guy she dates. When you start thinking this may last forever, then meet the kids.
2006-09-26 13:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to the MOM.
What is REALLY strange though is when you get introduced then she feels a need to remind you that she has a kid. Then you wonder, do I know this woman at all? Does she even want me too? What kind of gae is it? etc
Worth leaving?
2006-09-26 13:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by agropelter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till she feels safe with you and her child .and your for real no a player looking for piece and say good bye and until she knows also your not someone who goes after children and not pervert . and do not mean that as a insult use your brain what ever time it takes .is her discission not yours so take life as it comes .
2006-09-26 13:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by ghostdog506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say three to six months. You should expect to be introduced to the child when you know that things are serious between you and the mother......
2006-09-26 13:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by msladykm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋