I have been married for a year. My step-daughter is to be married May 2007. My family is in Texas. We are in Ohio.
2006-09-26 12:56:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should poll the family and find out how they would feel if they were or were not invited. If they would be insulted for not being invited, invite all and let them know that you would understand if they are unable to attend the shower. We did that with my showers. We have family who lived far enough away that they would need to travel in for the shower. We invited them and some sent their regrets and a present (or they chipped in on one gift). I was not hurt when they didn't come and they were not hurt for not being invited.
2006-09-26 13:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure I understand. Are you planning your own bridal shower? If yes, then please don't do this. It is like planning your own "surprise" birthday party -- pathetic. If you are hosting a shower for the bride, then you should confine your guest list to some group of people whom you have reason to believe would welcome an opportunity to spend a couple hours with the bride and help her start married life by giving her a gift. If you are "mining" the wedding guest list, that is a pretty good indication that no such group exists. If you'd like to give a tea or a hen party or a luncheon for the bride, that sounds very gracious, especially if it can include some of the out-of-town guests. If you are just trying to "shake down" the guests for an extra gift, it looks greedy. Trust me on this: whatever amount people spend on a shower gift, they will subtract from the value of whatever wedding gift they choose to give, while YOU are stuck with footing the bill and doing all that work. Tell your bride that no one has expressed any interest in being involved in a shower, and you are not a "promoter" to create an artificial group of fond and generous friends where none exists.
2016-03-27 12:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having a destination wedding and invited all of my stepdads family,even though I'm pretty sure none of them will come. There are a couple I wanted to invite, and some that I wouldn't even recognize on the street-however, I think it's common courtesy to invite EVERYONE in the family.
2006-09-27 03:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by abbya11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say yes send the ivatation, even though you know they can't come. It give's them a keepsake and prevent's hurt feeling's. I am the sister of the groom, and i live in what they call upstate Ny, they live in NYC, i didn't get an invite to the bridal shower and my feeling's are very hurt, but i wouldn't have been able to make it. It would have been the thought that counted
2006-09-26 15:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to her. Regardless of distance, she may have enough to worry about with her Mom and Step-Mom in the same location at the same time (I would!)... never mind her Step-Mom's family to boot.
Generally "family" status doesn't extend as easily to the step's family (so not necessary to invite based on family status). However if they get on well, and she would / does want them there, she should invite them regardless so it doesn't seem like a snub.
IMHO.
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2006-09-26 13:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes invite them, send the invitation, it is the thought that counts....show them that you have thought of them. I learned this the hard way. I had out of town guests that I knew would not be able to attend (and they knew they couldn't attend) and I did not invite them until my mother pointed out my error. So I had to hastily scratch up some to invites. It is a small price to pay to keep your family appeased.
2006-09-26 13:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be kind of an awkward thing to receive in the mail from so far away.
I would just invite people within like a 2 hour driving radius, to a shower.
2006-09-26 17:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always nice to invite them, even if they can't attend.
Story: we just went through my shower. I wrote out a list of people to invite, one of which was a member of my bridal party who lives in Colorado. She couldn't come but sent a gift.
I FORGOT TO SEND ONE TO MY FUTURE GRANDMOTHER-IN-LAW! She really laid on the guilt trip too. I had never felt more guilty in my life!
2006-09-26 13:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always nice to send the invite their way, even though you know they will not be able to make it. It's a great way to prevent hard feelings and someone getting hurt.
2006-09-26 13:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite your immediate family. Mom, Dad, Brothers and Sisters. They can decide not to attend. But atleast it shows you thought of them.
2006-09-26 13:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by jadamgrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋