Ok.. I have a g/f and we have been together for a year now and I love her more than life its self. And today she found out that her little brother was gonna have to have surgerey, it really upset her and her whole family alot.. She loves her lil brother and him are good frielnds.. But I really dont know what to do or say to make her feel better.. I mean I love to put a smile on her face, now I really afraid that since all this has happened she isnt gonna be happy anymore.. What can I do to help her??
2006-09-26 10:19:23 · 17 answers · asked by -J§G- 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when someone experiences a difficult spell the best thing you can do is be there for her, let her know that you care through your actions.
suggestions:
1. sit with her even when she has nothing to say and doesn't want to do anything
2. run her errands for her, like walk her dog or fill her car up with gas, pick up her dry cleaning - just something so she can spend her time with her brother and family and not worry about day to day life
3. cook for her/her family (or if you're not a good cook, order food)
4. put yourself in her shoes, what would you want done for you?
good luck and I hope the brother turns out okay
2006-09-26 10:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Neenah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Maybe there is nothing you can do right now to make her happy or put a smile on her face, because it's just a hellish place for her right now. But you can be there and offer to support her.
Tell her to call you anytime for anything you can do, even if it's just to talk or take her mind off of things. Let her talk about her fears for her brother, and validate those concerns, but offer a hopeful view. (There's nothing worse than having someone dismiss or minimalize your concerns in an attempt to stop your worrying).
Give her a little gift that she can carry around with her, like a locket or a small stuffed animal, and tell her that even when you're not with her, this can stay with her and absorb all her sorrow and worry and give her back your love. It might be cheesy, but it's touching and mgiht be a comfort to her.
hope everything turns out all right.
2006-09-26 17:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a hug. Whisper in her ear that everything will be alright. Let her know that you will do anything you can do to make her feel better. She will get over it eventually, especially if the surgery goes well. Besides, if she really does love to be around you, she will be happy that you will be there for her, and it will make her happy knowing that you are both in it together. After the initial shock of the news blows past and she feels a little better, do something fun with her to get her mind off of it for a little while. She will be grateful that she could forget her worries for a while and will want to do it again.
2006-09-26 17:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by sometimes you just get lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Some people need space when they are upset. But some people need their loved ones around. Just try to feel her out to see which type she is. But I think that if you stick by her side, she will realize just how much you care. So don't leave her side, and still try to put a smile on her face. I hope her brother's surgery goes well. Good luck!
2006-09-26 17:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are there if she needs you. Offer to be at the hospital with her. Offer to help her parents in any way- if they need errands doing, or someone to do things while the brother is in the hospital, or even if you can cook -or buy- dinner for their family. Stop trying to put a smile on her face- it's not the time to be acting like a clown.
Once the surgery is over and the brother is on the mend, things will improve.
2006-09-26 17:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, the fact you took the time to ask this already shows you're a cring bf. Just be there for her, there's not you can actually DO. When she cries about it, listen and hold her and tell her it'll be ok. Go with her to see him in the hospital in case she's not brave enough to go alone. That's probably all she needs. Maybe make her dinner so she doesn't have any extrra chores too....
2006-09-26 17:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Slutlana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first things first! Bro just be there for her, when she Crys give Her a Shoulder to lein on,listen to whates making her sad, let her knowe although today, and even till after the Surgery, it's just that simple to be sad, to want to Cry, when you truly love a Person, and they're in pain! in fact it may be the Best thing you have ever done,showing Her your gonna be there for her, During this time of Sadness! i hope things go well, just pray god will take it from there!
2006-09-26 17:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he goes into surgery, be there. make her know and understand, that you love him too. you have to be like family right now. if she is really upset maybe try to take her mind off of it without making it seem like it's nothing. take her out to dinner, tell her you are praying about it, and make her feel comfort. also, believe everything will be alright. i had this happen to me, and that is all i needed. be a friend, but also, be family.
2006-09-26 17:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be there for her.Things will be alright for her little brother. Just let her talk if she wants to, or just sit with her. You will see her smile again. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-09-26 17:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good person. Well, buy her little brother a small gift. And be at your girlfriend's side any moment she needs somebody to talk to.
2006-09-26 17:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋