My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year I know he loves me and for a long time I loved him too the same way but here lately I have been feeling that while I still love him it is not in the same way not in a boyfriend/girlfriend way but more like a big brother way I know he still loves me as a girlfriend and I don't want to hurt him but how do I let him know that my feeling for him are changing without hurting him?
2006-09-26 11:11:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He will be hurt. You have to accept that and be honest with him anyway--don't try to weasel out of it in a way that will make you feel like you're being nice but will only end up confusing him and hurting him more. Just tell him how you feel and be prepared for him to be hurt.
2006-09-26 11:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what when a relationship ends someones feeling get hurt. The best thing is to be honest with him. The truth is people often grow apart. Things in life change, interests change and that just can't be helped. If he's a mature person he'll understand. If he's not, like most people, then it will be hard and if the two of you still have a good friendship after than grate if not than just chalk it up as a wonderful relationship and good memories. Don't stay in a relationship that your not happy in. Move on. He may come around later on in life and the two of you can have a good friendship. When you let him down with the bad news allow him to vent. Try and explain your feelings as best you can. Don't be afraid of saying, "its not you its me." Make sure to stress that its not because of some other guy, even if it is. He's aloud to be angry and feel hurt. Don't worry about him, he'll move on and find someone new.
2006-09-26 18:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Fuzzybunny95531 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some guys accept what women feelings because they're understandable and they know being a temporary couple won't last. So I suggest, tell him about what your true feelings are how it changed. It'll hurt them but on the other side they will understand you and they might gonna realise that you an honest woman and who knows, he will tell you that it will be ok. Or maybe you'll be friends after that. Don't be afraid about the negativity, just expect the unexpected, therefore you have to ready for what you're going to say. Just start with a diplomat talk, it'll works.
2006-09-26 18:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by M&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the longer you wait and let him think your in love with him....the more it will hurt when you tell him. If you love him even the slightest bit (big bro or not) you will tell him the moment you get the chance. this will hurt him-but the sooner you do the sooner he'll be able to get over it. and as for you in this situation you don't need the stress of playing the part you don't want to play
good luck
2006-09-26 18:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by katie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will be hurt. Just let him down as easily as you can, and tell him you'd like to see other people. Make SURE this is what you want though.
2006-09-26 18:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you stay with him for another week, just give it a chance to see if your feelings come back, if they don't you have to be honest with him,,tell him u dont feel the same as before but ud still like to be friends,,if he doesn't accept that then theres nothing you can do...at least you were honest.
2006-09-26 18:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by before&after 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to him to tell him that your feelings have changed, he will definitly be hurt but that comes with loving someone. Just be gentle about it.
Good luck
2006-09-26 18:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by caninesuds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him. he might not be the guy for u if ur feeling like that about him. i know it'll be hard, because u've been going out for a year with him.
2006-09-26 18:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by guess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help it that your not interested in him anymore.and if he really loves you he will respect you and let you go so you two can just be friends.good luck.-Kayla
2006-09-26 18:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't - he'll be hurt
But soon he'll realize that you certainly don't have the last vagina on earth and will move on to another vagina.
2006-09-26 18:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋