First of all, let me say, I AM NOT ABUSED. I keep hearing sermons about divorce. The preachers all talk about the fornication issue, but never mention abuse. So I've been wondering...I know the Bible says the only excuse for divorce is when one spouse cheats on the other. But what about domestic violence? I can't find anything stating whether or not it's ok to divorce if one spouse is physically abused by the other. It does say the husband should treat the wife as well as he treats himself, but it doesn't say anything about whether she can divorce him if he doesn't. Can anyone give me scripture about this subject?
2006-09-26 12:16:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The Bible doesn't specifically mention spousal abuse. But a wife can separate from her husband and seek to be reconciled to him later on.
1 Corinthians 7:10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.
Peter also gives this advice to wives whose husbands do not obey the word, however he wasn't talking about husbands who physically abuse their wives.
1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives-- 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external--the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold, or the putting on of clothing-- 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.
If a husband abuses his wife and he claims to be a Christian then the pattern laid out by Jesus needs to be followed.
Matthew 18:15 "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
If the husband won't stop or seek counseling then after the wife and then the wife and a friend or two talk to him the church should be told and if he won't listen to them then he falls into the category of an unbeliever and divorce becomes an option if reconciliation doesn't take place after separation.
1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.
2006-09-26 12:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Martin S 7 · 4⤊ 6⤋
Dear sister, with all due respect scripture says a great many things about a great many things and we have become so used to fast-food that now we demand fast-answers. However, the Bible does not work this way; we cannot simply elect to bring a sentence out of context and while treating it in isolation make definative religious laws. We can play Bible bingo until the cows come home and we will get no-where.
Sometimes we ought to proceed with common sense and follow the spirit of the text, which is always freedom and liberty. In times of abuse, there is no question as to the future of the marriage and any attempt by a preacher or rabbi to co-erse the victim into staying on scriptural grounds is acting inethically and participating in the abuse of the victim.
2006-09-26 12:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbi Yohanneh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is certainly not the unforgivable sin, and when a couple divorces, it is only right that the church show compassion and understanding—especially in cases where abuse or truly irreconcilable issues have made the marriage a misery and a mockery. Maybe this site will help a little.
2006-09-26 12:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matt.19:8 Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives BECAUSE YOUR HEARTS WERE HARD. But it was not this way from the beginning.
No woman should risk her life to live with a man who is abusive. any man who is abusive is severley frowned upon.
1 Tim 5:8 If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
the word provide in the greek is to look out for, this also means to care for, one should not be afraid to leave an abusive relationship, that is not what God has planned for anyone. Yes, God hates divorce, but he also wants us to choose life.
Deut. 30:19 This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now CHOOSE LIFE, SO THAT YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN MAY LIVE.
2006-09-26 12:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by setfreejn836 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2015-01-28 12:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says the only reason a person can remarry, is for fornication, or death. you can Divorce, but you cannot remarry, you have to choose between being married and abused, or divorced and not abused, but alone without sex. I have searced and searched, I have not come up with any other answer. Try starting in Matthew chapter 19, and see what it tells you, and search from there if you have a referance Bible. The Bible is clear on the subject. we humans try our best to make it what we want it to be though.
2006-09-26 12:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
To the best of my knowledge it's only adultery that allows divorce, a crock of s*it in my opinion, either way it's an outdated and archaic book, so no one with any sense would adhere to it.
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2016-04-14 04:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-21 13:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no normal person will stay being hit (usually by a man) or even cheated on (that is known) and there is the bible verse that says, God's people have the right to peaceful living
2016-11-29 06:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce..is the 2nd most misread in the bible.
#1. Moses had laws of divorce. They lived by "Bondage Laws". They were held accoutable for "how" they lived. ok?
God, hates divorce. YES. why? Divorce hurts His children. God, hates ANYTHING that hurts His children. They may as well have put "God hates car wrecks". It's not the car wreck itself He hates. It is the "result". It hurt His children.
Jesus Christ Himself, was not for divorce..TRUE.....BUT... Jesus lived in what age? Mosaic age under the law of moses. Jesus did NOT live in the Christian age. That is why Jesus Himself was baptized under the John The Baptist. Jesus baptized NObody. People were saved by "spiritual" baptism while Jesus was here. Jesus said, "The age to come". what age? The Christian age. That started Acts. ch.2 Day of Pentecost was the age to come Jesus talked about. ALL old laws were under Grace at that point. Jesus said" Blasphemy was unforgivable. It was !!!! While Jesus was here. It was a old law. After His death, burial, and resurrection, ALL things are forgiven. (Romans). ALL things. not all things..but one. ALL things are forgiven. period. There is NO unforgivable sin. Anybody want to tell me different. This person needs to explain the book of Romans to me. They have a major verse to overcome. ALL things are forgiven, or they are not. There is a reason the book of Romans comes after the book of Acts, and Acts comes AFTER Jesus resurrection.
Jesus Christ took the beatings, hurt, sufferings, pain, torment for us on the cross, so we don't have to. Divorce, is absolutley permitted and GOD, does NOT expect anyone to be HURT for the sake of a man made marriage. How does a spousual abuse marriage glorify GOD? How does God enjoy this? How are you spiritually growing and loving more each day by getting abused? simple. YOUR NOT.
I want to to go back and read this again. I showed and explained in detail, how Jesus lived under the law of Moses. Not under the Law of Grace, like we are now. That is why so many Christians are tongue tied and can't explain some things, or than....well, the bible says it. hahahaha.
They simply have not been taught what I just told you. It's not hard to figure out. Jesus lived under the law of moses. That is exactly why, things are different after the Day of Pentecost. The OLD LAWS ARE OLD LAWS. period. Some laws Jesus said, are now OLD laws. Divorce, and Blasphemy being 2 of them.
If someone wants to believe, God, would have you beat and abused, just so you can be in a marriage that He can't benefit in any way from it. Then you believe it.
You know what?. I have been around the block twice in my life. I know this : ANYTHING a Christian tells you on this forum, that person WILL be held accountable, for the advise they give you. you know that?
A person should be very wise and very careful before spouting something off. I will stand firm and before God, Himself, in what I just told you.
Good Luck. Pray about it. Don't let anyone, tell you what to do. GOD, will put on your heart what to do.
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2006-09-26 12:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
The GOD does NOT want people getting beaten up in a marriage-- particularly children..
DIVORCE is necessary in this case.
In ancient times a wife or child beater was brought before the elders at the gate and after judgment he was STONED TO DEATH.
Stoning is OUT -so Divorce musts be IN!
2006-09-26 12:21:22 · answer #11 · answered by whynotaskdon 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋