Things they've done that you don't like- should you judge them?
2006-09-26 10:19:44 · 17 answers · asked by organika101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not always. People change. We grow and learn from our past. Our past just makes us who we are. Just because we did something in our past doesn't necessarily mean we will do it again. But on the other hand some people don't learn from the past and keep repeating it. It all depends.
2006-09-26 10:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this first...have you ever done ANYTHING in your past that you now look back on and think, "Man! What the heck was I thinking?" If you had to carry around a video of that moment and show it to everyone the first time you met them, would you want them to judge you based on that? Probably not. People go through a lot of changes throughout their lives. Can you imagine what your life would be like if you still had the same opinions, beliefs, and values as you did 5 years, 10 years, 20 years ago? (I don't know how old you are, but hopefully you get the point.) If the person you're talking about still acts, thinks, and believes the same way that you have a problem with, then you should really evaluate your relationship. You can either live with and respect the differences or you can't. Only you can make that decision. I hope I've been of some help to you. Really take some time to think about your question. Don't forget to think about your past as well before you decide to judge anyone. No one should ever have to face the judgement of another who wouldn't want their past laid out on the table for all to judge.
2006-09-26 17:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by verajennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. The past is just what it means, the past. Everyone has something that they have done wrong in their past, and no one should judge them for being human. Even if it was a crime of some sort and they did their jail time, they have paid what they owe to the state, and nobody has the right to condemn them for it after time has been served.
2006-09-26 17:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by vegaschic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we can forgive but the hard part is to forget. Forgiving is not a bad choice because it is just healthy not to hold a grudge. But it really depends on who the person is...Is it perhaps a gf,bf,spouse? I am dating a woman now who I really don't like her past or what she did....But she was young and not with me. So I hold no grudge or judge her because she is totally different now. We are humans and make mistakes and I am sure you have as well
2006-09-26 17:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and you shouldn't! Everyone has a call to make for them selves! You can for give a person for past deeds and that is good. You may not how ever, want to place your self in that position again! When you for give some one, you are not to speak of it again as it is over! The harm they caused, may never be over! For giveness don't remove the harm. That is not judging them, to often people try to use it that way. Sorry, it don't work that way! You have a God given right to protect your self. Their deeds dictate the future for social activities! And if you allow them back into your life again.
2006-09-26 17:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't hold it against them forever. Unless, they have not changed. Judge not lest ye be judged--the bible says. So you cannot hold their past against them, or they might as well give up on life. What if everyone did that? What if they did it to you? Then life wouldn't be worth living if you knew your past would always haunt you. Life is about change. So give them a chance....at least once.
2006-09-26 17:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by lucy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LETS LOOK AT IT THIS WAY.How do you know about that past? ANd HAS the person changed? IF they have changed THEN who ARE you to judge? IF YOU JUDGE him he has a right to judge you by the same measure.NOW if he killed some one or raped some one or he molested little children. I AM REALLY careful around people like that.
2006-09-26 17:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should judge them on what they have done to overcome their past and rectify any wrong they have done. Forgive but do not forget.
2006-09-26 17:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by ©2009 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people say people don't change. Other, more forgiving people allow a second or third chance. The wise person know when.
2006-09-26 17:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. My ex did that and it tore us apart. We broke up for six months and I saw someone else because he had been cheating on me so I figured it was over. When I decided to let him back into my life (big mistake) all he did was throw it in my face even though HE cheated... it's a horrible mistake and you will push them away.
2006-09-26 17:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by Slutlana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋