we all have it in the back of our heads that we COULD be conversing with weirdos,perves,liars,etc but someone answered another question of mine and it made me think...do you think people are more honest than we give them credit for and that theres at least a grain of truth in everything you see in a persons character online???
2006-09-26 09:17:12 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd rather judge them in person.
So I can lay the Smack down.
2006-09-26 09:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. communicating online has allowed us to be whoever we want to be. It allows us anonymity so in one way we can be very honest because no one knows who we really are anyway. On the other side we can lie because no one will know the difference. I think people are only as honest online as they are in person. If someone is a good person they will be honest online. If they are not a good person in real life then they won't be online either.
I think as with all things there is the good and the bad. The only way to know for sure is to listen to your gut instincts and be safe online.
if your gut says hey maybe this is too good to be true.. or that sounds a little weird then it is... listen to yourself and trust yourself before anyone else. Don't believe what you want to believe. Investigate.. ask questions..
If people around you feel it could be an odd deal/relationship ask them why? Find out what their gut is telling them.
PICTURES PICTURES PICTURES get lots of pictures.. make sure they are in different places and clothes,, has anyone been cropped out of the picture? Is there a tan line on a ring finger??look for signs.. you cant find whats not there...
Time to meet?? go to a very public place the first time.. don't get in a car with them no matter what!!! tell people where you are going, who you are going with first and last name and when they can expect you back.. If they cant go to the police with enough information to find you then you dont know enough to meet them.. This is about being safe this is your life never assume you are above what has happened to other people and I don't mean to scare you I have nmet many wonderful people online, but I was safe and Iistened to my gut that's all I'm saying...
2006-09-26 09:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by donyafs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the questions beneath sarcasm or retarded responses we all leave a small impression of who we are...though I fit into all three categories of weirdo, perv and a liar in this yahoo world underneath it all I'm just a perv.
Why should people show their vunerability, their innner self in this transitory world especially when all we want to do is hook up with a net babe!
But I digress, spend some time get to know me I'm truly not that perverted, i do have the occasional weird idea and I'll only lie to you when you ask "do i look fat in these pants"!
2006-09-26 09:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Paul M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it varies from one person to another. We all have different sides to our personality. So, even if we are honest with ourselves when answering questions, there are still things about ourselves which we don't reveal easily online. I think some people are truer than others. There's no need to doubt everything but at the same time it's probably a good idea not to take everything too seriously.
2006-09-26 09:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that people can be anything or anyone they want to be online, I'd say most people do take on a different persona online. Just because it is empowering to be able to choose something other than what you are in the day to day routine of things. Just look at the profiles on all of these dating sites. If all of those people were really as great as they make themselves out to be, they wouldn't need a dating service to hook them up, they would have people lined up to go out with them. Some people may be their true selves, maybe alot of people are, but I think some people are living a fantasy of who they want to be versus who they really are (when they go online)
2006-09-26 09:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As well as I can judge them in person. Just because there is a computer doesn't mean a lot. You could be at a bar talking to a guy who's raped 10 girls, you could be in a chat room talking to a faceless guy who's done the same thing. Truth is, you never really know with some people. So regardless, be careful.
2006-09-26 09:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people can put on an act for a while, but that jerks eventually give themselves away. Then again, even in person, people will try to make a good impression, but eventually start just being themselves, whether that's good or bad. It may be easier or more tempting to be deceitful online, because you can lie about your age, your gender, etc. I'm a very honest person whether here or whether you know me in person, and I've made very good friends online who are as honest as I am and who are as real to me as people I've spoken to face to face. It just takes a while...
2006-09-26 09:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres always some hints to his character for example...does he take a long time in answering your messages or emails RED FLAG..does he withhold his number when he calls you. do you see other people in the back ground when he's on cam and he says he lives alone? he doesnt call again after you meet.,ask alot of questions. dont give your # the 1st time you chat (been there) lol i think with net romance the woman should do the calling the 1st go round. and save your chats,,,read them when he isnt online. you may pick up on something you didn't DURING the chat.
2006-09-26 09:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by lilyofvalley1962 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a double edged sword really. Incase you ask a serious question and someone takes the time to think about it and answer you as sincerely as they can......u sure appreciate the effort especially if it helps resolve your problem. Its very easy to filter out the riff-raff since they make about 95% of the population here.........in anycase.......judging someone online just helps you decide if u wish to continue chatting with them or not.
Definitely not a dipstick if you are tempted to meet them......its risky then because a lot of people are good at deception....
2006-09-26 09:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One has to be very very careful over the net lots of strange ppl exist in the realm..we should always keep in mind that the Internet is an extension of the real world
Yet at the same time very nice,educated decent ppl are on it..give it time and get to know the person before u exchange tel.no and meet up.
2006-09-26 09:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by sunlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust anyone or judge anyone with out seeing them first. I have met a friend (girl) online. She is great and I'm so glad we are friends. Yes I was leary big time and so was my family but I knew in the back of my head I'd be ok. We hit it off very well. She lives on the other side of the country. I'm so glad she's in my life.
2006-09-26 09:22:18 · answer #11 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋