We chatted briefly and there did seem to be some attraction but when he told me his age and then asked mine i declined to answer. He guessed i was 11years younger than i actually am which would have made me three years younger than him, i am actually 8 years older. He has contacted me several times and we have arranged a date for tomorrow evening. My dilemma is should i tell him my age before i meet him or does the age gap really matter! Had i been 8 years younger than him im sure i wouldnt have an issue with it! Im usually quite a confident person so why am i feeling nervous and a little insecure at the moment?
2006-09-26 10:24:09 · 49 answers · asked by angel1902 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow so many positive answers from so many lovely people thank you. I WILL mention my age when the moment arises as the last thing i want to be is deceitful!
I suppose you are right the nerves are because i did feel some attraction and maybe it could be my time to meet some one who knows!
It is 3 years since mp partner died and i have had two bad relationships since then where i got hurt. I had decided several weeks ago to be happy with the way my life is and resigned myself to spending the future alone!
Then out of the blue this man appeared chatted to me and was gone within 15mins (he had a taxi booked) taking my number with him, I have never given out my number to anyone, so something must have felt right.
So thank you, you have given me the push i needed and i will put on my glad rags and enjoy the moment. Watch this space, if its an enjoyable evening you will deffinately be hearing.
2006-09-26 11:05:32 · update #1
Oh and in answer to your question sheshe, no neither of us are married and i am 47 and he is 39!
2006-09-26 11:08:51 · update #2
8 years. Becomes less and less significant the older you get. 8 years is alot if you are 22 and he is 14. But you're not. You are 47 and he is 39. Not a huge difference. Besides, you don't look 47, and I'll bet you don't feel it. Meet him, and if he asks again, once he can see you in the flesh, tell him your true age. I bet it won't matter. 8 years; probably way more of a problem for you than it is for him.
Banwa
:-)
2006-09-26 11:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Banwa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Angel, I think I would just go and have a great time. If you really hit it off, and you think it's going to go into something serious then I would tell him your true age. Till then, honey, go out and enjoy the night. I have several friends that are older than their boyfriends, and they are so happy, till I am jealous. You certainly deserve to have some fun and if the attraction is there, I can't see anything wrong with your dating him. But, if you just can't get past him thinking you are younger than he is, then when he picks you up, open the door in a outfit that will knock his socks off, and say, oh by the way .....
I bet it won't matter to him. He might be shock for a few minutes, but he's interested and attract to you not what is on your birth certificate. Have some fun! Enjoy yourself.....
God bless us all........
2006-09-26 10:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not age but honesty that matters. If I were you, I would tell this guy my age because he has made a wrong guess. If I don't correct him, I would be hiding something from him from the very beginning and it would get harder and harder to come clean as the relationship deepens. I would feel more comfortable telling him the truth and if he is not happy with my real age, then it's his problem, not mine. Maybe the chemistry is short-lived so don't worry too much about your feelings of insecurity. Just try to see if you enjoy his company or not. No need to rush into a relationship.
2006-09-26 10:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever see "Somethings gotta give". GO FOR IT! If you haven't seen the movie, rent it. Who cares how old you are. By no means should you be dishonest. Tell him but don't automatically reject the possibility that you could have a future with this man because of the age difference. Don't make a big deal about the age gap. You could bring it up over dinner casually but you don't even have to do that. If he is interested in you he won't let a number get in the way.
Good Luck!!
2006-09-26 10:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I took time to look up your age and I don't think it should be a big deal unless this guy has a serious issue with age. You look good for your age and at his age, age shouldn't be as big of a factor as who you are and how you two relate to each other. I say go on the date and at some point slip in the fact that you know he guess you to be younger than him but he does realize you are older than him by a little bit. If he can't deal with it then it is his loss.
2006-09-26 10:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. I have a friend who married a man 20 years younger than him last December. Seriously. They don't care what anybody thinks because eventually everybody will see how happy they are. And her husband doesn't care about the age difference. It is an attribute.
2006-09-26 10:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is an illusion, dont tell him yet, keep him guessing. If he falls in love with you then when he finds out it wont matter, besides a lot of men prefer an older woman and the age differance is so little it does not matter.
2006-09-26 10:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by tucksie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah you should go on a date with him. i am six years older than my now husband and you know what hes a lot of fun and he keeps me going yeah at first i did not want to go forth with it due to me being older but in the long run he is as mature as me if not a little more we balance each other out his weaknesses are my strengths and my weakness are his straights i have dated older men and you know what the younger ones are alot more fun and my relationship has never been better so baby put on something sexy do your nails get your hair did and go paint the town red have fun enjoy yourself and remember he may be 8 years younger than you can he keep up with you not you keeping up with him.
2006-09-26 10:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got a friend who met a guy who's 8 years younger than her. They started dating, then were living together and finally got married (they've got a new born baby now:-). I can't recall my friend being happier ever before. So please: go & have fun & don't try to hide your age if you really like the guy! Your feeling nervous cos it's a date hun! All the best:-)
2006-09-26 10:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by prahmedio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Angel,
You most likely feel insecure because you like this guy and are attracted to him which has nothing to do with age all us girls feel like that when we like a guy,you are a very attractive and nice women that's what he liked about you so i don't think it will make any difference 8 years is nothing.Go enjoy yourself girl!
Good luck x
2006-09-26 10:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sherzade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋