My b/f lives 300 miles away. He works @ 3 am and gets off at differant times. But when i get off work he says he is sleeping and doesn't reply to my text messages. But he also hasn't been calling me back at night either. He will like twice a week. I really like him and I understand he is working really weird hours that are very differant then mine, but it is hard enough not getting to see each other but once or twice a month, but not talking too. I have just been getting really stressed out over it. He can get on the computer and check his myspace but can't call me.. Do you think it is time to say goodbye or am I jsut freaking out over nothing.. I would really like to try to work on things before breaking up.. any advice.. Plus i have a really hard time confronting problems cuase i have been talked down to in all my other relationships. please give me some advice.
2006-09-26 09:31:25 · 12 answers · asked by margiesue_84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tbayxxxv why do you say that?
2006-09-26 09:33:50 · update #1
he didn't move to another city.. He has always lived there and i have always lived here.
2006-09-26 09:35:39 · update #2
I would like to talk to him about our problems first and try to fix them then just say goodbye.. I am just having a hard time confronting it.
2006-09-26 09:36:59 · update #3
we meet just before i moved down here. I was preg. and had already gave my notice on my apartment and rented another one down here.. so by the time we really started dating and liking each other, the move was already complete. If i would have meet him a month earlier I would have stayed down there.
2006-09-26 09:56:34 · update #4
It should have never started in the first place.
2006-09-26 09:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually say cut your losses but in this case, I'm with you. You are a strong woman to maintain a relationship with some one that far away.
I've been there, my bf moved 200 miles away for work, we saw each other at week ends, although we both worked 9-5, he didn't have a phone so it was hit and miss when he called; I couldn't be bothered talking to him when he rang a lot of the time; when we rowed it lasted weeks cos we only saw each other at the weekends. BUT
We are now married, have great kid and all living under 1 roof. So it can work.
Talk to him first, write or email alert him to your feelings - but be prepared for him to not reply or if he is man enough to say that it is over.
I'm sorry but I think he is trying to ease out of it. Gotta ask, how on earth did you meet?
2006-09-26 09:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I view a relationship as two people being together. I don't know why anyone would chose to "be in a relationship with" a person they couldn't even go have a Starbucks with.
So let's face facts:
He doesn't reply to your text messages.
You see him 2 out of 30 days at most
He makes you feel stressed and freaked out
He has time for myspace but not you
You seldom speak to him due to his work hours.
He doesn't return your calls.
And what part of this is actually a "relationship"? What part of this do you call "over nothing"? What part of this do you want to "work on"? You don't need to cut it off- it's already over and has been over for some time now. You just didn't realize it.
2006-09-26 09:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite tbay's advice, which I agree with though I'm in the same type of relationship you are, I think you should probably break up with him. It doesnt' take that long to pick up a phone and call somebody, even if it's just to say hello. If he has time for a website and no time for you then its time to say good bye to him. I know it's hard to confront problems and stuff but sometimes you just got to hang in there and deal with it.
2006-09-26 09:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your main question in your paragraph, he doesn't call anymore and rather check his myspace. MY GOODNESS WOMAN! wake up and smell the freakin "IT"S OVER" coffee...when the sparks are gone, and everything diminishes, then you know it is time to move on. Got some guts, and call it off, before he makes a fool out of you and gives you the boot first.
Why can't women just take an initiative sometimes...why so scared of men..so dumb.
2006-09-26 09:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really is your decision but it sounds like he doesn't have time for you. Do you want this to continue for the rest of your life? Do you want this to continue to happen? Or is he just taking some time for himself to relax and unwind and really that is all the time that he has. He needs to relax too in order to be a good employee. If he doesn't answer your messages - is he dealing with issues that you don't know about? You need to have a serious conversation with him. Is there any way that you could go see him and talk to him fave to face?
2006-09-26 09:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and see if he is willing to put the effort into it. if he is not willing to give his all that its not worth your time and backing off would save you alot of stress. Maybe he doesnt realize it is such an upset for you. if he is willing to try to make things work with you than see how it goes.
2006-09-26 09:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by midesweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell this relationship is not working out. You should end it, it's in the best interest for you both.
Say goodbye....it's time
Goodluck
2006-09-26 09:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 09:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know its over since the time he left go live in another city..
2006-09-26 09:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋