I'm 14, my friends ex has a best friend. His best friend and I talk online sometimes. We've been talking for a while. he asked me for my number and I gave it to him. He's my age. and...to be perfectly honest I've never had a boyfriend before. So lets say he calls me.....what am I supposed to say? How should I act? What are we supposed to talk about. I know I sound pathetic....but please, any advice?
2006-09-26 10:46:08 · 21 answers · asked by Sarah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just talk about whatever comes to your mind. be honest and act like yourself! :) trust me.
2006-09-26 10:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by sharonstaples84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound pathetic at all - relationships are more likely to make people nervous than anything else.
Good news - relax, and you probably will be just fine.
First off, if he calls you, don't make more of it than it is - he's a guy, you talked online, now he's calling you. It's a conversation, not a marriage proposal, so just keep doing what you're doing. Talk, listen, take the chance to get to know him better, enjoy yourself.
If he asks you out, hey, great - another chance to get to know him better. Not the end of the world. Not a walk down the aisle with bridesmaids. Fate of the world doesn't hang on it - it's just a movie, or dinner, or whatever, so enjoy yourself.
Remind yourself that he's a human being, with fears and insecurities ( that he'll call and will be so dull you'll hang up, or fall asleep). Guys are just as nervous about all of this as we are - they fear screwing up, sounding lame, being rejected.
Enjoy the conversation, ask about his life, listen to the answers, get to know him better. Remember he'll be nervous too, and you want to put him at ease, right? Making him feel more comfortable will keep your mind off how nervous you are. Good luck!
2006-09-26 10:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know those movies where the nerd copies down a bunch of topics on flashcards so he can have something to talk about? Well theres a reason we all laugh at it, because you just can't program it, there will be uncomfortable silences but just keep it up, talk about things you have in common, or school or sports and things liek that. It will get easier as you start talking and hopefully you will loose all the anxiety and nervousness.
2006-09-26 10:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by c_mitu89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and let him do most of the talking at first till feel ok on da phone with him. Just answer the questions he asks and just relax and have a good time, dont get too worried cuz then u will mummble and u dont want that to happen.
I hope this helps
2006-09-26 10:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 09:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, just say hello and imagine as if you were having a conversation on line. Be yourself and relax. When a person is nervous sometimes we say things that sound really silly. Don't be nervous and everything should go just fine. God bless and take care.
2006-09-26 10:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont try to act normal cuz then it will just sound wierd but pretend that ur talking to ur cousin and u wont get so nervose (i have no idea how to spell that!) but if u like him more than a friend just be nice and ask him about school and stuff like totally normal
=) good luck
2006-09-26 11:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same situation. Be like hey whats up. dont let there be a time when neither of you are talking, thats soo akward. talk about school, classes, music, sports, what you like to do, what he likes to do, "have you seen this movie?". have fun! once you get the conversation going you probably wont be able to stop! and think, hes probably askin ghis buds the same question! lol
2006-09-26 10:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Candy099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this guy obviously likes you otherwise he wouldn't talk to you and want to call you so really you don't need to be nervous. relax and just act natural. talk about the things that you would talk to your friends about. everyone is nervous when they talk to someone that they like and he will be too. good luck.
2006-09-26 10:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first calm down.... if he calls you just go witht he flow...start of with the usual hi ...how are you....don't give him too much info. about your life, just talk about random stuff like sports you aren't ready to tell him about your inner thoughts, secrets, or family related things just keep it single, don't talk for too late at night because he might think your easy...but first of all calm down and if he doesn't call don't sweat it, things happen for a reason....HOPE IT HELPS
2006-09-26 10:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by ...i <3 Xavi... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋