I really like this guy he but he is 22 and i am 18 and my mom said no but since i am in college i am seeing him anyway. Is this bad i feel guilty? my parents think he is too old and mature for me?
2006-09-26 11:39:26 · 17 answers · asked by Melanie o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel dumb being 18 and sneaking out the window.
2006-09-26 11:42:30 · update #1
Plus my cufew is 10:00 on school nights and midnight on weekend!
2006-09-26 11:43:47 · update #2
yes my parents pay for everything and i live with them.
2006-09-26 11:44:57 · update #3
It's not bad but feeling guilty is normal. You're 22 date who you want. You only live once and dating people your parents disapprove of is half the fun of being young.
2006-09-26 11:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a lot of people have this problem? When I was 18, I was allowed to see anyone I wanted too. I got married to a man who was 36 a few months after I turned 18. I am 20, and he is 39 now. My mother hates him, but my father loves him. You are a grown up. You are capable of making your own decisions. Your parents aren't looking at how mature you are, they are still seeing their baby girl. Parents will always be that way. If you like him, don't let your parents get in the way. I have been there, what you can do, is sit down and have an adult conversation about it. Tell them how you feel about the guy, tell them that you will always be their daughter, but that you are no longer their "baby girl". If you act like a grown up, they will see you as a grown up. Good luck with all.
OK, your parents are WAY over protective. If they still have you on curfew, than there is something wrong with them. I didn't have a curfew when I was 18. You really need to speak to your parents about all of this.
2006-09-26 11:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 15, but I know how it is like when your parents don't let you live life. I mean, I'm not dating yet, but my mom is soooo protective. And I'm a guy! However, your parents do have the best intentions for you and they are right about things way to many times. So compromise. Continue seeing him, but don't let it get in the way of your grades. Also make sure you're not alone to avoid rape, and DON'T have sex until you get married. Just get to know the guy and stay safe. Your parents will soon realize that you can handle it.
2006-09-26 12:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to listen to your parents and respect their wishes. Still its natural for you to wanna do what you believe is right. But keep in mind that they can see things you don't see until its too late. Then again i don't think the age difference should be much of a problem, so find out if that's their only reason. And if it is possible, arrange some kind of dinner or something like that,where they can talk with him. Let them know what your feeling.
2006-09-26 11:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years in not a big age difference and you ARE an adult now so you will start making decisions for yourself over the next few years and relying less on your parents input.
Ask yourself if he is really a decent guy, though. You don't want to date someone just to make your parents mad....that isn't fair to anyone (not that I think you are doing that but some girls do).
2006-09-26 11:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea since your an adult as long as your not dating a 14 yr old you should be Ok to date whomever your heart desires I would feel guitly too but you need to stand up for yourself and let her know that you are seeing this man you are an adult and she no longer has the right to tell you what to do good luck !!
2006-09-26 11:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is their only reason for not liking him I wouldn't worry too much about it. Your parents are probably more afraid of losing their little girl. I went through the same situation in college and my parents got over it eventually.
2006-09-26 11:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by smilestoomuch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your father and mom are unable to work out what style of man or woman he's previous his outfits, tattoos, etc. he could artwork better frustrating to win the approval of your father and mom. Invite him over for dinners, video games, or chats which includes your father and mom. The better your father and mom get to understand him the better they need him (if he's the finished guy you're declaring he's).
2016-12-02 03:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by dahle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should date who you want, not who your parents want. They should be near you only to give you an advice and not an order. They are wrong on this, not you.
About paying one person mentioned... If they pay for everything about you, i.e. if they support you, that doesn't mean that they bought you or any exclusive right on you and that you are their slave. Remember, it is their duty to support you, you are their child. Finally, somebody supported them when they were young, don't you think?
2006-09-29 07:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Smart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who is paying for your college and your living and your whatever
if your parents are supporting you, then you should make every effort to take guidance from them
you should discuss your situation with them and if you can't agree, you should not go behind their back but tell them what you are doing and why
if you are 18 years old and you are supporting yourself financially, then you should listen to your parents advice, and then do what you think is right (you should continue to honor your parents throughout your life but your responsibility to obey them goes away as their responsibility to provide for you goes away)
2006-09-26 11:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋