what do you do with a 12 year old girl that is out of control??????

Question

I HAVE A 12 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER THAT HAS NO RESPECT FOR ANY ONE SHE LIES ,STEELS,FIGHTS WITH HER SISTER@BROTHER ALL THE TIME FOR NO REASON .SHE TALKS BACK TO HER STEP FATHER HAS A VERY BAD ATTITUDE.WHAT SHOULD I DO? IT DOSNT HELP WITH HER FATHER BEING MARRIED TO MY HUSBANDS SISTER.AND MY EX HUSBANDS WIFE DONT HELP MATTERS BY TRING TO KEEP HER AWAY FROM HER FATHER.SHES A REAL DRAMA QUEEN.ITS A VERY BAD SITUATION.HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

wow my older sister was the same and so my mom grounded her took away the phone, computer, TV, and friends completely.
now at first she would try to sneak out so my mom nailed toe windows shut. and slowly she gave in.

and every time she did something good my mom would give her some of her privileges back until after 3 months my sister was respectful and she learned that you need to be a good person

but my mom also gave my other sister everything she wanted and didn't make her have any responsibility for her actions and it made her even worse.

it may sound mean but you have to start form scratch take every privilege away and when she learns respect slowly give them back

BUT THE BIGGEST THING IS YOU NEED TO TALK TO HER she is going through a lot and she is hurting inside and go to a counseling she needs it

Answer 2

This is a very hard question your daughter is going into one of the most rebelious stages of her life which is being a teenager. Try and make sure these things don't effect her as this could cause bad consequences just talk to her about what she wants from you and everyone else and if she gets moody leave her for a day or two and try again its the only way i should know i am a teenager after all

Answer 3

Send her to bootcamp. She seriously needs an attitude adjustment. Does she act like this in school too?
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Let her create an online diary journal. Create an account for yourself and you can see what she really thinks about this.
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Yelling doesn't hurt to children's ears. You have to give her punishments. No TV. No computers. Double the chores. Do extra homework. No hanging out with friends for 2 months. Yes, she might hate you, but every week, have a talk with her.

Talk to her about her attitude and about her future (bad-temper, no boyfriend, no decent jobs if she gets on nerves) stuff like that. Maybe she'll get some sense back into her.
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A punching bag works well too. Lock her in a room with a punching bag in it. Make sure there's nothing breakable. She will probabaly punch the bag till she's tired. Then, go to her with a glass of cold water and talk to her. A stress ball could do, but a punching back works better.

Good luck with your daughter, ma'am.

Answer 4

I understand your frustration, but the poor kid has a mess for a family and is acting out. i suggest family counseling or at the very least individual counseling.

Also try to understand what the child is going through. remember that even though she may act like she is older, in reality she is quite immature and probably does not have the know how to express what she is feeling. She may not even know how she is feeling.

being a pre-teen is hard enough without all these other complications. also kids cry out for attention sometimes and whether the attention is good or bad, it is still attention, so maybe trying to take some time with her and commiting that to her so she can grow closer to you will be helpful for her and for you.

good luck

Answer 5

It must be her hormones.I have a 12 and 13 year old.Both girls.The 12 year old is a good girl,the 13 year old is crazy.I've tried taking her phone off her,grounding her,keeping her in her bedroom,I've tried being nice and praising her.I did put soap in her mouth a few weeks ago because of the bad language she picked up at school.One thing she doesn't like is being banned from the computer.It's just another phase because their bodies are changing.It will pass.I put mine to bed early when they start fighting.8.00.They do not like early bed time|!!!!! Also you can try stopping pocket money until the attitude stops.I know how you feel!!!!!

Answer 6

You need to ask yourself what should yo do, you are the mother, she is becoming to be a teenager and this is the time when they think they can do what the feel and that noone cannot do anything about it. Put your foot down. And how in the hell is her father married to your husband sister. Your ex- husband's wife need to mind her own business and let her father do his job.

Answer 7

she has many issues she just cant handle... all you say above would drive me into a frinzy too..... if it effects you just think how much it is effecting her..... she is a child so she acts like one..... she has no control over her own life at this time..... she may, and I only suggest this, need a good therepist or councler to help her sort it all out..... I suggest also that time NOT be waisted here.... she is at the age that her life long morals and standards and beliefs are being formed.......she does not know how to file away the emotions...... or what to think of the whole sorted mess..... God bless

Answer 8

Thats a problem that comes to young children wen parents are divorced and get remarried. Talk with her and do stuff for her that she likes find out her interests. Maybe shes having problems at skool. Ask her, sit down someday alone wit her and talk. Maybe shes not ready to have a step-father or a step-mother. Just ask her

Answer 9

hi..crazy i have 4 daughters and 3 of them are over the age of 12 i can tell you from experience that you need to get some counceling for her QUICK. the longer you let this go on..the worse it will become. your daughter is looking for answers that you can't give her. i'm assuming you have custody so you take this in to you're own hands and get her the help. there are so many programs out there that your insurance will pay for,,if you don't have insurance go to your local health dept and tell them the same thing you just told us. i don't think it's too late for your daughter YET! good luck to you and i'd like to know how it turns out.

Answer 10

boot camp is my suggestion she needs a rude awakening and time for some tough love..take all her things and do mean every thing except for a few changes of clothes and when she acts right she can have some stuff back..but if she acts up again take it away again..both you and her FATHER needs to get together on this..and have real tough rules she has to live by..if that don't work its time for boot camp for at least a month..there she will have no control over any thing