My ex-girlfriend and I have been broken up and havent spoken for three months. We broken up four or five times mainly it was my fault. The reason for last the break-up was a long distance relationship she wanted me closer but financial reasons I cant do it. She told me she was seeing someone else. Even though I called her she seen my number and she did answer the phone. I asked was she busy she said no so we talked for a while. I let her go so I wouldnt burn her daytime minutes. The question I have is that am I seeing more into this. I still love her and I want her back in my life what should I do?
2006-09-26 12:40:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get your finances in order and move closer to her.
2006-09-26 12:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Qrissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing- since you're financial situation is in shreds, you should get a good career in place. Something that pays well, that doesn't really require any sort of degree- unless you have a degree. The most important thing to do is to visit your girlfriend once you save up some extra money. Make sure you bring her a gift, something that she'll love (a handbag will ALWAYS work.) Show her that you care about her enough to get your life back together and you took the time to visit her. Make sure you really get into good conversations about sensitive subjects for her and have no defense against her! She wants to hear her ex agreeing with her. If you follow this, you'll have her back in no time.
2006-09-26 19:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by pnogal32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both love each other, but neither loves the other enough to want to move close enough to maintain the relationship.
Moving in together is a mistake, but then so is a long distance relationship. You're going back to her because she's familiar. It's easier than meeting someone new for both of you.
Time to let her go and start living your life.
2006-09-26 19:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by chloe40dd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! Long distance relationships suck, my husband and I were apart (before we were married ofcourse) for like 2 years, and we were 20 at the time. We made it work... obviously. He came to visit as often as he could and we talked on the phone daily. You have to have trust and commitment though, because you won't have a shot without it. Good luck and Tell her how you feel, whats he worst that could happen? She could tell you that you guys are better off friends... which would be the worst thing to happen, and in that case at least you laid it all out on the table for her. Put the ball in her court, so to speak.
2006-09-26 19:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what i really think and i hope that you don't get offended by it. it's easy for every one to say hang in there and follow your heart bcuz everyone loves a happy ending but the reality is "she's seeing someone else". she told you that already, right? what does that tell you? so unless she's playing some kind of sick mind game with you to get you to move wherever she is, i would say take the hint and move on. she probably already has!! it's better for you to suffer through the heartbreak now than take your chances and move closer to her only for her to tell you she really wants to be with someone else. if you're in doubt about the way she really feels you should talk to her about it and find out if she wants YOU back in HER life.
2006-09-26 19:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up several times already with her. If you are really serious in wanting her back, then show it by move closer to her! If you still can't, then leave her alone, man! She may be happier with the new guy. Sorry! But you have to prove it that you really want her back or if this is just one of the ego thing that man has..
2006-09-26 19:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by KoKo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be seeing more than there is, maybe not though. Some girls tend to like to remain friends with exes, especially when the break up isn't over something bad like cheating or abuse. Keep talking to her, feel it out. She may tell you she would like to be more than friends, she may not. Either way, you at least have a friend who cares about you.
2006-09-26 19:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by Social_D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would take her feelings into consideration, and if she is seeing someone right now I would say let it go.
After breaking up 5 times, I would say there is not much holding whatever relationship you two had together. My advice is try to find someone you get along with better and let it go.
2006-09-26 19:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Persue the relationship, send flowers and tell her you are trying to get closer but finances are short. If she loves you it will work, if she doesn't she will let you know that you are wasting your time. Good Luck to you.
2006-09-26 19:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
naw your not lookin more into it....the only thing you can do is just be yourself and dont continuously bug her about getting back together, this will only push her farther away and then she will not want to get back together. let her come to you, and if she does then you know that you two are suppose to be together, but you cant predict what is goin to happen, so just let things go as they are. good luck...:)
2006-09-26 19:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by taceysay02@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋