Not that I'm getting married but my mom and her husband argued about this before their wedding. They had a little bit of both. Small wedding with family only and a big reception at the house.
2006-09-26 12:33:12 · 24 answers · asked by D-Wizzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Whatever you can afford.
2006-09-26 12:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have a wedding that will not cost a lot. Invite only the people who mean the most to you and your bride. My husband and I had about 75 people at our wedding. It was the best time ever! You could elope, and go on a much nicer honeymoon.
If we where to do it over that is what I would do. You do not want to start out a marriage in debt. It will only tear you apart. Either way you need to talk about this so both of you are on the same page. Decide together, don't get your parents involved...........
2006-09-26 19:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people prefer to have a big wedding, some prefer to have a small wedding, some prefer to elope. I personally had a small wedding & Reception. Only family and close friends came. I sent marriage announcements out to everyone else. I loved how small it was. I got to talk to everybody and I didn't feel bad about neglecting anyone. It also cost a LOT less to do it that way. I spent less that $3500 on my entire wedding, and I fed about 30 people. I should have spent more on a photographer, but oh well. It was amazing!
2006-09-26 19:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I eloped and had the big church wedding. I would suggest eloping and having a big party afterwards because, the big wedding was so stressful! We had to do the showers, and there was one relative of my husband's who insisted that I had to register at her favorite store, which is not even close to one that I would shop at. Then you add in the stress of having a Lutheran-Catholic wedding service, where the Lutheran pastor started saying how this was a special day because he got a gift from the Catholic priest. I will never get married again because of all the stress from the church wedding. Just elope.
2006-09-26 20:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my girl are going through this right now. We purchased a house together before being married and her southern baptist family is severely against it. Even being rude to her till "she makes in right in Gods eyes". Yet how can you do the big wedding thing, that we all know is really for the other woman in the family and not you or your bride. I really like what an old roommate and his wife did. They saved up and took a really nice vacation. That's all that friends and family knew till they came back with rings on. A nice lil trip on a cruise or fly down to some resort at St. Lucia and just have a good time together with no wedding headaches. Then come back and let the party begin.
2006-09-26 19:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by notsoperfectgentleman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're family-centered. Both my fiance and I were raised to be close to our families, and it hasn't stopped now.
Our wedding is really a celebration. It's not HUGE, but we didn't elope. We didn't see the point of eloping--we want to enjoy the moment with friends and family, not just GET it over with.
We are having under 120 people, and there's no strange cousin or random friend we haven't seen in 10 years. Everyone there is special to us in different ways. That's important to us.
Both my fiance and I agreed to be stress-free as possible. And guess what? We've stressed a total of 4 days, and it's still 12 days to the wedding ! We have let go of worrying and let the day go as it wants to go. It's not important to us if the cake falls apart or my dress rips. It's about our marriage and celebraitng. THAT'S what's important.
2006-09-26 20:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I eloped and was married in the District Judge's chambers. Both of our families were told about our plans, and only my husband's sister and husband chose to attend.
On our 10th anniversary we "renewed our vows" in a church wedding. We will soon celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary and we would marry again in the Judge's chambers if we had to do it over again. By the way we used the money that we saved by not having a church wedding to rent our first home together and go on a "honeymoon".
2006-09-26 19:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sandee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i did something in the middle. we had been planning our wedding for our 2 year dating anniversary. then i got pregnant. we decided that we would go ahead and get married because that was the day WE wanted, even though i would be 9 months pregnant at the time. Everyone objected, except our close friends. But our family had a big problem with it. we decided that having a good marriage and being good parents was more important than a wedding that no one would really remember for more than a day, except us. we also decided that if we invited anyone, we would have to invite EVERYONE, so we decided to only have our witnesses there, because we both have large families and could not afford to throw the wedding they would all want to see. so my husband wore nice jeans and a tee shirt. i wore flipflops, a nice outfit and my big belly, and we were going to just have a service with our witnesses and our pastor in the church. alas, 25 people crashed our wedding, but it turned out to be pretty nice. i have no regrets by doing it that way, except lack of pretty wedding photos. but i know we made the right decision by not blowing all that money just to please everyone else, and saving it for what really mattered... our daughter.
plus, you always see stressed our brides and nervous grooms. neither of us were in the least bit stressed. we had no grand plans to worry about. it was just simple, stress free, and all for us. we were able to get married feeling happy and excited, and like it was no big deal, just a long time coming
2006-09-26 20:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Small wedding BIG reception. I should of done that when I got married. Big weddings are too much trouble. Everyone wants to put their opinion in.
Court house Weddings or Vegas thats the way to go!!!
2006-09-26 22:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Dani 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since a wedding is a once in a lifetime thing...why not have all the family and friends come. I personally think nothing can compare to going all out on your big day. I think it is worth the pre-wedding stress.
2006-09-26 23:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by emmer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little bit of both makes the most sense to me. I got married last weekend at a Renaissance (pirate) faire; it was kind of spontaneous, with everyone pitching in, but it came together beautifully. We were married by one of our guildmates who was in his full pirate persona. My hair was done by a couple of friends half an hour before the wedding; it was outside, right at our encampment, we had the whole walking-under-swords thing, a fairly quick ceremony, and afterwards went down to the lake and shot cannons and flintlocks! Then had a whole evening of mead, rum and revelry. It was really cool; even my sceptical parents-in-law had to agree!
I would do it again.
Oh, yeah, the money we saved on our wedding (which cost us next to nothing) we spent on a 10-day Caribbean cruise.
I would definitely do it again!! :)
2006-09-26 19:47:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋