see with there 18 old daughter in college dating a 22 year old also in college? My parents just say he is too old and mature and fast for me?so i have taken to sneaking out to see him.
2006-09-26 11:54:50 · 11 answers · asked by Melanie o 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He is not too old for you. Try bringing home a 30 year old.
2006-09-26 12:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by mkc 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Goodness. Parents are really clueless sometimes. First of all there is nothing at all wrong with an 18 year old seeing a 22 year old. When I was 17 I was seeing a 27 year old and that same year I had the opportunity to date a guy in his 40s--I passed because at that time my own father was only 37 and it seemed too weird dating a guy older than my dad. But even if the parents really think the age difference is too great--they should know better than to forbid it because everyone knows that drives a person to do it all the more. Plus, at 18 you're an adult and the choice is no longer theirs. You shouldn't have to sneak out. You should simply tell them you are an adult and the choice is yours. You appreciate their input but you're going to do what you want.
2006-09-26 21:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at an interesting age during which you are now considered an adult in many ways (voting, etc.) but not in others (drinking, etc.). It is a time for you to grow and explore. While the age difference itself is not that great, I think your parents are probably more concerned with the point you are both at now. At 22, he has most likely done some exploring of his own and may be ready for more than what you or your parents would like. That being said, I was 19 when I met my husband (25 at the time). I had been living on my own since I was 17, working my way through college. I had a rough first year on my own- exploration can be fun but can also have consequences (which I am sure your parents are aware of). I was independent and mature in many ways, but lacking in experience with the party and dating scene that you are thrown into when you go to college. Before meeting my husband, I had my share of hurt and heartache. When I met him, we took things slow and married 4 years later. We now have 3 beautiful girls. I am sure that your parents just want to protect you. My advice is to be honest with them, talk about how you feel, and come to a compromise. Sneaking out to see him is not going to demonstrate to them that you are mature or ready to handle yourself in situations they are not comfortable with. If you really like this person, suggest a meeting in neutral territory, preferably with a distraction to help ease any tension. Talk to them about places and events that they would feel comfortable with you meeting with him. Hopefully, they will see that you really like this person and are willing to be responsible and take things slow. If he is worthy of you and your parents trust, you should be able to establish a relationship without hurting your relationship with your parents. Good luck!
2006-09-26 21:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by teacher/mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult, you are both in college. Go for it. I don't understand the sneaking around part. Do you still live at home? You might want to find out if your parents have some other reason for not liking him. The age difference is really no that big.
2006-09-26 19:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by armywifetp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents only want you to be safe. If they say he's too old then I'm sure they have a reason for saying that. By you sneaking around just to see him will only get you in trouble, is he worth losing your parents trust and possibly your education? Try to talk to your parents again and see what they say, maybe they think you are just too young to be with someone that is old enough to drink.
2006-09-26 19:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by peg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you are grown you dont have to sneak anywhere and the age gap isnt that big im 22 and my husband is 46 and im fine with it and so are my parents, siblings, and the rest of my family and weve been together for almost 5 years and have 3 children together and have a stable and successful marriage dont let anyone steer you away from your feelings
2006-09-26 19:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by mookie mama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont feel he is too old for u actually i feel he is the right age...guyt at that age difference are best beacuse they ca assist u in every way possible...
ok as for ur parents are concerned u have to see their point of view in question to what makes them feel he is too old...ask them and try finding out what makes them feel he is too old...by the way sneaking wont help u out but sitting down and talking to ur parents will help a lot and dear try to see all their concerns raised u will geta answer and u dont need to sneak next time.....good luckkk
2006-09-26 19:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sneaking out? at 18? Come on, either live with their rules or move out.
2006-09-26 19:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In High school 4 years is a BIG difference but out side of high school it's not such a big deal. I say tell your parents, you in college and it's time for you to start making up your own mind.
2006-09-26 19:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by aier 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They're just worried about their little girl. I don't think it is a big deal. It's just to bad you have to lie to them. Have they met him yet? Hopefully he is a good guy and maybe if you brought him home they would see this.
2006-09-26 19:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋