i've been with my BF for 2yrs now and i do love him, he is like my best friend. he has cheated on me in the past tho and there are a lot of things i cant stand about him but we are doing ok right now at the moment.....on the other hand there is this guy, who i worked with like a year ago and had major feelings for but never acted on, lost touch with him but always thought about how much happier i would probably be with him because he is the most amasing guy i've ever met, i just ran into him again the other day after a year and he says he still really like me....now i can't stop thinking about him! i really really like him a lot but i do love my BF eventho he is not very good to me.......what should i do? please help this is driving me crazy!
2006-09-26 09:51:13 · 14 answers · asked by jnnybartos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and this is not teenager ****, im 21, my BF is 29, and the other guy is 27
2006-09-26 09:55:37 · update #1
You don't love your boyfriend. May as well break up. You wouldn't have said "always thought about how much happier i would probably be with him" if you were in love with your boyfriend.
2006-09-26 09:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by shoedogg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your question already. You're not happy and he doesn't treat you right. He even cheated on you. He should realize how lucky he is to even have a younger girlfriend at his age. Decide if a relationship with this new guy is something that you really want or just a way out of the old relationship. You might want to make up your mind soon enough in case this new guy gets away again. Maybe this guy was brought back into your life to give you a fresh start with someone that will be better for you. Don't put up with the other guy especially since the relationship is just "ok". Good Luck and don't settle!
2006-09-26 09:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you... and I WAS in a situation a little like that... I'd break up with your bf. I would not immediately jump into another relationship. You need to be single for a bit... it'll give you perspective. You'll then know where you REALLY want to go with your relationships! It hurt me at the time but now I'm happy and very glad I made the decision.
2006-09-26 10:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend cheated on you, and things don't sound that great in your relationship now, no matter how much you tell yourself that things are going good now.
Now, you are young, alive, and you have a guy that you think is amazing and you could totally picture yourself with. Why not make your heart and mind happy and be with someone that is going to make you happy?
2006-09-26 09:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BF sounds like he would be better as a friend, maybe even a best friend. Clearly, he's not into the whole commitment thing. So, change your relationship wih him, and go after the other guy.
2006-09-26 09:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't throw away dirty water for more dirty water. Make sure it is clean first.
If you are going to "trade up" make sure you are in fact not just looking to satisfy some boredom or immediate craving. Make sure the attraction between both of you is real. Go out with him (you have a pass because your boyfriend cheated on you) and find out. When you know where you would rather be then make your decision.
2006-09-26 09:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side but it sounds to me like you know what you want. This whole question you trashed your current b/f and placed the other guy on a pedestal.... I think your mind is already made up now you just have to find the courage to act upon it.
2006-09-26 09:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard question to answer. This is something just for you to figure out. If you are unhappy with this current guy then by all means leave him. No one deserves to be unhappy.
Good luck sorry I wasn't much help
2006-09-26 09:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just scared of being on your own.
That you love your bf is just a load of hot air.
The grass is greener - go gorge yourself, be sick, but there will be no one to hold your head.
You are never going to have a good relationship till you learn to have a better one with yourself.
2006-09-26 09:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good time to let go of the old relationship and reach out for a new one.
2006-09-26 09:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋