2006-09-26 09:36:03 · 20 answers · asked by Meg Kenny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He goes to Hartwick college and I am home 2 and 1/2 hours away. Hes a freshman in college and I'm a senior in highschool. My dad wont let me go up for an overnight and doign day trips are exausting. He is also getting involved in a fraturnity which i dont mind but the other night he told me he was going to bed and than my sister (who goes to that college) caught him playing beer pong at 1 am. I dont mind but i just want the truth. He pretty much lived with me over the summer and thats why this is so difficult to deal with.
2006-09-26 12:53:06 · update #1
I wish there was some simple answer or word that would make it better for you but the truth is distance in a relationship is a hard thing and all you can do is have faith and communicate back and forth in any way possible.
2006-09-26 09:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Long distance relationships are hard. They are stressful and emotional but they can work. DO NOT let anyone tell you different. The secret to a long distance relationship is both of you have to want it to work. You both have to work together and make sacrifices and agreements to making this work. It takes two to make any relationship work, more so with a long distance relationship. What you both need to do is sit down and make a few agreements on things. Nothing controling like 9pm phone calls and never going out with friends. Do things like call before going out or have a certain day a week for you to see each other if possible. Drive to his campus, have him come to you or meet in a place in the middle. Do no expect the unresonable but it should go both ways.
Just remember this is your relationship and no one else can make the desisions for you. Always follow your gut feelings because 9 times out of 10, your intuition is always your best bet.
2006-09-26 16:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can be a very hard time b/c your boyfriend is having brand new experiences and you are, as you say, at "home." It might help if you developed some new interests to keep you occupied and busy. This will also make your more interesting if you have things going on in your life, too. That way you won't have time to be down or thinking about missing him too much. It is okay to miss him, but you also need to take care of you. Best wishes! :).
2006-09-26 16:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is hard. i was in a relationship like that once. Find a hobby, of course you will miss the hell out of him and wonder what he is doing. Make sure you set aside time for those long conversations at night. Dont worry- it will be tons of fun each holiday break. Some of the best memories of my life :)
2006-09-26 16:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first we need to know what is your idea of a hard time.
if you are lonely then try to see if you could get a job or accommodation near him.
how much time does he have left
does he plan on moving home when hes done
is your hard time that you are worried that hes cheating
if you are worried that hes cheating then there is a trust and commitment problem in the relationship
2006-09-26 16:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If U really LOVE him write & phone to keep closer, and since you must be younger, when U graduate mabey U can get on at same College? Good luck and trust each other as thine own heart be true...
2006-09-26 16:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by ***BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!!!*** 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not easy havein a long distance relationships like that, however he may or may not stay true to you I just got out of a relationship and when she needed time with friends for differant periods of times she didn't stay faithful to me. she lied to me about htis and all of other things. it is up to you wether you choice to stay or leave the relationship and always wonder is he bein faithful or not?
2006-09-26 16:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by BadAssJarhead 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should occupy your time. never have a dull moment or you will find yourself thinking about him more than he thinks of you. College is a crazy time! Your always on the go.
2006-09-26 16:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it one day at a time. Tell him how you feel and that maybe you guys can work out something where you can see each other more
2006-09-26 16:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of help dear? oh, ok. Find an older gentleman freind, one who can help through your time of need, but feels no need to brag ,like a younger man might.
2006-09-26 16:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋