Overweight?

Question

im 12 5' 1" and 135 Lbs. all my friends mae fun of me and all my enemys dont. do i have the wromg friends? and am i really overweight...just a little or just right bc i know im not under weight! my doc. said i didnt HAVE to go on a diet...but i think i should.

Answer 1

Katelyn,
do your friends know you feel uncomfortable with their jokes? Some people tend to make jokes without knowing they are hurting you. Talk to them and if they continue after it, they are not your friends.
You are 12. This is a typical age where you are not a kid nor a teenage. It is very normal at this age to have a self image of being "deformed" because some parts of your body have been growing faster than the rest of your body. Most of us felt ugly at that age but most of us never told anyone.
I totally agree with your doctor. You are in a period where you will grow VERY fast, if you manage to eat healthy and remain in the same weight you soon will be a very slim beautiful girl.
Try to exercise... is there any sport you like? You do not need to be a part of the representative team of your school, just be more active than how you are now.
Good luck!
Nena

Answer 2

you're 12. Your body has a lot of growing yet to do. If your doctor says dieting isn't necessary, don't do it. If you want to take an active part in slimming down some, do it the healthy way. Replace chips and fries and other fatty snacks with fruits and veggies. When you take second helpings at meals, take seconds of the fruits and veggies. Start requesting whole grains instead of more processed grains. And get moving! Find some sort of outdoor physical activity you enjoy, and spend time at least three days a week doing it. Dance, ride a bike, play tennis or basketball, go on a nice walk with a friend or two. The important thing is, keep moving.

Do you have the wrong friends? Sounds like it. My friends will comment on my weight out of concern; but once we've discussed it, it doesn't come up again. And friends, REAL friends, won't make fun of you for it.

Answer 3

It sounds to me that you're a very impressionable young girl. You're in a dilemma, because you know that if you ditch your old friends then you'll have to find new ones (which treally isn't that hard in school), however while you're finding new ones your old ones will pick on you and alienate you, probably picking on anyone else you talk to too.
Though if you stay with your current friends then they'll pick on you too and you'll probably beacome the "fall guy", taking the rap for things, being the ginea pig etc.
You need to ask yourself whether these "friends" are just mocking you because they don't think you mind, and would they stand up for you if others did it to you, or because they know you can't/won't do anything about it for yourself.
Try standing up for yourself just a little and seek new friends, whilst still hanging around your old ones, if it makes you feel more wanted or accepted but don't feel pressurised into being bullied into what the others tell you.
The people you hang around with throughout your teens can really affect what becomes of your life. I know.

Oh yeah you don't seem overweight to me, my girlfriend's about 10lbs heavier than you, and she's only 2 inches taller but she won't be getting any taller, she's 22 now :) You will still probably grow a few more inches yet and as long as you don't suddenly start munchin' exclusively on junk food then you'll bve just fine

Answer 4

Hey Babe,

don't sweat it! The normal size 10 or 12 is not normal. I'm 5 foot 7 and 12 1/2 stone. Clinically I'm overwieght. But if I lost anymore weight i'd look ill. Its about your build and how you feel. I'm the right weight for my build. Take no notice of what everyone else says. Your mates sound like they need to wake up and smell the coffee. In the adult world its not about how you look. Its about ur inner beauty. Trust me, i'm 32 not that good looking, married and I get offers all the time. Hell I've even got wrinkles coming girl!!! My advice is not to sweat it babe. Do you really want a guy thats only after your looks anyway?

Answer 5

What kind of diet are you talking about? Restricting junk food? Do you eat healthy now? I wouldn't worry about your friends - friends are not your friends when they make fun of you. Listen to your doctor - i know this from personal experience. My daughter is 8, weighs 120 lbs. BUT ----- she is also 4ft 7". Her weight follows her height - she is big boned!! I thought that she was overweight - she' not - healthy as a horse. DO WHAT YOU FEEL LIKE DOING!! So what happens when (and if you do) lose weight? Are you friends going to be your friends then? Think about it - DO IT FOR YOURSELF AND NO ONE ELSE. KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH!!

Answer 6

I wouldn't let it get to you, if your doc says you are fine. Now is a good age for you to develop good eating and exercise habits, though.

Try getting up 15 min early in the morning and doing a few exercises, or cutting back on unhealthy snacks - substitute with veggie.

This will help you tone up as you grow and ensure that your weight never gets too out of control.

Answer 7

You're still really young. Pretty soon, all that weight you think you have will fill out in all the right places. Just chill and go be a 12 year old, I mean have fun. Ya know!!

Answer 8

First of all, your friends don't sound very friendly. Secondly, weight is only one consideration to overall health. It depends on what "kind' of weight it is. Are you very muscular? Muscle weighs more than fat, and therefore someone very musclebound can weigh more than someone with more fat tissue yet wear a smaller size. Don't let the media and Western society skew your view of yourself. You don't have to be a size 1 to be beautiful. The average size of American women is 14, celebrities are holding people up to impossible standards that even they can't fulfill-ever heard of editing and airbrushing? You should talk to your doctor more in depth about your concerns and listen to what s/he says. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

you are maybe slightly on the heavier side, but barely, so it's no big deal

don't go on a diet!!

at 12 you are still growing taller, and you will slim out as long as you stay fairly active.

that said, if you friends are making fun of your weight--they are NOT your friends. tell them it really bothers you. if they don't understand that and act accordingly, then you should try and find new friends.

best of luck to you!

Answer 10

I'm 5'6", twelve years old, and around 130-140. I constantly worry about my weight. But, truth be told, once I'm with my friends, I stop caring because I realize that they accept me for who I am and that they don't care as long as we have fun together. They're not friends. Friends are what make you feel like you're the greatest person ever. Friends are there for you. Friends make you feel great.