is there any self harmers out there who think they will never be cured?

Question

i did self harm as a teenager. then for a few years never did, then once every 6 months i did, now alittle more often like once every2 months. i get to thinking i will never stop completly (although would like to) does any one else feel the same?

Answer 1

My daughter is 13 and a few months ago spent some time in a facility for cutting. She has not been cutting now but I don't think you are ever cured by other people, you have to cure yourself and have a good support system. I make sure everyday to tell my daughter I love her and that she can talk to me about anything. You need someone that understands and will listen without judgment.

Reaching out is the first step. Good luck and I'm serious, find someone you can talk to about it. Its like smokers, you can quite but you are always a smoker. You just choose not to.

Answer 2

I do self harm. I'm scared of blood though so I burn myself, scratch until I break the skin or rub it until it is raw. I hadn't done that in several years until mr most recent bout of depression. I've done it twice in the last 3 months but the last was 6 weeks ago.

I have changed the medication that I was taking and the new stuff seems to help although the desire is still there. I now feel I can fight it. I talk to people, I've even phoned Samaritans - they are there for any sort of harm, not just suicide.

I feel like it is something I will never get rid of - I smoke too and one day I will give that up but you have to want to.

I hope I will find enough strength to give up both harming and smoking but both are addictive. You won't do it until you are ready.

Good luck, and remember that just cuse you feel like it won't go away doesn't mean you can't stop doing it.

Answer 3

Self harm is like a sneeze - it's a symptom of deeper problems - such as a cold, but not the problem itself.
So, if you take away the sneeze, the cold doesn't automatically get better, but you may develop the sneeze later on in life.

You need to tackle the cause of the problem, and then maybe you can sort out the SI itself.
Have you written down when you SI? How often you SI? What triggers you to SI?
If you could take that to speak to a counsellor, you could probably find much better coping mechanisms.

I've personally been cutting since I was about 10, but I can remember SI'ing in some form for as long as I can remember. And I think that it's always going to be a problem - but thats because I still haven't worked out what the cause of it all is.

Take care of yourself, good luck. x

Answer 4

I have worked in an office at a forensic hospital and never really realised the extent that people can go to.
The people who self harmed were mostly women who had been abused in the past. It wasn't just dragging knifes or blades across their skin, they would use ANYTHING they could get their hands on.
The thing that really disturbed me was that they would actually try and INSERT things under their skin pens, paperclips, screwdrivers, even the metal strips you get around some ringbinders to stop them wearing out around the edges.
I don't pretend to understand this and have no idea of the mental pain someone would need to be suffering to try and block it out in this way, i just hope that all who suffer find a way to conquer it and regain control of their life.

Answer 5

I am a cutter, and have been for 7 years. For me it started out just scratching myself with something sharp, but now it has gotten to the point that I need stitches (the last incident required 38) and am severing nerves and tendons in my arms.

To me it almost seems that it has gotten to the point that everyone has just given up on me. They don't know what to do to help. There are some treatment facilities out there, but none that I know of and have contacted will accept me due to the severity of injury.

I don't know if I will ever be cured, and quite honestly I think the only way I am going to be able to stop is when it finally kills me...

Answer 6

I know how you feel. Just when it seems like you're getting better, you hurt yourself, not regularly, just every few months. thats what i do. i guess that it's a reaction to life that some people have. stopping self harming is really hard, it takes time and patience and learning different coping methods, because people who self-injure have never learned appropriate strategies. just hang on and try to keep at it - if you ever feel really guilty, just think that at least you have your impulse under control and don't cut every day.
i hope this helped a little. xx

Answer 7

I have self harmed all of my life starting from when I was a toddler ripping my hair out, gradually progressing to cutting burning my arms and legs and slitting my wrists.
I got sent to a counseller who told me that there is no cure for self harming and that I will probably do it for the rest of my life.
All I can do is try to get over the depression and the self harming will get less frequent.

Her advice to try and cut down on self harming was:

When you want to cut get a red pen and draw on yourself. When you have calmed down look at your arms and see what would have happened if you had reached for the knife.

or

Put an elastic band around your wrist and when you feel worked up snap it on your arm so you get the pain to calm you down but no scar or damage.

Hope I have helped

Answer 8

to regulate oneself is somewhat complicated. no matter if you imagine to regulate your self and get extra ideal, it only isn't really worry-free. you should offer your self some value. do no longer supply value to what others say about you. they are reflecting their weaknesses and their frustrations on you. So, I mean right here that this obviously does no longer mean you're undesirable. And this specially would not advise so that you could damage your self. because this isn't the answer. it would damage you contained in the top and by no skill the others. imagine functional about your self. and elements your self value. by no skill forget that you're positive and also you could come out of this problem. no man or woman would ever help you, no longer even the drugs on my own. the first step ought to come from interior and should be a favorable one about your self. and then you will be able to take help of others whom you could trust. and that isn't any longer really worry-free. So, you're your own helper.

Answer 9

i used to self harm then i realised how pathetic it was no offence im not sayin anyone is pathetic im talking bout me i used to cut my wrists put pins in my arms cut wif scisors then one day i realised it wasnt the way to help myself i used to do it to feel beta but im sure u know that b y u do it but i realised it just scarred my body and was neva a permanent solution to the reason behind it i neva had councillin for it but everytime i wanted to do it i took myself out of the situation and did somthing else instead focused on the positive it aint gona happen ova nite but believe me it becomes a habbit and aint very nice to look at the scarrs everytime i do i feel ashamed that i felt so alone that was my only relief coz i know im stronger than that and im sure u r too so please if u understand wat im saying find ur alternative and focus take a walk eat some crisps wateva makes u feel good other than self harming it aint actually an answer to ur probs

Answer 10

i used to be a self harmer a year and a half ago. I went to far one night and ended up in the hospital in another town 140 miles from where i live now. I spent 4 days locked up with no contact with the outside world. I spent alot of time in therapy before and after the incident. I remember when i got out my dad called me because he was so worried that i was gonna do something i would regret in the end. He told me he loved me so many times in that one call i can't even count. As i listened to him i could hear that he was crying. He made me promise not to ever hurt myself again because it was breaking his heart. 3 months later, he died. I fought hard against just ending it all and in general cutting on myself. But since i made my promise to him, i have never cut since. I think about doing it from time to time just to ease the stress and hurt im feeling, but i am always reminded of my dad. I do believe i am cured.

I think something drastic has to happen in your life to finally get over cutting on yourself. Mine was the promise to my now dead father. Good luck.