they play together but when the get mad it gets ugly.they say mean things to each other and they get physical sometimes.I do discipline them.I know sibling rivalry is normal but where does it stop?
2006-09-26 10:00:33 · 9 answers · asked by christen p 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Here's what you do (and I can guarantee it'll work):
Don't do anything about it (hear me out here!). Don't do anything. Just sit back during the day and don't discipline them or stop them. Watch them carefully and count how many times they call the other a name or say something mean and keep track of it. Make a list with their name on it and how many times they said something mean. Count how many times they fight over something. At the end of the day when they're just sitting around say "Hey, come here. I wanna show you something." Show them the list you made and say "Now, 'Sally' today I noticed you said 5 (or however many) mean things today. Now guess what? You said 5 mean things so now you are going to sit right there and hold this bar of soap in your mouth for 5 minutes." Do that for both of them. Make them hold the soap in their mouths (one minute for every bad thing they said that day). Then, take them into the living room (or wherever their toys are) and show them the list of how many times they fought over something. Say to them "This is a list of how many times you two fought today. You fought 3 times so I'm taking away 3 toys. You will not get them back until I see that you can be nice and not fight."
After you do those things they'll be shocked. They'll be thinking "Oh my gosh! I'm not doing that anymore! Mom used to let us get away with it but now she's getting serious!"
2006-09-26 10:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sibling rivalry sometimes never stops. I'm 53 and still do not get along with my sister. All you can do is when it gets physical tell them to go outside because you don't want blood on the carpet or the furniture, and to only call you if an artery/vein has been opened up, or a bone is protruding through the skin.
2006-09-29 04:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are at that age where it can get really bad. My sister and I used to physically fight each other. I have 2 scars from fights with her. My mom was scared to death we were going to kill each other. My mom would separate us and ground us for 2 or 3 days. It got better until I turned 10 and she wanted one of my birthday presents and I wouldn't let her have it so she grabbed it and hit me over the head with it. I had to go to the hospital and get stitches. We didn't do this around our dad tho' because he would lose it and whoop us both. Anyway we finally grew out of it and our fights became just arguments. Sometimes I think they were just as bad as the fights. Good Luck
2006-09-26 20:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Bogie Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do anything to them... i have 2 daughters also, 10 & 6 years old, i have the same problems as yours now. Kids are kids... they will fight and after a while play again with each other... maybe you can do is, after they fight with each other, do something that they will not forget, ammm, for example, after fighthing - make them hug each other for about a couple of minutes, maybe 5 minutes and tell them you will not let them go hugging each other, if they not said sorry to each other... i had done that and its simply effective...
2006-09-27 09:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rowie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 12 & my daughter is 10 and they still fight all the time...funny thing is that they look out for each other I say that they will eventually grow out of it...I used to put them on the couch and made them hug each other for about 30-60 min try it it might work it did for me
2006-09-26 17:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by espi824 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the person said just let them be is right upto apoint don't let them go at it till they hurt eachother but most of the time all kids will fight amoung themselves but they seem to forgive each other quicker then we do.
2006-09-26 18:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by dac39jjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it never stops, me and my sister still fight, and were 10, and 13, it just gets worse and worse, wait till their older, tyhen they'll start cursing at each other.
2006-09-26 17:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them fight...your six year old will most likely win and then the 4 year old will learn not to mess with his big sister!!!
2006-09-27 12:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Slap and separate. Don't apportion blame.
2006-09-26 17:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋