A woman can be smart, accomplished,sincere, kind, and all those wonderful things, As soon as she mentions that she is a mom , men run the other way! Why is that?
2006-09-26 11:26:02 · 35 answers · asked by JewelsH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BULLS**T
i would do you
no just kiddin
how old are you?
how old is the kid?
not all man run away your just meeting the wrong ones sweety!!!!
CHEERS MATE!!!!
have a good one
2006-09-26 11:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by darknightmare01 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its that the men don't want to date the woman, I think its that they don't want to feel responsible for the child as well. When you get into a relationship with a "no ties" women it opens up the relationship to experimental things, more dates, more alone time, dinners, movies, all the sex the two can handle. But when a guy starts dating a mom, alot of that initial, (honey moon period) goes out the window, as the mom has to care for the kid/s babysitter, the child not liking the boyfriend, lack of alone time, dates, etc. Its alot of trouble for the male. But it the child is 12-18 its not really that big a deal. Its almost the time where the mother gets the time back. Then I don't think guys would mind it that much. Or at least I wouldn't. I have been interested in plenty of moms. I have friends that are single dads, of even 2 children.
2006-09-26 11:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not true for all men! You just gotta stop trying to pick up guys at bars, pubs, nightclubs or strip joints. Unless you just wanna get laid, which is not bad, but dont expect to find your kid's stepfather that way.
I have dated girls with kids and its quite a handful, in a good but responsible way. Nothing beats an morning or afternoon with a single mom and her kid. There is never an awkard moment and kids find anything amusing, so its like there is so much to do and too little time! Kids never get tired either, so its like a full work out.
You need to find a daytime kinda guy, someone who is mature (not old, just mature) someone who likes kids (not a perv or a gay guy) and someone who is very patience: Kids are the bets ice breakers but also the biggest "adult time" spoilers. LOL
Try going to the park, library, museum, any place that is open only on daytime. Go with your kid (I guess this depends on how old he/she may be)
Take it slow thought, you should get to know the guy and let him get to know you before you let him anywhere near you child. Kids remember and get attached, no need to give them a divorce trauma just because you picked the wrong man.
Good luck! have lots of patience and use your brains more than your heart, You are now protecting yours and your child's.
2006-09-26 12:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to take on responsibility for another man's children. Men have a hard enough time with commitment and the prospect of children without having the whole family provided at a moments notice.
Remember also that it may not be that there is a distinction with children but it could also be the misgivings of having been divorced. Usually divorces are unhappy and debilitating and with children involved there are good chances that the ex will be continually involved in the relationship. This makes future hopes of happiness and peace with that person impossible to imagine.
2006-09-26 11:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by r_k_winters 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, some men don't mind dating single mothers
but for many men, the child or children is just an extra complication that they aren't prepared to deal with
men realize that for most mother's, their children come first
this means that dates, trips, return home times, weekends, and everything else is a little more difficult to work out, a little more cumberson
many men naturally shun complication in their relationships AND responsibility
a women with children represents both complication and responsibility to many men
On the other hand, some men are looking for a stable, decent, mature person who exhibits responsibility. A successful mother is usually all of that.
2006-09-26 11:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by enginerd 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can only tell you why women don't want to date single fathers... I'm guessing it's the same reasons for guys! I would never date a single father, because I simply don't want the committment of having to take care of someone else's kids. I have a hard enough time talking myself into having my own. I don't enjoy being around kids that much, and want to start my family "from scratch", not with the extra baggage.
There are many people who WILL date a single parent, however. Just keep looking!
2006-09-26 11:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
there are many reasons why a single guy isn't looking for a gal with kids.
1. fear of commitment - they don't want to deal with the possibility of having to make a relationship with the gal AND their kid.
2. time alone - most guys want a gal "all for themselves" first before creating a family. if the gal already has a child, the kid will come first, and some guys don't want to compete with a child.
3. time - as any parent knows, kids eat up your time and energy (no i'm not bashing kids... i take care of my nephew and helped a LOT in raising my siblings, so i know how much attention and energy it will need to take care of them/keep them happy) i've seen friends who's plans/dates were drastically changed or canceled because all schedules must be made around the child.
4. not family - there are many guys who would not be as patient or as caring with a kid who wasn't their own, compared to if it was their own blood. they can get annoyed and ultimately decide they don't want to deal with that.
5. baggage - much like having an ex who still sees a current gf can be considered baggage, having a kid usually entails having an ex (the baby's daddy) who will ALWAYS be around (this is not always the case of course). and that coupled with some of the other things in this list could be considered "emotional baggage" by most guys.
2006-09-26 11:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by kiss my wookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely wrong!!! I think they just want you to themselves and don't want to deal with your kids! This makes me sick every time I see or hear about this! They should love you no matter what!! Just like you said a woman can be all of those wonderful things, but as SOON as you mention KIDS, they blow you off!! I know about this because I remember my loving single mother on the phone with a guy and she says she has kids and the conversation would end within 10 seconds!!! Don't worry, there are alot of good men out there, they're just kind of hard to find these days.
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2016-05-17 11:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men have an idea of what they are looking for when they approach relationships. For a lot of men that include a woman's quota of kids.
It is a psychological thing, there are married men who are deeply in love with their wives who would have turned their nose up and not even gave her consideration if she had kids before hand.
If a man is not willing to consider you because you have kid, that is telling you something about HIM. There is nothing that you can do about it, and does not make him a bad guy! He could be a stage in his life that HE has decided that dealing with children is not something that he is prepared for. That is better than taking advantage of you and leaving when the fun is over.
2006-09-26 11:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by dscot399 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's not always true. In my last relationship I wound up getting along with my ex's son really well. If a man loves you he should be able to accept the fact that you have a child. I think some men are opposed to raising a child that isn't thiers. To me that shows you aren't much of a man. Don't take it out on the child.
2006-09-26 11:30:41 · answer #11 · answered by stackman71 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋