Its been 3 months, I still have feelings for my ex-fiance, but I'm lonely. I would love to find new friends, because I'm kinda new to the area, don't like the clubs cause I want to meet real people not someone pretending to be somone else. I'm in my 30's and seems like Salt Lake City is just not worrking out for me. I can't leave beacause I have 2 adopted children here. ?? Help??
2006-09-26 09:49:26 · 16 answers · asked by James M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is amazing how many of us have found love via the internet/phone.I found the love of my life at the age of 31 through interactive dating.It is more difficult for us when we hit our thirties,bars and clubs are like pick up joints.I was lonely,had two kids,plus I was I was over 200 miles from home.The isolation was awful.You could try new activities, a hobby.That way you can have a shared interest with whoever you meet.Something I have always fancied doing is salsa classes.There are lots of single activities.Do a search on your area and see what interest you could take up.In the meantime I have some online dating links for you to try:
http://www.dating-online.us/
http://www.datingsupercenter.com/...
http://www.dateandbeyond.com/
http://www.people-services.net/...
http://www.idatingonline.com/
http://www.mybestdate.co.uk/
http://www.123-online-dating.com/...
http://promotions.personals.yahoo.com/ge...
http://www.datingsoftware.org/
http://www.aewebworks.com/
http://www.cuteflame.com/
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http://www.date.com/?trackid=00000002471...
http://www.edatingcentral.com/
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2006-09-26 10:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What are your interests? Are there clubs or organizations that have to do with your interests? Like volleyball leagues or a boxing gym or an alumni club for whatever college you went to cooking classes? Something or anything? Join something related to an interest...learn new skills...and meet new friends in the process. Some of the people you meet may just be friends and some may have potential for more. But if you are focussing in on what is of interest to you, so should these people. I think you'd have a much better chance of meeting somebody 'real' under these situations than at a bar or club.
Another though would be to try continuing your education and pursue a degree. You would meet people with similar goals in an academic environment and increase your career opportunities.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 16:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by BAM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved with the kids' activities. Join the PTA or something. Volunteer. Take some classes. Learn a new hobby. Join a club like a book club or a hiking club (not a bar/disco). Take the kids on various outings around the city. Learn to ski- teach the kids to ski.
Try www.volunteermatch.org for things to do in your area- stop feeling sorry for yourself, get out there and make a difference.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 16:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are tons of places to meet new friends. Try some classes at night in something you are interested in. Local college course, or dancing classes at the Y, work out at the gym, and you meet people there, get a dog and take it to the dog park, a great way to meet people. I'm in my 30's and play softball, I've met tons of people that way. Also, get involved with a church or volunteer, like Habitat for Humanity. Good Luck!
2006-09-26 16:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really are in a tough situation but you can get through it. First, you need to take your mind off it and get involved in something else.
Eg. take a dancing class, or tennis or badminton or volunteer at some charity event.
You'll meet people and you will get a chance to focus on something else.
See with your fiance, he was your sole reason for existence a bit, alot of your actions centred around him so when the relationship fell apart, it affected you really badly because your whole heart was into him.
Give your heart to something else.
It will be rewarding.
Plus, who knows, you might meet someone else too.
2006-09-26 17:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by ilyena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I know where you're coming from James. I live in the Salt Lake area too....I've been here for almost a year, and it is very hard to meet new people. Don't really know what to tell ya' If I find someplace interesting, I'll keep you in mind.
2006-09-26 16:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you need to explore some of the internet dating sites on the web. When I was single there were a number of single women in that area of the country looking for a good man.
2006-09-26 16:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont look for someone new if you still have feelings for your ex. work through those feelings first. how about joining some clubs for people who have adopted children? are taking a night class? or a community ed class? concentrate on yourself and your children and you will find that life is full!
2006-09-26 16:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by IvebeenAbadbadgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be amazed at the places you can find companionship, grocery stores, church, school PTA meetings... get out and look instead of wasting time at the clubs and the internet.
2006-09-26 16:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can meet people at work, or chat online, hang out with friends....there are many things to do and places to go to meet people, i just hope that when you meet someone, you dont try to put them in your ex's shoes.....thats the ingredient for disaster. good luck.
2006-09-26 16:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋