Pre-marital sex?

Question

Ok, I am hoping to get some honest answers our of you guys. Please approach this question with the utmost maturity.

Since I am posting this in the "Religious and Spirituality" section, I am looking more for faith based answers, but you may answer upon your own opinion if you have no faith. Thanks!

What is your stace/belief/opinion on pre-marital sex? Did you once believe one way and now that has changed? What changed it? Do you find it as a problem in society, or just a natural "evolution" of thoughts and lieniency?

Answer 1

i shall do my best.

1. premarital sex is fine. its the consequences you shoulc be concerned about, not the action. sex is healthy, regardless of wether youre married or not.

2. its not a problem in society per se. there are alot of people who dont consider the consequences, they have to deal with those consequences. to say or imply that theyre somehow a bad spot on the apploe of society is unfair. there are plenty of single parents who raise good kids. im one of them. i was raised by my mother.

3. leniency has nothing to do with it. no one person or group controldwhat peopl do, wether its in public or in private. that includes homosexuality. your claim of leniencey implies that thjere is a group of people who are the authority on what is right and wrong. society is the ultimate authority on morality. society has come to the conclsion that premarital sex is perfectly moral if youre safe.

religion or the religious are hardly asource of morality. not should you base your morals on religion or the faith of others. especially in this case.

Answer 2

As a Christian, I will not answer this with a bunch of bible scripture, instead, look at it this way.
When a man and woman are involved in a relationship, they share dreams, hopes, and thoughts of the future. During this time the foundation of the relationship is being built. They are finding all the common interests and tastes. When you bring sex into the relationship, the foundation stops being built because the focus becomes the sex, you begin to judge each other according to how good the sex is rather than how well your lives together will be lived out. It also cheapens the whole relationship down to being a feel good ordeal. Biblical speaking, these relationships are terrible because it often creates a child who has a huge chance of being fatherless because the man who fathered him has not made a true commitment, marriage. He can leave anytime he wants to, that is what will be in his mind.

Answer 3

I've skimmed through all the answers you've received and have come to the conclusion that when it comes to sex, let alone sex prior to marriage, the variety of opinion appears to be endless! As you are looking for faith based answers as opposed to the obvious repercussions of the physical sexual act itself, let me throw yet another faith based viewpoint into the ring!

The act of sex, when it is shared by two people who care deeply for each other, is sacred. It is the human, physical reflection and representation of the union between God and Goddess. It holds within the act itself, great power. When it is done under the conditions described, it literally joins the two people in more than can be seen or felt. This is the best case scenario for the act of sex whether it happens prior to official, religious joining together or not.

Casual sex is quite another thing. It is primarily physical and does not require the two participants to feel deeply for each other. This does not necessarily mean that it's a bad thing. It is, without question, very different from the sacred act of sex.

Sex is a part of life and life is a part of sex. I truly believe that if you take responsibility for your actions, and that means your actions in all things, not just sex, you can't go far wrong. But never forget that there is something magical and special waiting for you when you find that one person who sees you for who you really are. Then and only then can sex be created in its highest state - sacred and virtually impossible to describe in words.

Answer 4

Great question. My initial response was "have as much pre-marital sex as possible because there won't be any post-marital sex!" I apologize for that because I can see that your question is a rather serious one and important.

I am a Christian and honestly believe in waiting until you find your soulmate and get married. However, that is not an easy thing to do especially if you don't find the right partner until later in life.
Personally, I think there should be an age limit to getting married...perhaps 21? We need to mature physically, emotionally and most of all spiritually!

Answer 5

Okay.

Bear with me for a minute here, please.

The reason that pre-marital sex is discouraged in the bible is because we are taught that when you have sex with a person you leave a little piece of your soul with that person.

We are taught that sex is sacred because it is the one thing that creates life and should only be shared between a husband and a wife.

Otherwise, we take can sex for granted or make it something that is profane.

If we make something that is sacred profane; then is it really surprising that women are abused and children are not valued as the miracles that they are?

Now, since you are talking about PRE-MARITAL sex then you are talking about getting married.

I do recall that concerning sex it is written (I can't recall where at the moment, sorry) that "If a man should lay with a women and they marry then they have not sinned."

Emphasis here, so long as you get married.

Besides, why would you want to give something to another man who is not your husband.

That is rather like cheating your future husband out of something very precious that he must share with whomever else you have shared it with.

Not to mention all of the pain, heartache and emotional baggage that other relationships cause.

Hope this helps.

All wishes for many blessings and much happiness to you and your future hubbie.

Answer 6

Do what you like the religious people say it's against the will of God(ie them). When the Bible doesn't say whether or not as a 30 year old Jewish man Jesus was married. The whole argument of sexually Transmitted diseases is made to scare you into being 'pure' for your husband when you marry. What they also say is Jesus forgives all so if you aren't a virgin when married or have had sex if Jesus forgives you how can they not. Life is about experience and once you've had this experience Judge for yourself. This is the 21st Century in the west they can't force you to anything, Just scare into doing what they want. Sex is great and if was good enough for your ancestors whos to say they were wrong your here aren't you. And if the man who you might want to marry someday really does love you whether or not you've had sex before won't matter to him.

Answer 7

Sexual things are a gift from God for man and woman in marriage. There is a reason God set it up this way - look at the spread of disease among sexually active people. All STDs could be stopped if people held to God's plan for marriage.

Hebrews 13:4 among others.

I have always believed that pre-marital sex was wrong - though when young I wanted desperately to find a loophole!!!

Answer 8

It is wrong and always has been wrong. The only reason it has become acceptable to the world is due to artificial birth control, which used to be prohibited by every Christian religion until the Aglican Church reversed their stance in the 1930's. Every denomination other than the Catholic Church soon followed suit. The number of STD's that exsit in the world has grown exponentially as have the number of abortions.

I think premarital sex has totally robbed a lot of couples from experiencing true intimacy and it is really sad that it has become so commonplace.

Answer 9

First of all, I'm a Christian.

Here is a good example of how to view marriage from a Biblical standpoint...

Baptism is the outward symbol that we have accepted Christ into our lives and not the actual act that has saved us.

Also, the Wedding is the outward symbol that a couple has been married and not the actual act that joins these two together.

Sex is the act that unites two people. Sex is what makes two people joined in marriage. The two have become one flesh.

I realise that not all Christians agree with this and not all denominations will teach this, but I didn't ask other people what they THINK and I dont just absorb everything the pastor, reverend, priest, or whoever spits out and then simply recite it. No, I get my facts from the Bible, from God's Word, not from man's opinions.

There is no such thing as premarital sex.
Sex is Marriage.

After two people have had sex they are married and cannot have sex with anyone else. Now that they are married, sex with anyone else is adultry and fornication and sinful.

Answer 10

I used to be all into the whole absolutely no sex before marrige, virtuious thing and all...

but I don't think its as big of a deal as I once did. I've come to understand theres a whole lot of things alot worse than having some sexual experiences before marrige.

but, I have not yet, and I have no idea if I will before I get married. but I don't see it as an absolute thing that won't happen... (once I did) if the circumstances come together, sure, if not, then not.

theres no reason to hurry about it, but I don't think its reasonable or neccsary to be absolutely locked in either. but being able to appriciate the "risks" and such, and all that, the maturity and such is very important.

Answer 11

I don't believe that premarital sex is right. The Lord knows what is best for us and there must be a reason why he told us to FLEE fornication. It must be pretty important for Him to tell us to literally run from doing this sin. It is a problem with society and relationships. It seems that there is no real loyalty in relationships anymore and real strong foundations built on friendship, love and respect is getting more scarce. Being single and waiting can be tough but i consider it a sacrifice unto God. I am 30 and still a virgin patiently waiting on God to provide the right guy for me. So don't give up.