ok, has anyone felt like they were really alone....i mean like no one would ever love them because of how they were treated in past relationships and because it seem that you are going through life unoticed? I know this is going to sound like im a lonely desperate girl but im just curious..its like they say there is someone out there for everyone, but sometimes it doesnt seem like it....i have good self esteem and everything so dont even think that i have low self esteem.....i jsut feel like im not good enough to be loved......
2006-09-26 10:42:04 · 22 answers · asked by *lonely one* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello, wow I thought I was the only one who felt like that! No one really understands unless they have gone through the same thing themselves.Have you been through a breakup lately? Something like that can get you all bummed out, and thinking that nothing is ever going to change.You can get so focused on what you don't have - then that is all you see- your "aloneness" & that can make your life look bleak.You say that you" feel like you're not good enough to be loved" & that is low self esteem when it comes to relationships-although you may have self esteem in other areas(work- school) in personal relationships you feel on the outside looking in.Well guess what? yes you do deserve love & there is someone out there who would be delighted to have a relationship with you- you just have to find him. When someone loves you it feels so great & you love yourself too & that's what you need to do is love yourself.Try to find you a friend to hang out with & who will be a positive influence in your life -go to church or do something, don't sit at home & think about your situation...think about your dream & your hope...love -the greatest thing in the world. If you lost a $100 bill in the house wouldn't you search untill you found it? Isn't love many times more precious?Start looking honey for that special man & when you find him you will be so happy! I'm wishing the best for you & good luck!!!
2006-09-26 11:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I am actually surprised you post a question like this, cuz I feel E-X-A-C-T-L-Y the same way. I've had six crushes, and I have one now, and none of them have ever loved me back, they have NEVER gave me a chance to show who I really was. The boy I'm crushing on now says I'm a good kid, but he doesn't like me "like that". He is like the BEST guy I have ever met, but he won't give me a chance, even though we're like best friends, and it will never go any further, he even said so in the exact same words. I have also been raped when I was 10, no sex but he touched me in areas I REALLY didn't want to. So all my life I figured love either treated me like a joke or I was never going to get it from anyone. I've learned a lot in all my 15 years, and I've come to the conclusion that love doesn't do any good for me, only drags my heart down and walks all over it. If anything, do what I'm doing: DO NOT tell yourself that no one will ever love you...EVER. All it will do is drag your self-esteem down til' there's nothing left of it. I've learned this from all my friends: I am a good person, there is nothing wrong with me, people can't see my inner beauty because they don't look, I've still got many years ahead of me, and that love comes most likely when you're NOT looking for it. I did this and what do you know? Some guy from my friend's church said he thought I was cute (of course he was a druggie and had bipolar disorder, and considering my past, I don't want to be stuck with a guy who got put in anger management for a good reason). I'm not saying the only guys you'll meet are the bad ones (I thought the same exact thing myself), but it is true that love will come when you're not looking for it. If you want to hear more I've got this site saved on my email, so just keep using the site. Hope my advice helps. Good luck!
2006-09-26 17:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Karana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have not found the right person yet. I know that was how I felt until I found my husband. But the reality was none of the other people that I met, were really important after all.You need to work on figuring out how to love yourself, because you are good enough to be loved. This is the hardest lesson to figure out and to learn. You don't mention how old you are. I think everbody has felt just like you at one time or another in their lives.
2006-09-26 17:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by mischa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually...
This sounds just like my life. Meaning, I have good self estem but because of past relationships it crushed and forced me to build a wall around my heart for the fear of being hurt by love. Through a now mutual friend I met my boyfriend who I am allowing slowly to learn about my past and causing me to breakdown the wall that made feel alone and unloved.
But, I only allowed myself to enter relationship after re-evaluating myself and why I felt the way I felt. I had to take the time to build a relationship with God who has a never ending love and truly taught me how to love. You gotta learn to love yourself before you have someone else love you.
Just remember it starts with you. Think of it this way you are a timeless investment that what you put in to your investment you are hoping that it gives you a profitable return. Build a relationship with your self. Remember it takes time to build a relationship and a relationship builds with time.
2006-09-26 18:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by peachtreecity404 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through a slump. Relationship slumps, Dating Slumps, Life Slumps. Even athletes go through slumps!
How do you combat it?
Simple. Do things differently. Write down your routine and what you do day by day for a week. Find out if there is a pattern. that will show you the reason why you are in a slump. Next, chart out a different routine. try it. You might find someone new.
Even bodybuilders go through slumps. they look at their routine, change it and notice a difference in their physiques.
Dating slumps can be corrected by changing the places you go hang out, the people you hang out might factor in, even how you dress might factor into it. I don't know your situation exactly but I am sure if you apply this technique and tailor it to your situation you might notice a difference, or somone might take notice of you!
Good luck!
2006-09-26 17:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ladronaso Delarosa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you! I was treated really badly in the past and sometimes feel like 'damaged goods' but I don't stress about it. I enjoy my own company and I know myself pretty well and I feel like that is really important for the future so I won't let anyone treat me that way again. Make sure you love yourself first. Close your eyes and imagine you are giving your soul a big hug. It always makes me feel better. Have a good day =)
2006-09-26 17:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by sticky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww, sweetie, don't give up!
It's true; someone out there is looking for you. And, if you begin to have a negative attitude, they might walk right by you. Be open minded, though, because the person you might be looking for may not be who you thought they would.
My advice is just keep going strong. Everyone is good enough to be loved. I'm sure you're an amazing person... just don't give up hope!
2006-09-26 17:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by collegegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have felt that way, lots of people do. growing up the way i was treated the world taught me i was nothing, when my mom became ill all my friends were afraid of my emotions and abandond me, exept one, he stuck by me, loved me, and made me feel like something spechial for once. there is always hope, and you are more than good enough to be loved. maybe you, like me, just need a little help seeing that. and I am sure that before long you will see that you are good enough.
2006-09-26 17:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by midesweet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt like that til I met my Mr. Right...and that wasn't until I was 29...so darling, just go after your dreams, pursue your goals, live life, and have fun and your Mr. Right will come along.
Everyone is deserving of love. You will find many people along the way whom you will like and they will like you back...just don't move too fast. If it's not meant to be then you won't regret anything. Enjoy it for what it is in the moment, and know that one day what you want will come. It's hard in your teens and beyond to imagine it will be ok but it will trust me!
2006-09-26 17:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love Song LyricS
I've heard it said that a man would climb a mountain
Just to be with the one he loves
How many times has he broken that promise
It has never been done.
I've never climbed the highest mountain
But I walked the hill of calvary
Chorus:
Just to be with you, I'd do anything
There's no price I would not pay
Just to be with you, I'd give anything
I would give my life away.
I've heard it said that a man would swim the ocean
Just to be with the one he loves
How may times has he broken that promise
It can never be done
I've never swam the deepest ocean
But I walked upon the raging sea
Repeat chorus
(Bridge) I know that you don't understand
the fullness of My love
How I died upon the cross for your sins
And I know that you don't realize
how much that I gave you
But I promise, I would do it all again.
Just to be with you, I've done everything
There's no price I did not pay
Just to be with you, I gave everything
Yes, I gave my life away.
THE PERSON WHO GAVE HIS LIFE AWAY FOR U IS JESUS. HE WANTS U. HE ALWAYS HAS. IN FACT HE IS JEALOUS OF OTHER MEN WHO GET YOUR ATTENTION OVER HIM. I GUESS HE WOULD BE HE DIED FOR YOU ALREADY AND ALL THOSE GUYS COULD NEVER LOVE U ENOUGH TO CARRY YOUR SINS ON HIS BACK.JESUS IS ALWAYS THERE IN THE DARKNESS. HE SEES YOUR TEARS. AND WANTS TO WIPE THEM AWAY. HE WANTS TO GET INTO YOU AND HEAL EVERY HURT U HAVE EVER HAD. A LOT OF MEN MAY WANT TO DO THAT. BUT JESUS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO ACTUALLY CAN. I KNOW I HAVE HAD PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH THIS. I WOULD TAKE HIM FOR GRANTED WHEN HIS ARMS HAD BEEN OPEN FOR ME TO RUN INTO MY WHOLE LIFE. EMAIL ME. I WANT TO TELL U ABOUT THE GIFTS HE HAS GIVEN ME. GIFTS THAT NO MAN COULD GIVE. HE ACTUALLY IS THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN GIVE ME THE THINGS I DESIRE. NO MAN COULD.
I LOVE YOU,
MMMK92
2006-09-26 17:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by mmmk92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋