i am dating this amazingly sweet guy. when we first started dating he made it clear that he wants a mature sophisticated classy girl...which he said he found in me. I am in every way possible that, however, I am 21 at a huge party school and he is in his late 20's already est. with a career and home....i'm certain he is looking to get married soon. he does everything right so whenever i screw up in the littlest way i freak out. for instance i got really drunk on my 21st bday and called him to pick me up from a bar and take me home. i know i was prob saying some nonsense and was acting completely drunk...but it as my 21st bday. I am just always worried that I am going to screw up this thing bc this guy is so amazing and i am really falling for him. any advice or similar situations? If you are a nice guy who treats your girl right how what would make you upset?
2006-09-26 12:31:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't be someone you are not. If you screw up and he dumps you, then he wasn't the right person for you. We all have flaws, even Mr Perfect Guy. It is the acceptance of these flaws that make a perfect relationship.
I would talk to him, tell him you are not perfect. It is exhausting trying to be perfect when obviously you are not.
2006-09-26 12:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've often wondered what I would do if I was in your situation... I never came up with an answer I liked though. You should just enjoy the fact that you've met someone so great and stop worrying about losing him.
If you keep freaking out about not been perfect yourself, you'll drive him away. When he first met you, you said he found a mature, sophisticated, classy girl in you. So don't change from what you were when you first met into someone whose too worried about been perfect.
On a funnier note, if you keep been paranoid you'll end up like Tweek from South Park!
2006-09-26 12:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright.... from experience... haha.
Ok seriously... i think I'm a great boyfriend, and I've had a gf that freaked out about things... kinda like you are. The bottom line is this. Your boyfriend should know that you need to cut loose and have a great time. He shouldn't stand in your way. If these drunken incidents dont happen often, and that you typically stick to special occasions for tossing out the "classy girl" act... he shouldn't have a problem with it.
To be honest... while I like classy women... I dont want her to be classy 100% of the time. I want a classy gal when I'm around other people. Otherwise, I just want someone that loves me, and wants to spend time with me. I'm sure your boyfriend apprecaited that you called HIM for help, and didn't try to drive home, or crash at someone else's house.
The only thing that would make me upset in this situation... is 2 things.
1. If you were flirting with guys... eh... that would bother me.
2. Why wasn't I there? Lol if this is for your birthday...shouldn't your boyfriend be there? if i was your boyfriend... i might be abit bothered by it, unless it was a girls night out thing.
**NOTE** Your boyfriend might be the type that doesn't like to go out TOO much. If he is... dont worry about. Just make sure he knows that you care about him, and that you want to be around him more than you want to go out and get trashed. I'm sure he appreciates you as much as you do him.
-the thoughtless ponderer
2006-09-26 12:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt like that for the first 7 mths with my guy. I am from poor poverty crap- lol- and he is from a nice country setting, and has a really nice job, beautiful nice sized home, and he is calm and smart and funny and a great guy. I always felt him staring at me and I thought he was judging me so i went and spent money i didnt have to try to look nicer and more sophisticated for him. (usually its baggy jeans and sweatshirt) he is also 37 while i am 21. So i felt pressure to be older and act a certain way all the time. after soo long, we bagan to loosen up around each other, and i saw that he was once in a rough spot of his own in life and he didnt care that i dont have a really great career already going.
he also liked when i loosened up and was my silly self more. now we are happy and can be ourselves and its great!
2006-09-26 12:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be allowed to have your fun, and if this guy is, indeed, "perfect" then he should understand that. You're young, you're experiencing life, and you shouldn't be expected to be absolutely perfect all the time. That being said, if I were him, I would hate to think that my girlfriend could be partying so much that she'd be putting herself at risk in any way. The best thing to do is to ask him how he feels, and if there's anything you're doing that bothers him. You could also take the opportunity to point out more things he could do for you. Could he be less uptight, perhaps? Anyway, good luck.
2006-09-26 12:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a worry wort! made u should tell him what on ur mind.
he probably doesnt even notice.
2006-09-26 12:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by jessi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, if you are young and hot, you have a lot of value to him.
2006-09-26 12:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋