well my gf and i had xxx and now she is pregnant. she is 1 month and her mom noticed and is asking about it and told my parents. i am ready to kill myself. what should i do?
2006-09-26 09:02:06 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Be responsible for what you've done together.Show your parents you are mature and just.. be mature!!!
2006-09-26 09:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lady G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm. It may seem like the end of the world but it's not. The parents are blaming themselves right now ("How did we fail them?"; "What did we do wrong?") and your girlfriend is experiencing a lot of stress and is feeling unbelievably vulnerable so no matter how you're feeling you need to be heroically considerate, sensitive and kind to her, at least until the baby is born. You need to be strong - both for yourself and for her. Be there for her and only her for these nine months and you both will come out of this unscarred and able to make the sensible decisions that need to be made after the baby's born. It feels scary but if you can put yourself and any selfish interests that you have on the shelf for awhile, you'll both get through this and you can both have great lives whether you decide to marry or not.
2006-09-26 09:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without assuming whether or not you used protection, some advice. First of all, killing yourself will solve nothing, and on top of that it will leave your girlfriend without a boyfriend and your child without a daddy. That is just selfish. In life, everyone makes mistakes- it's how you deal with them that distinguishes you from every other screw up. So you need to step up and take care of what you and your girlfriend have done together. Don't look at this as something to kill yourself over; this could be a monumental chance to change yourself, or turn your life around.
If she is pregnant, the first thing you guys need to do is go to planned parenthood and get pre-natal care, or abortion counseling if that is the route you plan on taking. I don't know how old you are, but that will surely have a part in deciding your plan of action. Regardless, you two need professional help in one form or another. Check out www.plannedparenthood.com and you can read up on information and even find local clinics near you. As far as your parents go, well it's not their business, really. Maybe they will be nice and help you out, maybe they won't and you'll have to make your decisions and take care of your responsibilities on your own. At any rate, the decision to step up to the plate and take care of the baby you and your girlfriend created together is yours. I recommend you two stick together in this as much as possible.
2006-09-26 09:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Smashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...pregnancy is a natural result of sex and you're not the first guy to get his GF pregnant. Also, she's just as much to "blame" as you, because it takes two to make a baby.
MILIIONS of kids or otherwise not ready people have babies, or abortions (what ever she decides) and it's not the end of their lives, so just relax.
Killing yourself is never the answer. Get some help in the real world.
2006-09-26 09:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax! This must be your first baby. You're feeling panicked right now, but everything will be okay, you'll see. Don't kill yourself. You'll miss out on all the great wonderful miracles that you can't even imagine right now! Babies are so great--you'll see! Your folks will be upset at first, but they'll calm down, and pretty soon they'll be supporting you in ways you never thought of. Take a deep breath, go drink some water. Breath again. It's going to be okay. I promise. Babies are the best!
2006-09-26 09:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are in a difficult situation. But I can't believe how many people on here are dealing with unexpected pregnancies. Don't they teach you anything about birth control or do you just not listen??
Anyway, all you can do is stand up and take responsibility in whatever way that is required. Presumably it will be up to your girlfriend and her family to decide what to do about the pregnancy. Just do what you have to do to share the burden of the situation & don't try to run away. You have to face up to the fact that you had a lot to do with it...
If you are not ready to start a family with your girlfriend, and if she doesn't feel she can raise a child at this time of her life, please mention to her that there are thousands of couples out there who are unable to give birth and praying for a child, and at least consider adoption as a possibility.
2006-09-26 09:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ready to kill yourself? For what? Having sex without protection? you need to face reality and step up and be a man, you need to help her out she's probably not happy about it either. You need to be there for her and not let her down. This is your baby too! Welcome to life your a father! If your so bumed about it learn to use protection of don't have sex at all! And to people who think that the mother hasn't really noticed yet, it's possible. They normally know when their daughter should start their period and most people have morning sickness by their 3rd week.
2006-09-26 09:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mother noticed she was pregnant at 1 month? wow. That is pretty damn ignorant to take yourself out of your baby's life and that of your girlfriend just because you cant take the heat. Do you have any clue what she is going through also? Come on buck up and be a man. If you were man enough to stick your dick in her you damn well better be man enough to face the consequences!
2006-09-26 09:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother killing yourself. These things always work out. It all seems overwhelming right now because everything is going so fast and blowing your mind. You feel panicked because of what will happen and the reactions of your parents (and hers). It will be an enourmous shock for everyone and that's when they will be least sympathetic to you. Stick it out and wait for things to get better. Life always gets better, you just have to wait sometimes.
P.S. If you killed yourself, what situation would your girlfriend be in?
2006-09-26 09:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sonnenrad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family how u feel and your girlfriend, dont kill yourself, if u don't want the baby u need to sit down and tell someone to sort your head out. I have 3 children and when i found i was pregnant the last time (he is 8 months now) i didn't want to have him, but couldn't go through with it and am glad that he is here now, so please tell your family and your girlfriends they will help.
2006-09-26 09:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its kinda hard that her mother noticed already, usually people dont show for a few months. Are you sure she is only 1 month? Dont kill yourself there are options and next time use some protection. Good luck!!!!
2006-09-26 09:04:21 · answer #11 · answered by Qua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋