My son is now in the 3rd grade. He recieves checks everyday for talking....talking and more talking!! His grades are perfect, but the teacher said that his talking is getting in the way of his education. I have grounded him from his precious playstaion... spanked him, made him stay in his room and read, and made his stay outside afterschool and pull weeds, or other outside work. BUT NOTHING HAS HELPED!! I hate to be so hard on him, because his grades are A & B's but Im up for any suggestions.
2006-09-26 12:39:15 · 20 answers · asked by outofanswers2056 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Obviously, he is good multi-tasker. His talking is not getting in the way if he is getting a's and b's. I would be worried if his grades were poor. He is using his time efficiently to slide some words in here and there between stuff.
When I was in 2nd grade I had a reading vocabulary of a 7th grader and I talked a lot. I wasn't getting the grades I should because I was not being challenged and my teachers were holding me back. I would have to wait for minutes on end for others to finish there work while I took ten seconds.
It sounds to me your boy is above average and needs to be considered for advancement and or special program classes. He needs to be given a place where he can express himself and not be forced to repress. Good discipline so far. Now make a reward system. You are also considerate of our overstressed teachers. Sounds like you're doing great. As long as his grades are good, maybe the teacher has to put up with it. That's what they get paid for.
2006-09-26 13:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by digdugs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a son that talks in class and is doing well with his grades etc He is in grade 2. His teacher has given him a special book to write in when he has finished his work, so he's got something to do other than talk. Punishing him is not going to help, he needs praise when he has been good. Maybe give him an incentive to be quiet in class, such as a reward after school or if he has been good for a week, take him to do something special on the weekend, gradually he will learn that being quiet/good in class is rewarding for him. Good Luck :)
2006-09-26 12:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Robyn M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had that same problem when my daughter went to the second and third grade. She would complete her work before her friends and get board. I let that go on for too long trying some of the things you did to get her to stop. The end result was her talkin eventually got her a little behind as to where I had to get her a tutor to get her back to where she was. She has picked up her grades back to her A's and B's, i had them test her to put her in a different class now she doesn't have enough time to talk. I hope everything works out.
2006-09-26 14:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by btjuana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have this child tested for ADD now! Many people think that it doesn't exist, but let me tell you, it does. I had the same problem. My grades were excellent, I even skipped the second grade. No one did anything for me until I was 17! I read an article about it in a magazine, took it to the counselor my parents had me going to, and made her refer my mother to someone who could test me. I was then and still am way off the charts. Before then, I was self medicating with drugs and alcohol, cutting myself and suicidal. I couldn't figure out what made my brain go weird on me when I most needed it. After I got tested, they put me on Strattera and I soon quit drugs and drinking. I am now a perfectly sane adult without the medicine, but that is because I am no longer forced to be in a world(school) where they want me to do things I just cannot do.
2006-09-26 12:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I have to say is its only the 3rd grade. Don't kill yourself over it. Second, look into the difference between punishment and positive conditioning. Modern times generally agree that punishment isn't the way to go, especially psysical punishment.
I was the same was in elementary school. I got sent to the principal office, but I still got straight A's. I am now a senoir in high school looking at colleges with a 4.0 GPA. You tend to grow out of it. Just don't be so hard on him.
2006-09-26 12:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by yoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like more of a teacher problem. Either she's grading him too high, or teaching too slow. If he's learning the material well enough to earn the grades, and still has time leftover to talk with his friends, then he needs another book to occupy his time. If she's padding the grades to make herself look better, then she's hurting his education by misrepresentation. It sounds like you have a bright (and energetic!) child, congratulations. It might help to take a look around at the other teachers in his grade, and see if switching classes could help.
2006-09-26 13:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking Too Much In Class
2016-12-12 14:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you positive that its really as bad as the teacher makes it sound? some teachers have issues or exaggerate sometimes. the best thing for you to do would be to go to your sons school some day and watch him. preferably if he doesnt know so then he wont just be on his best behavior for you. I hear its almost impossible to fire a teacher unless they did something illegal(got involved with a student, sold drugs/alcohol to a minor) so just make sure its not just the teacher that has issues. maybe his talking isnt even affecting anyone... but the teacher is annoyed. just make sure you know exactly whats going on before you do anything more.
2006-09-26 12:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he talking while he is working? . . or does he finish his work quickly and then have nothing else to do?? . . . maybe he's bored in class . . ask the teacher to change his seating arrangement . . or buy him an activity book or take a book to school he can read or work on if he finishes his assignments early . . . stress the fact that you understand he may be excited about being around his friends, but he should do as the teacher says and be quiet in the classroom . . .
2006-09-26 14:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your son is too bright for his class and he's a little bored.
Don't crush his spirit.
Try and make him understand the stress the teacher is under in controlling a whole class.
Ask him if he can think of another way to expell his energy.
Suggest he write down every good joke or story he thinks of instead of telling it out loud at that very moment. And he can publish his book when he's grown up.
good luck, the smart kids are the most challenging.
2006-09-26 12:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋