does 1 2 3 magic work? does it work any better than other parenting tehniques?

Answer 1

I used baby lotion or baby oil and added glitter to the bottle. Whenever my child was acting out I would put some of the magic faerie dust on their hand and explain that as long as the magic dust was on there they could not act out. It worked like a charm.

Answer 2

I find that it does work when used in a consistent manner and like the other person said--mean what you say. I started using it when my oldest was young and it worked but if I got lazy it stopped working. So, stick to your guns.

And that bible beater is an idiot. Do not listen to that person. There is no reason at all to hit a child. I have very well behaved childen and they do not get spanked. When you spank you build resentment within that child. The only thing spanking really does is provide an outlet for the parent. It does not help bad behavior. Studies have shown that children who are spanked behave worse than those who aren't. Plus, I'm fairly certain that the rod in the bible refers to the rod of wisdom. That passage has nothing to do with beating your children. However, some like to interpret it that way. The bible is a really good tool for excusing terrible behavior. "I can beat the **** out of my child because the bible told me so!"

Answer 3

I think it works great, however I have one problem with it. After the timeout is over you are not supposed to ask the child about why they got a timeout, you are supposed to just drop the issue and move on. I do not like that. I think children need to be able to tell you why they had a timeout, they need to communicate this. It's kind of like that rule of saying someones name repeatedly in conversation to help you remember it, if you ask the child to tell you why they had a time out they may be more likely to remember not to do it again later. Also, they need to know that you remember why they had a time out as well, and you need to talk to them about it right then before they forget.

Is it better than other techniques? I think if you are consistent in whatever technique you use, it's the most effective. Consistency is the key for parenting skills.

Answer 4

Works well for me, I have a 6 yr old, and we have used that technique since she was 2. We rarely get to 3, maybe 4 times in the last year or so. Usually get to 2 though, but hardly or rarely 3. Usually a grounding follows 3, no video games, or tv, or somethng that she enjoys, for a day or so.

Answer 5

Only if you mean it when you get to 3.... whatever the consequences are, they'd better happen after 3 or you can count until the cows come home and your kid will just stare at you and wonder why you are counting out loud. I did this at Disneyland with my kids...on the first ride. I told them if I got to 4 (I gave them the 1, 2, and 3 chances) we were going home. Within one hour I was at four... we went home. As painful as that was to my pocketbook, they knew I meant it!! I never had to get to 3 again... whatever your post as a consequence, you have to be willing to follow through and do it (not sure I'd do the Disney trick again....too expensive). 1-2-3 only works when your kids know you mean it!!

Answer 6

Yes!!!!!!! I don't know where you can get it but there is a tape that explains it all. This is the only method i have ever used! Start at age 2. My four year old is the best behaved child you will ever see. Even strangers tell me so!

Answer 7

Yes, it works great when used properly and consistently. I have a
son with ADHD who no other form of discipline worked with...let
me tell you...this worked. There is a video and a book that your local library may have to explain the techniques. I also used it in modified form with my preschoolers.

Answer 8

Quit listening to and asking the bleeding hearts about things like this! All of the answers that you need are in the Bible! The infallible Word of God says to use a rod.People misquote the bible and say 'spare the rod, spoil the child' which is not what it says. Actually it says 'the man who spares the rod hateth his child'. If you look up the word 'rod' in the concordance, it means a limb from a tree, or as we call it, a switch. It works! No video needed, no instruction manual. Simply use. Small child, small switch. As the child grows, so grows the rod. God knew what he was talking about when he directed us to do this! IT WORKS! You don't have to swing hard, just short little swings work wonders. It does not hurt the child,but will make a lasting impression! I hate to think of the kind of person that I would have grown up to be if my mother hadn't used this technique. Look at the statistics on people that are in prison today - and the problem is getting worse! If parents in the last twenty to thirty years had sought and used God's instruction, instead of listening to the bleeding hearts and fools like Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Phil Mc Graw, things wouldn't have degraded the way they have. Parents of the last two or three decades are mostly failures.