Never believed in love before, had the pangs of loneliness, but enjoyed the freedom of being single. I fell for a guy, who seemed different from the rest of them, and had me in by opening up to me with his ex. I have known him to be very reserved, and the confiding in me broke the ice between us. Thereafter, we discovered that we liked each other. In 2004 I moved into a different city with a diff job, so did he, and we live together. The issue is that I find him doing a lot of stuff which for the 2 yrs having been with him, have not known any of it. I do not make pals easily, in the sense that I am wary about opening up to people just like that, and hence see him as my only friend that I can open up to, but his going away with his pals leaves me wondering, especially bec he gv me this picture of being reserved and stuff like me. All in all, I think that I shld take a breather, do u think that i am thinkin in the right direction. As I dont want this relationship to eat me up
2006-09-26 09:08:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he has his life to live, but what upsets me is the fact that when he was all depressed , with nothing working out for him, I was there for him, and asking the same right now, I get the answer that that not being able to make friends is my problem. Moreover, he does not like talking about issues that bother me, an to add to that i found a very disturbing email sent by him to somebody that suggests you kno what. I was not snooping around, as he has me chk his emails for him, and I just happened to stumble upon it. I will be leaving the country in a few days on account of work, and am hoping this diversion to think straight. I need some one to help me see clearly here, no sympathies , but want to see where who is going wrong and what could be done. Thanks!!!
2006-09-26 09:13:24 · update #1
you analize things too much to the point that you get all confused and drive yourself crazy, and I don't mean that as an insult! we women tend to do that alot! maybe you just need to open up a little and hang out with him and his friends, he shouldn't be the only center of your attention, I mean he shouldn't be the only friend you have! it's always good having your partner be your friend, but you also need friends of your own.
2006-09-26 09:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by spanishqueen39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's really into the relationship he should be spending more time with you. That's why you moved in together, right? And how come he made friends so fast in a new city when he made you believe that he is shy/reserved? If he can't give you the answer you want to hear, then it's time to make some tough decisions. The earlier the better. Good luck!
2006-09-26 09:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got faith you will come again mutually yet with the intention to take action which you would be able to supply her it sluggish to relax down and assemble herself. She is in all probability purely very harm by ability of your strikes and words and desires time to forgive. Wait a pair weeks, yet do no longer attempt to touch her. If she hasn't tried to touch you after that then do something severe high quality, deliver her vegetation. a severe high quality gesture, something candy. that is going to soften her coronary heart I assure and she or he will forgive you. I choose you the excellent and need that each thing seems properly, yet interior the propose time, attempt to no longer think of approximately it. placed it out of your suggestions, and communicate approximately something else. she will come around yet do what I instructed you. i've got faith which will paintings super.
2016-10-18 00:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by gaidos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl trust is a very important thing and giving is what keeps a relationship going.doubt breaks a well built bond.be good to him and be true to yourself
2006-09-26 13:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by crab_on_da_prowl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do business with relationship. follow social rules. u should either marry him or leave him. stay with parants. u cannnot go inur direction.that lead under tension. depression. respect elders. read scriptures. follw dhrama. stick to one person. . then retain confidence. changing persons is not ideal in indian society. u got to face reality. ask god and ur heart. ur answer is there.
2006-09-26 09:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just chill out, rethink things. I wouldn't try and look for an instant decision.
2006-09-26 09:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about it, not yourself, and not strangers on Y!A. You don't know until you ask.
2006-09-26 09:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships break up sometimes .. thats life .. realising u don't really know some1 ... thats life.
Paranoid girls ... that definitely life.
2006-09-26 09:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too vague honey. I can't figure out what your issue is with him. Do you know what it is yourself?
2006-09-26 09:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should just end the relationship.
2006-09-26 09:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋