i have extremly low self-esteem. i compare myself to other girls at my school and i think that i'm not as pretty as them.(i am NOT a lesbien!!) and i think that i'm not cute enough for this guy I like at school.
What do I do about this??please help!
2006-09-26 10:36:27 · 9 answers · asked by .::country gurl in a 4X4::. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you may be going through an awkward stage right now. as important as looks may seem to be, they're not. relax baby, take your time, focus on your studies, and not on the guys. you have to make yourself feel beautiful, then everyone will see it shine through. it starts inside. beauty rises, and when your personality blooms so will your looks. i am sure you are already a beautiful girl, so make everyone else know it too.
2006-09-26 10:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, STOP comparing yourself to other girls, it's not a competition and in the end you'll only be racing against yourself.
And whoever said beauty was skin deep - you've probably heard this before, but they were right. Guys prefer funny, smart, charming girls that they can talk to rather than a 'pretty' girl that can't hold a conversation.
Make a list of all the things you're good at - don't worry about being big headed, no one else is going to see it!! Then think about all the things your friends and family love you for (and not just because they have to because you're family).
Once you get into the habit of thinking about yourself in a more positive way then it will come across to others in a good way.
As for this guy, get to know him, don't think about him as a crush but as a new friend, you'll soon find out if he's the right guy for you. If you decide he is and he doesn't feel the same way, HIS LOSS, because you've just proved that you're great, any guy would be lucky to have you.
Good luck sweetheart, and don't worry!
2006-09-26 17:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cait M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor kid, you can go nuts that way! Try to remember that you are not going to be like the other girls, which is good - you can stand out! Do something new with your hair or looks and wait for the compliments. You might be surprised what others think of you. I though everyone hated me in high school, and I thought I was fat and ugly, and would never get a mate...and man was I surprised. I have been married twice, can't count the guys I've dated, and my old classmates all tell me now, they always thought I was too pretty (which I'm not, but let them think so anyway!) Also, several of the guys I liked in school have told me since that if they'd known I was interested at all, they'd have been all over me! So brighten up, and smile at those guys! And maybe in a few years, you and your steady can laugh at how bad you feel now!
2006-09-26 17:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are if ur comparing urself to other girls u must not be a bad lookin person( my thought) but anyway, dont do that, dont compare urself, u need to accept urself and tell urself that ur are beautiful u dont need a freakin guy to help u feel that way cuz once hes gone ur bak to the same problem, u can never not pretty enough for no one, they should make sure theyre the ones worried about themselves for u just because of ur confidence... so love urself plz and dont be doin that for attention either
2006-09-26 17:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by babiluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are and you just have to one day accept yourself. Like I tell all my friends, you can't love another without loving yourself first. It took alot of hardship to understand that for myself. Everyone compares themselves to others and thinks at one time or another that they just aren't good enough. You are good enough. You have friends that think you're good enough. As for the guy at school. See what he likes and try to make friends with him. Go from there. There's always others out there if he's not quite right.
2006-09-26 17:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by SocalSocialButterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a strong and healthy relationship with a father-figure.
I'm guessing that you don't ahve much of a relationship with your dad.
Most girls who have good relationships with their dad, tend to have a better view of themselves.
Also, it's quite normal to be so insecure - it might surprise you to know that those "other" girls probably feel just as insecure as you.
2006-09-26 17:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are being way to hard on your self. Think about all of your great attributes & consentrate on them. Be confident and you will succeed!
2006-09-26 17:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by johnny b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry,you'll find someone who likes you.
2006-09-26 17:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut up .. u r ugly .. thereh ope i helped your self esteem... lata..
from your number one hata.. xoxo amber..
2006-09-26 17:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by astrodog 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋