Suggestions?

Question

Well.. I'm only 13.. I'm a very happy person, and nobody has ever seen me sad, or mad.. Except my family.. and ever since school started, (I go to a school with 95% hispanics, I'm white) all of the hispanic kids make fun of me because of my race, and talk about me in spanish. and I'm a very sensative person. and I haven't been as happy anymore, and my mom thinks I should move with my dad and go to my old school for my mental health. but I dont want to live with my dad.. and I don't want to go to my school. it's tearing me apart. and I don't know what to do.

Thanks everyone for your help. =]]

Answer 1

Your mom needs to put you in a different school where youre living right now. I wouldnt be able to do what youre doing. That would be tough. No wonder its tearing you apart...you poor thing, I feel for you.

Talk to your mom about a private school or another school where youre living. Theres got to be another option for you, other than moving to your dads. I would talk to counselors at school too. Tell them what these kids are doing to you. This is such a fragile age youre at. My son went thru something similar, and I had to put him in a private school. It kept him from failing. Im afraid this is what you are headed for, if your mom doesnt do something about it.

Stay strong.

Answer 2

Check with the school districts whose borders directly touch your current school district where your mom lives. There are many districts who will accept students from a neighboring disstrict if they have the space.

Check into home school organizations in your area. There are some churches and other places that have very affordable alternatives available (much cheaper than private schools and stuff) and when you finish, you'll get a home school diploma rather than a regular diploma, but they work just the same.

Try learning some Spanish. I was an exchange student in college and lived in dorms, not with a family, and was surrounded by people of a different race and different language. but, I know 13-year-olds are much more vicious in their teasing. I'm sure not all of the kids are bad, though. You said you are sensitve, so maybe not all of them are talking about you. It's a bit paraniod of a feeling, I know, when you can't understand what ppl are saying.

Also, study up on some spanish and don't speak a word until you know it well enough to hold your own in a coversation. That will shut them up, if you defend yourself in Spanish.

Are there any other close relatives who will let you stay with them during the week while school is in session so you can go to a different school and not live with your dad?

I'm sorry, I hope one of these suggestions helps at least some.

Answer 3

First of all I don't know why all these people are telling you to switch schools. I know they may be well meaning but the solution to your problem is not running from school to school. What happens when you go back to your old school and some other group of kids starts picking on you? Do you go to yet another school? NO! First of all if they really wanted to get their butts kicked they would say whatever it is they have to say in English. If they aren't speaking directly to you then ignore them. School isn't a popularity contest. If you wanted you can pretend that they are jealous of you and they are saying so in spanish. Since you have no idea what they are saying anyway it can't hurt right? Give it time you will find your place and new friends. Don't run and hide. You'll be better for it later.

Answer 4

Suffering is universal, changing schools won't necessarily improve your situation. Don't be discouraged, and college/university are completely different from jr/sr high. SO much more fun and pleasent. These ignorant b*tches are just blips on your life's radar, their only importance is determined by you. They are threatened by you. so hold your head up, shoulders back and jaw set. These are far from the best years of your life, it gets better. Get involved in your school, a club or activity where you will have something in common with the other participants. Sports, music, theater sports - anything. If school has crap for activities, get involved with community groups or classes so that your social life isn't dependant on something as breif as school. It also wouldn't hurt to be primed to kick @ss and get that aggression out before you show up at school with some firearms. Once you lose the fear of these girls you will be untouchable. It doesn't happen overnight though. Listen to Sublime for some good spanish slandering. Watch the New Guy on DVD and try to laugh at the insanity.

Answer 5

Thats really terrible that you have to go to school and face racism. Your mom might have a good point about you going back to your old school where you will be more accepted and happier. You just have to figure out if you can be happy going to an all hispanic school and living with your mom. If you don't think you can handle it then you should move before you become depressed.

Answer 6

Is there another school you might go to and still live with your mother? Sometimes you can take a bus even though it takes longer. Not being happy at school will make it harder to study and do well. But if you're not happy living with your dad that would be just like going to that school. You could learn spanish.

Answer 7

I'm a 14 yr-old Cuban girl. I live in Miami. And here we have mostly Hispanics but there are also a few white and a little bit of everything....&& Atleast that I know of no one gets made fun of because of their race (maybe cause of other things but not race or culture)...Ummm. Are you sure that they are talking about YOU in Spanish. Maybe they are just talking and since you feel left out because they are talking in Spanish you start to feel self conscious. Err... in my school there also about 95% Hispanics and 5% white and two of my best friends (Ive known them since second grade) are white. I <3 them to death!... Well enough about me... I think maybe you should try to take Spanish classes in school. and maybe even try making friends with Hispanic kids. We are all exactly like you except mostly all of us left our country because of political reasons, or economic reasons.

I hope it all works out for you. Good Luck =)

Gretter

Answer 8

Some people feel that speaking in Spanish makes them better than you, but i wouldn't suspect it before high school. I am assuming they are insulting you in Spanish, and if they can't insult you in English, they really aren't trying to provoke much of a reaction. Really, you just need to ignore it, but if you really fell it is affecting your performance, moods, etc., you could consider moving to your old school. If you ignore it, it will stop. It's just like a bully complex, except they are mentally bullying you, whether you like it or not. It might last a while, but they will stop. Just pay attention to something else.

Answer 9

I would have your Mom talk to the teachers and principals of your school to do something about the race issue. No one should make fun of anyone because of race, religion or sexual origin or persuation. I know kids can be rude but there are laws to protect people and you need representation.

Answer 10

ooh, wow. your situation is very . tough think about theese questions.
do you hate you dad?
why do you care what those beaners think?
how can you let them boss you around?
I'm the short person at a school of tall people, i'm the laughing stock of the school, so what? those loosers will be living on the streets while i live in luxury!. i hope you make a decision that is verry good. and sister, let me tell you something, your mental health is a ok! that's how i felt. just ignore those ***** and you will be fine!