i am a stay at home mom, my hubby is a police officer! There are times I just need some alone time! So like today I am goin to a friends house alone. Hubby doesnt mind. But when I do I feel guilty for leaving for a few hours! Is this normal or does anyone know why I feel like that? Does anyone else feel the same way?
2006-09-26 12:17:11 · 24 answers · asked by woohooo 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
no wouldnt ever cheat on hubby, and havent done anythign illegal! Really havent a reason to feel guilty
2006-09-26 12:22:28 · update #1
the friend is a girl...lol...not a guy....
2006-09-26 12:24:25 · update #2
us sah moms always feel guilty.... it never stops... we feel guilty when we leave because we feel like we should be there 24/7---that is our job-taking care of our family and when we leave, for some ungodly reason, we feel guilty... it sucks, but remember, you cant take care of anyone if you dont take care of yourself first! so just get over it and enjoy yourself!! your hubby and children will be happier and definately, so will you!!
2006-09-26 12:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by whaaatthe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you don't really need "alone" time after all. But I can tell you DO need some time away from your husband. That is totally normal. You shouldn't feel like you have to be attached at the hip or anything. Every once-in-awhile I go and I actually see a movie by myself in the theater. It is a nice break. But I do end up feeling a little guilty, but we don't NEED to feel guilty. It's just a feeling of obligation. Now if your "friend" is a guy... there might be another reason you feel guilty (not meaning you necessarily did anything wrong). But that's a whole other issue.
2006-09-26 12:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by mdawne2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very normal. I was a single mom raising two kids, working full time and there never seemed to be enough time to take care of all the things I needed to get done. But I knew that if I didn't have "me" time I would end up resenting my kids. So I dealt with the guilt and took the time (very little, but I still did it).
Remember: Guilt is a negative emotion that serves absolutely no purpose unless you really have done something to feel guilty about. Being a mom is a very tough job. Please don't waste the time feeling guilty for something that is quite normal and healthy.
2006-09-26 12:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you I have gone down that road, my husband is a CO and I honestly believe they are all the same, if I walked into a room with other wives of CO's it would be like listening to a tape recorder that I made myself. So the question I'm getting at is...are there other things happening with your marriage??
Does he get to go to his friends house by himself?? I tried the stay at home thing and I got a lot of resentment. (ie.."you stayed home all day where you could just lay on the couch if you wanted to, now you want to go out!") and I'm sure every stay at home mom knows it doesn't work that way. I was all to happy to go back to work! Is your hubby ok with it? Maybe it is just any easy answer like you really love him and he loves you and you just both miss each other when he's gone! :)
2006-09-26 12:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both seem to love and trust each other and that is healthy and good. Don't feel guilty if your actions, mind and heart are clean. And since hubby doesn't mind, go let your hair down, enjoy yourself and then come back and give him an even better time!
Life's Lovely! Love & Live Life!
2006-09-26 15:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by Starreply 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All stay at home moms feel this way at some time. I work at night and stay at home with our 5 kids all day and my husband works during the day. On weekends I usually will have some alone time since we both don't work on Sunday. I at first felt terrible since he needs to relax but I talked to him about it and he totally understood. We as stay at home moms work a full time job raising our children. It is very stressful and you need alone time to regenerate. You shouldn't feel bad it might be easier saying but really you deserve it!
2006-09-26 12:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by natmys333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I know of house wife's (I used to be one) for some reason you feel like you should be home and getting things done even when you go out for lunch. I'm not sure why but your not the only one.
2006-09-26 12:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by heidischu2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good cop , bad cop syndrome ? Just kidding with you honestly you have nothing to feel guilty about and deserve some time to yourself . Nice that your husband understands this also , sounds like you just need to get used to the idea and enjoy it that's all there is too it . Have fun relax and enjoy !
2006-09-26 12:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs some time away from their significant other and kid(s) every now and then. You shouldn't feel guilty (unless you're doing something bad behind his back while you're out). Enjoy your time with your friends.
2006-09-26 12:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have a problem with it, so you have no reason to feel guilty. Tell your husband about the guilt, ask him how he feels. His reassurance that everything is ok will make all the difference.
2006-09-26 12:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋